attractive workers and your DH

[Anonymous]

I'm not having drinks one on one with an attractive woman. The risk of a harassment claim is too high, as is the risk of DW complaining. It's not like in 2021 attractive women have trouble advancing in their careers, I could see that having been a problem in decades past.

[Anonymous]

He's in IT in the 25-years he's been working there have been very, very few women and the few there haven't been attractive. Meanwhile, I'm a female in STEM so my job situation is different than his. I'm the minority gender, not the majority (or only),

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not having drinks one on one with an attractive woman. The risk of a harassment claim is too high, as is the risk of DW complaining. It's not like in 2021 attractive women have trouble advancing in their careers, I could see that having been a problem in decades past.

So you'd be ok with having drinks with an "unattractive" woman? Because they would be less likely to lodge a harassment claim? Because your wife wouldn't be jealous? And women aren't still facing obstacles to advancing their career regardless of how they look?

Do you even hear yourself??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We changed insurance and needed all new doctors. In the new system, you view a page of photos of doctors and select one, then select the appointment you want. DH asked me how I made my choice for primary care physician, and I said I chose a female doctor who appeared to be at least my age or older. He said, "Oh, I just picked the hottest one."

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so prostate exams can be enjoyable? What is the point of picking an attractive PCP?

[Anonymous]

My DH is an adult who is capable of making his own decisions about these things. I am not going to micromanage his professional relationships with doctors or colleagues and I wouldn't want him doing that to me.

Men and women are completely capable of having professional, non-sexual interactions.

[Anonymous]

You are crazy OP. I trust my husband. He can work with/use any healthcare provider he likes. LOL that OP thinks her husband is that hot or special that he can’t use female healthcare providers.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have a say because I’ve never thought about it because I trust him. He is a CEO and both his CFO and head of investor relations are attractive and divorced and all three often travel together for investor meetings. They are all too smart to ever want to blow up their careers by getting involved and my husbands “needs” are well taken care of at home.

[Anonymous]

Um no. If I didn’t trust my husband that would be a huge problem, and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While my wife doesn't get a say in who my company hires to work for me (obviously), she does not want me to have dinner or drinks with my female subordinates. I think it's petty but it's not worth the fight. So I do lunch with the women (in groups only) and drinks with the men.

And this is why women have trouble advancing in the workplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While my wife doesn't get a say in who my company hires to work for me (obviously), she does not want me to have dinner or drinks with my female subordinates. I think it's petty but it's not worth the fight. So I do lunch with the women (in groups only) and drinks with the men.

And this is why women have trouble advancing in the workplace.

Don’t blame it on the men who have gotten very gun shy due to #metoo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not having drinks one on one with an attractive woman. The risk of a harassment claim is too high, as is the risk of DW complaining. It's not like in 2021 attractive women have trouble advancing in their careers, I could see that having been a problem in decades past.

Where are your stats on false sexual harassment claims? If you read the literature, there do remain (yes, in 2021!) significant challenges to women and workplace advancement due to issues specifically related to the attitude you outline here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While my wife doesn't get a say in who my company hires to work for me (obviously), she does not want me to have dinner or drinks with my female subordinates. I think it's petty but it's not worth the fight. So I do lunch with the women (in groups only) and drinks with the men.

And this is why women have trouble advancing in the workplace.

Don’t blame it on the men who have gotten very gun shy due to #metoo.

If they’re not sexually harassing anyone, I’m not clear why they’d be gun shy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the butt ugly desperate low self esteem ones that you have to worry about, you know men affair down.

Lol, this is the most often repeated fantasy on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

My DH doesn't do 1:1 socializing with subordinates, only in a group. But that is more because he has too many direct reports to equitably spend time outside of work with them while balancing family obligations.

He spends some time 1:1 with an attractive woman who is a senior executive at his company and I am not bothered or threatened by it. I think she's bada$$, and I love her style. Sometimes I join them for dinner.

[Anonymous]

My husband briefly ran a company where the women in the office were generally gorgeous - a legacy of the former CEO who was fired. I was never worried about him but I was happy when he took a new job where that wasn’t the case. Also, years ago we had a very attractive nanny for about three years and while I did a good deal of business traveling I was never worried about “them”. She was a fantastic nanny!