Have you ever been called ugly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP. All through middle school and the start of high school I was mocked relentlessly for my looks. I wasn't just awkward looking, I was also foreign (new immigrant) and very poor. I was harassed, told I was gross, and called "it".

I grew into my looks around age 15 but am still super insecure and use my appearance as a crutch.

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And I turned out to be pretty and got tons of male attention. Total whiplash. Those words never leave you though. I was also poor in a rich town and grew to my full height in 5th grade, was the first to get my period...being big and awkward was not good. On the bright side, if I had peaked in prettiness in middle school or early high school then I never would have worked my tail off and gone to Harvard

Good for you PP, that is awesome! I also turned out pretty, and took great pleasure in turning down those guys who called me "gross" and "it" and then wanted dates once I had big boobs and a cute face.

I didn't go to Harvard or anything amazing like that, but I'm a CPA at a prestigious firm, and not being one of the "popular" kids got me my best friends, who were not considered "cool" whatsoever but are still my beloved best friends 25 years later!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother would call me fat.

And I knew I was the ugly one in the family, because everyone always commented on my sister's beautiful blue eyes (in an ethnic family, where "whiteness" is praised even though people don't like to admit it).

So while no one every outright called me "ugly" there are many other ways it can be told to a person.

Unfortunately this is very true. People tend to over appreciate beauty and go silent if you’re not. When my son was about 14 he said, mom I know I’m ugly. I said no you’re not and why would you think that? He said cause when I’m with you people will comment on how beautiful you are and then look at me and just walk away. Geez it broke my heart. I said well I’ll start going out without makeup from now on!

[Anonymous]

Once a "friend" read a letter another "friend" had sent to her, that said I was ugly and had no sense of style. It really rocked me to the core. I went through a long phase of being called pretty and have had tons of attention from handsome men (and beautiful women) since then, but I think that comment made a permanent mark on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was called ugly once in my teens/college by other girls and it's made me so insecure. Everyone else has called me pretty but I'm still shook up about two women I knew as a teenager. Wtf.

It depends. What were the circumstances when those girls called you ugly? Were they being serious or were you girls fighting or arguing? Also, if the “everyone “ who calls you pretty are related to you, I’m sorry but those really don’t count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was called ugly once in my teens/college by other girls and it's made me so insecure. Everyone else has called me pretty but I'm still shook up about two women I knew as a teenager. Wtf.

It depends. What were the circumstances when those girls called you ugly? Were they being serious or were you girls fighting or arguing? Also, if the “everyone “ who calls you pretty are related to you, I’m sorry but those really don’t count.

LOL this response started as nice but then got so bitchy so quick.

[Anonymous]

We had a new hire once who was really ugly. But she wore really frilly dresses and bows in her hair etc, and flitted about like she was pretty. All the men hung around her desk. When I mentioned this to a friend, he said, "Her parents did something right."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes lol ten years ago I was in college and dating a guy from my hometown who felt the need to send me screenshots of texts from his receptionist calling me ugly. He then added "But don't worry, you aren't ugly." Cool.

Omg what a jackass he was!

Right? Like he had to know that wouldn't work. Immediately dumped him. And I am not ugly, at least I assume not because I never had difficulty finding other guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was called ugly once in my teens/college by other girls and it's made me so insecure. Everyone else has called me pretty but I'm still shook up about two women I knew as a teenager. Wtf.

It depends. What were the circumstances when those girls called you ugly? Were they being serious or were you girls fighting or arguing? Also, if the “everyone “ who calls you pretty are related to you, I’m sorry but those really don’t count.

LOL this response started as nice but then got so bitchy so quick.

LOL, seriously. what an ugly comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes lol ten years ago I was in college and dating a guy from my hometown who felt the need to send me screenshots of texts from his receptionist calling me ugly. He then added "But don't worry, you aren't ugly." Cool.

Omg what a jackass he was!

Right? Like he had to know that wouldn't work. Immediately dumped him. And I am not ugly, at least I assume not because I never had difficulty finding other guys.

Ugh, what possesses men to say and do things like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a new hire once who was really ugly. But she wore really frilly dresses and bows in her hair etc, and flitted about like she was pretty. All the men hung around her desk. When I mentioned this to a friend, he said, "Her parents did something right."

Frilly dresses and bows? Were you really young and living in Texas?

Also, she was probably pretty and just not your type.

[Anonymous]

Once I was walking on U street and a man said to a woman walking by, a stranger, "You're ugly!" She was stunned. She just stood there, looking so hurt. I wanted to tell her that I knew that man -- he was mentally ill, and had once made a similar, unprovoked comment about my shoes. I wish I had told her that. I'm sure she's still carrying that scar around with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother would call me fat.

And I knew I was the ugly one in the family, because everyone always commented on my sister's beautiful blue eyes (in an ethnic family, where "whiteness" is praised even though people don't like to admit it).

So while no one every outright called me "ugly" there are many other ways it can be told to a person.

Unfortunately this is very true. People tend to over appreciate beauty and go silent if you’re not. When my son was about 14 he said, mom I know I’m ugly. I said no you’re not and why would you think that? He said cause when I’m with you people will comment on how beautiful you are and then look at me and just walk away. Geez it broke my heart. I said well I’ll start going out without makeup from now on!

Nice humblebrag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had a new hire once who was really ugly. But she wore really frilly dresses and bows in her hair etc, and flitted about like she was pretty. All the men hung around her desk. When I mentioned this to a friend, he said, "Her parents did something right."

Frilly dresses and bows? Were you really young and living in Texas?

Also, she was probably pretty and just not your type.

No, not Texas. And yes, frilly dresses and a big bow in her hair. (Bows in hair were a thing for a split second.)

[Anonymous]

A lot but the worst was when I told my 7th grade class that I wanted to be a flight attendant and the teacher (a guy) said “you know you gotta be pretty to be a flight attendant right?” And I just kinda nodded and then the girl behind me said “you know you’re not pretty right?”

It sucked but, looking back at it I wasn’t pretty! It was an awkward seventh grade phase. I think I’m a lot “prettier” now but I also am much more concerned with being an authentic person and accepting who I am no matter how I look. I’d rather be that than pretty.

[Anonymous]

Most people are not pretty, just average.