Going no screens on a vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm used to talking to my son on the phone just about every day. His wife told us when she and my son were over the other day that they plan on being screen free for the entirety of their vacation the next 2 weeks because they want to spend that time being completely focused on each other as a couple.

My son's wife told us that they will let the families know when they safely land and then after that no phones. Two weeks seems like a long time not to be able to have any contact with my son. Does this seem reasonable to you? Is this my DIL's way of asserting dominance and letting me know I'm calling too much? [twitter]

Give him space. Two weeks go fast. Are you afraid she’s gonna go crazy on him or something?

Being off screens and phones is a dream.

I'm the OP. What? Why would your first thought be that I would think his wife would go crazy on him? What do you mean by that?

[Anonymous]

Totally reasonable.

~~mom of son & daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are calling too much. It is unreasonable to expect to talk to your adult son during his vacation with his wife. Talking once a week to an adult child is more normal—maybe 2-3 times a week. The frequency you mention is more normal for middle aged kids with elderly parents where the kids want to make sure mom has not fallen down and feels bad she is bored and has no life. It’s nice you have a close relationship with your son. Maybe call him during the work day so you’re not stealing time from his wife?

I'm 60 years old and I work and I'm completely able bodied. I just don't like the idea of going from 100 to zero of talking to my son just about everyday to going 2 weeks. He will alone with his wife alone everyday for 2 weeks. Surely me calling my son for 5-10 minutes out of the 24 hours in a day can't interfere that much with his time with his wife.

You need to let go. This may be her excerting dominance but bothering your son on vacation with his wife is not healthy. Your son needs to establish boundaries.i

I don't even see how it's exerting dominance. She didn't say just MIL isn't allowed to call but everyone else can. She was fair and said it applies to both families so I'm assuming it's applying to her parents as well. At least that's how I read the OP.

[Anonymous]

I'm calling troll. No MIL can be this time deaf and get this upset over a screen free vacation her son is taking with his wife. He isn't meeting some random that he never met before. It's his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm used to talking to my son on the phone just about every day. His wife told us when she and my son were over the other day that they plan on being screen free for the entirety of their vacation the next 2 weeks because they want to spend that time being completely focused on each other as a couple.

My son's wife told us that they will let the families know when they safely land and then after that no phones. Two weeks seems like a long time not to be able to have any contact with my son. Does this seem reasonable to you? Is this my DIL's way of asserting dominance and letting me know I'm calling too much? [twitter]

It seems weird that his wife told you this rule, not him. What’s wrong with your son that he can’t speak for himself?

Most likely OP doesn't take the hint. So DIL is getting her attention. Interesting OP views this as DIL asserting her dominance when they both want OP to back off. Sounds completely reasonable to me.

[Anonymous]

You'll live OP. May be good for you to cut the chord a little.

[Anonymous]

I have a son in his mid 20’s. He doesn’t want to think about me when he’s on vacation with a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm used to talking to my son on the phone just about every day. His wife told us when she and my son were over the other day that they plan on being screen free for the entirety of their vacation the next 2 weeks because they want to spend that time being completely focused on each other as a couple.

My son's wife told us that they will let the families know when they safely land and then after that no phones. Two weeks seems like a long time not to be able to have any contact with my son. Does this seem reasonable to you? Is this my DIL's way of asserting dominance and letting me know I'm calling too much? [twitter]

It seems weird that his wife told you this rule, not him. What’s wrong with your son that he can’t speak for himself?

Most likely OP doesn't take the hint. So DIL is getting her attention. Interesting OP views this as DIL asserting her dominance when they both want OP to back off. Sounds completely reasonable to me.

When OP pulled out the old reliable she is trying to assert her dominance line that's what really made me think OP must be a troll. Surely only MILs this insane only exist on movies and TV but then again I'm sure they are out there IRL.

[Anonymous]

Why does it say "twitter" at the bottom of your post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does it say "twitter" at the bottom of your post?

I'm honestly not sure

[Anonymous]

Is it weird that it bothered me a little that my son's wife was the one to set the boundary? I just feel a little more at ease if it came from him. I am not trying to be an overbearing mom or MIL and I understand his wife is important to him but as his mom there should be a little room for me alsom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it weird that it bothered me a little that my son's wife was the one to set the boundary? I just feel a little more at ease if it came from him. I am not trying to be an overbearing mom or MIL and I understand his wife is important to him but as his mom there should be a little room for me alsom

You sound needy and crazy, OP.

[Anonymous]

Pretend he’s at summer camp for two weeks. They also don’t allow phones. They tell you you can write a letter and pack it with him.

[Anonymous]

It seems pretty clear to me he cheated and was texting OW and thus the unusual protocol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm used to talking to my son on the phone just about every day. His wife told us when she and my son were over the other day that they plan on being screen free for the entirety of their vacation the next 2 weeks because they want to spend that time being completely focused on each other as a couple.

My son's wife told us that they will let the families know when they safely land and then after that no phones. Two weeks seems like a long time not to be able to have any contact with my son. Does this seem reasonable to you? Is this my DIL's way of asserting dominance and letting me know I'm calling too much? [twitter]

Give him space. Two weeks go fast. Are you afraid she’s gonna go crazy on him or something?

Being off screens and phones is a dream.

I'm the OP. What? Why would your first thought be that I would think his wife would go crazy on him? What do you mean by that?

OP, just that your mind went there shows you are insane. You are too enmeshed and controlling. I say this kindly but STOP.

Just stop.