Have you ever been called ugly?

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah - I was a teacher. Every teacher has at least one super honest, no filter kid who tells them they are ugly.

[Anonymous]

Yes, when I was 11-14. I was awkward looking and my family didn't have money for more than the most basic clothes. Kids are so emotionally immature at that age, so yes, I got called ugly.

[suzu]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think what’s so hard as a woman about being called ugly is that someone is trying to take your power from you when they say that- snivelly teenage boys, narcissistic parents, fratty dudes. Ugh.

It's the original negging. I am no Angelina Jolie but... I've gotten 99% approval on looks from a young age. I've never felt "gorgeous" but my self esteem is intact and I know on some base level I'm not "ugly." And that's a privilege that I recognize. However, yes, there is always some guy who knows this is a sensitive thing for women and may throw that out. I remember this a lot in middle school and when men have dealt with rejection. It is a blatant attempt to take your power and make you feel insecure. I roundly ignored this it was so transparent.

I don't know how to deal with the parent thing. My parents were of the, "oh, your daughter is so pretty!" Them, "that may be, but more importantly she is smart and she is kind!" kind of variety.

wow
my parents said the same thing
grew up in so cali & was not a long legged blonde amazon
when i left for college, i was treated like a little exotic animal in my smallish city

hugs to all of you who endured that abuse