Teen Mom OG

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an adoptive mom my heart bleeds for Caitlyn and tyler. I don't have any good answers. Yes, giving up Carly probably destroyed her. Yes, if they raised Carly she probably wouldn't have the quality of life she has with her adoptive parents. I also don't think they are good parents to Nova so it's hard for me to think they would have been better parents 8 years ago. I think they had terriblely traumatic childhoods and their DNA had so much addictive tendencies that they never had much of a chance. Even when you give people tools (in this case the tool is money) it doesn't mean they know how to build.

I am curious as to why you think they are not good parents to Nova?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope they stay together. They are my favorite couple. Cate was a hot mess, but she’s been through a lot. She’s so lucky she’s got Tyler. I adore him.

After watching the most recent episode, he appears to be completely checked out of the marriage. I think the "30 day separation" will end in divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope they stay together. They are my favorite couple. Cate was a hot mess, but she’s been through a lot. She’s so lucky she’s got Tyler. I adore him.

After watching the most recent episode, he appears to be completely checked out of the marriage. I think the "30 day separation" will end in divorce.

Sadly I somewhat agree with you. Tyler in the past few years has been really vocally about Cate and her needing to change. Last night watching him kind of lashing out at her for expressing how she feels about the separation and would like to get a move on it (so to speak) was not nice at all when he was just telling his mother if Cate has something to say then she should speak up about it. In that moment I felt so bad for her. No wonder she tends not to tell him things that bother her.

[Anonymous]

I either can't remember from when it was first discussed or can't tell - who is keeping Nova full time when separated?

My opinions is that in no way should it have to be Tyler, he's done the full time solo parenting thing already a few times, but on the other hand, I don't think Catelynn can do it. She can't think about anyone but herself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an adoptive mom my heart bleeds for Caitlyn and tyler. I don't have any good answers. Yes, giving up Carly probably destroyed her. Yes, if they raised Carly she probably wouldn't have the quality of life she has with her adoptive parents. I also don't think they are good parents to Nova so it's hard for me to think they would have been better parents 8 years ago. I think they had terriblely traumatic childhoods and their DNA had so much addictive tendencies that they never had much of a chance. Even when you give people tools (in this case the tool is money) it doesn't mean they know how to build.

I am curious as to why you think they are not good parents to Nova?

You don’t see how they aren’t good parents to Nova?

The instability of a mother who is constantly in and out of out-of-state treatment facilities and now a trial separation, where they will probably move back in together, pretend all is fine, and do it all over again when/if the mood strikes again.

A mother who is always high. Or sleeping. Or crying. Or complaining.

A clearly unsatisfied father. Unsatisfied parents in general.

Kids sense discord. Kids need routine and stability in their lives. Catelynn should have gotten her shit together before she introduced yet another child into their crazy world. Tyler should have fished or cut bait before he got Catelynn pregnant. Those poor kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone watch this week's episode?

I've never seen Tyler behave so bitterly. I can't see how he'll be able to turn it around (his attitude towards Caitlyn) during their separation. He is so done. Otherwise, why wouldn't he just take a long vacation? Talking to his mom, he describes the problem mostly as wanting "his turn" for the same type of self care Caitlyn got at her many rehab facilities. I mean, I don't think marriages should require that type of extensive me-time, but in this case, I think Tyler deserves it.

However, I noticed that Tyler is really the one with all the power in the planning and execution of the separation. So, why is he dragging his feet? He says the house isn't ready, but why would he need to be ready for a porch to be done in order to live in the house? Or why not move into a hotel? Maybe he doesn't actually want to leave.

Bristol: I actually do feel sorry for her. Essentially, the counselor advises her (and Dakota expects her) to avoid his triggers. That's DIFFICULT when everything triggers him. Sadly for both of them, due to his PTSD, she is supposed to allow him to emotionally abuse her so that he doesn't get triggered. And Dakota has poor insight at this time. Hopefully, he'll heal in time.

[Anonymous]

*pp here. I bumbled my words. I meant to ask why the porch would need to be completed in order for him to move in. It seems like an excuse to not separate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone watch this week's episode?

Bristol: I actually do feel sorry for her. Essentially, the counselor advises her (and Dakota expects her) to avoid his triggers. That's DIFFICULT when everything triggers him. Sadly for both of them, due to his PTSD, she is supposed to allow him to emotionally abuse her so that he doesn't get triggered. And Dakota has poor insight at this time. Hopefully, he'll heal in time.

I feel really badly for Dakota. I feel like he's super broken and can't even help acting like a d$*(, but she does seem to push his buttons whether intentionally or not, I can't quite tell.

Agree it's better for them to be apart but it's an overall crummy situation for those kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone watch this week's episode?

Bristol: I actually do feel sorry for her. Essentially, the counselor advises her (and Dakota expects her) to avoid his triggers. That's DIFFICULT when everything triggers him. Sadly for both of them, due to his PTSD, she is supposed to allow him to emotionally abuse her so that he doesn't get triggered. And Dakota has poor insight at this time. Hopefully, he'll heal in time.

I feel really badly for Dakota. I feel like he's super broken and can't even help acting like a d$*(, but she does seem to push his buttons whether intentionally or not, I can't quite tell.

Agree it's better for them to be apart but it's an overall crummy situation for those kids.

It is clear Dakota has ptsd but it is made to look like Bristol sometimes pushes those trigger points. Like after the counselor suggested not discussing finances (can't remember for sure if just not in front of the kids or not) but as soon as Bristol started to discuss them Dakota immediately got annoyed. I would have stopped at that point and readdressed it another time or move onto another lighter subject to let him cool off then try bringing it back up.

I also do not understand why the porch is delaying Tyler moving into the new house.

[Anonymous]

Why is MTV continuing to give Amber and Caitlin a platform to speak publicly anymore? They are both so unwell and need to deal with their mental health in a safe and therapeutic enviroment. There are plenty of former cast mates that would be a better fit for the show if they want to keep 5 girls on the show.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an adoptive mom my heart bleeds for Caitlyn and tyler. I don't have any good answers. Yes, giving up Carly probably destroyed her. Yes, if they raised Carly she probably wouldn't have the quality of life she has with her adoptive parents. I also don't think they are good parents to Nova so it's hard for me to think they would have been better parents 8 years ago. I think they had terriblely traumatic childhoods and their DNA had so much addictive tendencies that they never had much of a chance. Even when you give people tools (in this case the tool is money) it doesn't mean they know how to build.

I am curious as to why you think they are not good parents to Nova?

You don’t see how they aren’t good parents to Nova?

The instability of a mother who is constantly in and out of out-of-state treatment facilities and now a trial separation, where they will probably move back in together, pretend all is fine, and do it all over again when/if the mood strikes again.

A mother who is always high. Or sleeping. Or crying. Or complaining.

A clearly unsatisfied father. Unsatisfied parents in general.

Kids sense discord. Kids need routine and stability in their lives. Catelynn should have gotten her shit together before she introduced yet another child into their crazy world. Tyler should have fished or cut bait before he got Catelynn pregnant. Those poor kids.

You’ve exaggerated quite a bit:

- she isn’t constantly in and out of treatment. For a period of time, she was in and out of treatment - was it two times total?

- she wasn’t sleeping much this season. I also think she handled the impending separation - and wanting to get it started or to know if he thought it would be permanent faced it head on. If she had something to cry about all the time - being pregnant - this would be justified but she handled it well.

Yes, Tyler is frustrated and annoyed and angry but I don’t see him As being an u satisfied father at all.

I’m not saying they are perfect parents but nova is fed, engaged, clothed, clean, spoken to, interacted with, and loved.

[Anonymous]

Catelynn had their new baby—Vaeda Luma. They had said they were going to name her Tezlee but changed their minds (or faked everyone out).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Catelynn had their new baby—Vaeda Luma. They had said they were going to name her Tezlee but changed their minds (or faked everyone out).

I think that’s better than Tezlee but not by much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Catelynn had their new baby—Vaeda Luma. They had said they were going to name her Tezlee but changed their minds (or faked everyone out).

I think that’s better than Tezlee but not by much.

I think Vaeda is exceptionally worse than Tezlee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Catelynn had their new baby—Vaeda Luma. They had said they were going to name her Tezlee but changed their minds (or faked everyone out).

I think that’s better than Tezlee but not by much.

Agree. What the hell is wrong with a few more Jessicas and Samanthas and Lauras in the world? We don't need to be so krE8tive.