Have you ever been called ugly?

[Anonymous]

I first was called “ugly” by both of my parents.

When I was in Fourth Grade, I excitedly told my Mom that I “finally” knew what I wanted to be when I grew up: a flight attendant.

Immediately that dream turned to stone as she immediately responded back, “Flight attendants need to be pretty + smart and sorry you are neither.” 😢

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, by my mom when I was a teenager. Still insecure and I’m 50.

My mom told me that I'd have to work on my brains because my looks wouldn't get me far.

epiphany decades later - discovered Mom's a raging narcissist with no soul

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was voted ugliest girl in 4th grade and ended up modeling as teen and into my 20s. You don't have to accept the labels people give you.

I have a question. Where did some of you go to school that this kind of stuff was allowed in front of teachers. There was an ugliest girl superlative in your yearbook?? Wtf?

It's called recess!

I went to "good" high school here in MoCo. Several boys in my English class openly sexually harassed me. My (female) teacher pretended not to hear or notice and just let it go on. I was a very shy girl from a poor immigrant family and terrified of making waves, so I never stood up for myself. It was a TERRIBLE semester. Teachers won't do crap to help if it means a hassle for them.

not all of us

There was a gang member who sexually harassed the girls and bullied the boys. I pushed him to threaten me b/c I knew what buttons to push. Admin FINALLY removed him from school. We're not all the same.

[Anonymous]

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No, but I thought of myself as ugly for many years.

Same. I believed this for far too long. Looking at my childhood photos makes me sad; I was beautiful.

[Anonymous]

I haven't been called ugly, per se, but I have had racial slurs used against me. They both mean that people find you ugly or worthy of contempt, so same thing in my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I first was called “ugly” by both of my parents.

When I was in Fourth Grade, I excitedly told my Mom that I “finally” knew what I wanted to be when I grew up: a flight attendant.

Immediately that dream turned to stone as she immediately responded back, “Flight attendants need to be pretty + smart and sorry you are neither.” 😢

Damn. Your mother is an a-hole. What was her damage?

[Anonymous]

Once in college I was walking back to my dorm from a party and someone driving by in a car yelled "YOU'RE NOT HOT".

I always kind of wondered if it was someone I knew (or someone who knew me and didnt' like me), or just a stranger who felt compelled to share their opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I first was called “ugly” by both of my parents.

When I was in Fourth Grade, I excitedly told my Mom that I “finally” knew what I wanted to be when I grew up: a flight attendant.

Immediately that dream turned to stone as she immediately responded back, “Flight attendants need to be pretty + smart and sorry you are neither.” 😢

Guess this was a looonnng time ago because I haven’t seen an attractive flight attendant in years!

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for anyone who received comments like this from parents.

This will sound terrible but my Scottish grandfather always called us ugly but we knew it was a joke. Our parents were always telling us how beautiful we were (that is something EVERY child needs and deserves)... so to even it out he'd say we were hideous. We'd arrive on the weekends to their country home and we'd all run across the fields and our grandfather would be gardening or having his tea outside. When we got close he'd get up, do a startled double take and start running AWAY screaming 'don't let them near me- they're hideous!'

My siblings and I still talk about how that could have impacted our self-esteem but we LOVED it when he did that. As kids you realize (or should) that everyone calls you cute, so when someone doesn't, it presents the unique opportunity to choose to either laugh or to care/fret about it. Again, this can only be done when your family has made you feel accepted, safe and secure. I wish everyone had that.

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[Anonymous]

Yes, heard this repeatedly during both elementary and middle school. I was overweight and wore my skinny older sister's hand me downs which didn't help.

Heard it often from my mother as well as fat comments.

[Anonymous]

My mother didn't call me ugly per se, but she did tell me I had a "blue collar" face and didn't fit in with the girls at my private school because of it. She came from a very working class background and I suspect was insecure about it. Also never missed an opportunity to comment on my weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I first was called “ugly” by both of my parents.

When I was in Fourth Grade, I excitedly told my Mom that I “finally” knew what I wanted to be when I grew up: a flight attendant.

Immediately that dream turned to stone as she immediately responded back, “Flight attendants need to be pretty + smart and sorry you are neither.” 😢

Agree that this must've been a long time ago. Flight attendants are usually super average now. Also, smart? It has only ever required a high school diploma lol.

[Anonymous]

My mom has told me I am homely since I was about 10 years old. My dad always told me how cute and beautiful i am. Guess which one I think is a better parent.

[Anonymous]

Some of y'all got mean moms; I only ever heard comments about my physical appearance from teen mean girls.