Am I sensitive or was there ill-intent?

[Anonymous]

You’re being too sensitive. It’s a good idea to have on hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

Really it's absurd. Breastfeeding is not easy and having a MIL bring formula does not help. The poster who mentioned "failure to thrive" and infant mortality is using scare tactics to discourage breastfeeding. There are so many doctor appts. with a newborn that it won't get to that point. Obviously if the baby is not growing it is in fact time to switch to formula.

I think you are being a bit ridiculous. MIL could just be gently suggesting that it’s ok to top off with formula. In the beginning my baby would cry and want to be attached to the boob constantly until I gave an ounce of two of formula and then would go right to sleep and knock out for awhile and give me a break. I went on to EBF but formula was a godsend in the early days especially with my second because I still wanted to spend time with my first. Introducing some emergency formula does not equal omg stop breastfeeding now.

I don’t understand this all or nothing mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

Really it's absurd. Breastfeeding is not easy and having a MIL bring formula does not help. The poster who mentioned "failure to thrive" and infant mortality is using scare tactics to discourage breastfeeding. There are so many doctor appts. with a newborn that it won't get to that point. Obviously if the baby is not growing it is in fact time to switch to formula.

I think you are being a bit ridiculous. MIL could just be gently suggesting that it’s ok to top off with formula. In the beginning my baby would cry and want to be attached to the boob constantly until I gave an ounce of two of formula and then would go right to sleep and knock out for awhile and give me a break. I went on to EBF but formula was a godsend in the early days especially with my second because I still wanted to spend time with my first. Introducing some emergency formula does not equal omg stop breastfeeding now.

I don’t understand this all or nothing mentality.

The all or nothing mentality comes from the latching problems. The concern is that if a baby hasn’t gotten BF worked out yet, getting used to a simple flowing possible can lead to the baby giving up on BF.

[Anonymous]

^^ simple flowing bottle possibly can

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

Yeesh. Not thinking OP should be taking advice from anyone who sounds this unstable. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

Yeesh. Not thinking OP should be taking advice from anyone who sounds this unstable. Yikes.

Hi, MIL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

Yeesh. Not thinking OP should be taking advice from anyone who sounds this unstable. Yikes.

Hi, MIL!

Okay, lady, keep digging in. You are making yourself sound more and more insane.

[Anonymous]

Don't you have some formula coupons to clip, MIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

You say the MIL was "disparaging." This is from OP: "she’s been pretty vocal about how she feels BFing isn’t necessary, baby will be fine if I choose to switch to formula, etc"

That is not "disparaging." That is fact. Breastfeeding isn't necessary. The baby will be fine if she switches to formula.

Agree with pp that I don't understand the "all or nothing" "formula must never cross my baby's lips" approach. PP says that a child that is fed from a bottle "may not" want to nurse. I suspect that is all completely anecdotal. And in how many of those anecdotal cases was breastfeeding never going to work, anyway? I have an anecdote: my dc was in the NICU, and was not strong enough to nurse very long in the beginning. So she got lots of expressed milk, as well as formula, from bottles. She also went on to breastfeed like a champ. You've got to do what works for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

You say the MIL was "disparaging." This is from OP: "she’s been pretty vocal about how she feels BFing isn’t necessary, baby will be fine if I choose to switch to formula, etc"

That is not "disparaging." That is fact. Breastfeeding isn't necessary. The baby will be fine if she switches to formula.

Agree with pp that I don't understand the "all or nothing" "formula must never cross my baby's lips" approach. PP says that a child that is fed from a bottle "may not" want to nurse. I suspect that is all completely anecdotal. And in how many of those anecdotal cases was breastfeeding never going to work, anyway? I have an anecdote: my dc was in the NICU, and was not strong enough to nurse very long in the beginning. So she got lots of expressed milk, as well as formula, from bottles. She also went on to breastfeed like a champ. You've got to do what works for you.

MIL has no business being “pretty vocal” about an issue — and clearly a sensitive one, as this thread reflects — in which she has no decision-making authority.

It’s one thing to offer unsolicited advice once; it’s another to be “pretty vocal” about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

You say the MIL was "disparaging." This is from OP: "she’s been pretty vocal about how she feels BFing isn’t necessary, baby will be fine if I choose to switch to formula, etc"

That is not "disparaging." That is fact. Breastfeeding isn't necessary. The baby will be fine if she switches to formula.

Agree with pp that I don't understand the "all or nothing" "formula must never cross my baby's lips" approach. PP says that a child that is fed from a bottle "may not" want to nurse. I suspect that is all completely anecdotal. And in how many of those anecdotal cases was breastfeeding never going to work, anyway? I have an anecdote: my dc was in the NICU, and was not strong enough to nurse very long in the beginning. So she got lots of expressed milk, as well as formula, from bottles. She also went on to breastfeed like a champ. You've got to do what works for you.

You can’t do double-blind research studies on this sort of thing. But the advice of experts (who differ among themselves) is available and a lot more valuable than personal anecdote.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

You say the MIL was "disparaging." This is from OP: "she’s been pretty vocal about how she feels BFing isn’t necessary, baby will be fine if I choose to switch to formula, etc"

That is not "disparaging." That is fact. Breastfeeding isn't necessary. The baby will be fine if she switches to formula.

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It is actually, disparaging. The OP made clear that she wants to breastfeed her baby, and that is her decision. MIL is chirping away and bringing in unasked for formula, as the OP is breastfeeding her child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not being supportive. Op has stated that she wants to breastfeed and mil is disparaging her and bringing unasked for formula into OP" s house.

There are some future nightmare MILs in this thread!

I think the nightmare ones are going to be the rigid ones screeching about how the MIL here is horrible and wrong. A little mental flexibility is a good thing.

The nightmare MIL should have been flexible enough to be supportive of OP's choice to breastfeed her OWN child, but instead-was disparaging and brought in unasked for formula. Guess what? MIL was horrible and wrong, and OP is right to feel as she does!

You say the MIL was "disparaging." This is from OP: "she’s been pretty vocal about how she feels BFing isn’t necessary, baby will be fine if I choose to switch to formula, etc"

That is not "disparaging." That is fact. Breastfeeding isn't necessary. The baby will be fine if she switches to formula.

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It is actually, disparaging. The OP made clear that she wants to breastfeed her baby, and that is her decision. MIL is chirping away and bringing in unasked for formula, as the OP is breastfeeding her child.

It's not. You are too brittle.