Barnard student stabbed to death

[Anonymous]

Re: what to tell your kids- I told mine about the Noonlight app and sent her to college with mace on her keychain.

[Anonymous]

Coming soon to Netflix. The sequel to The Central Park Five: The Morningside Park Three.

[Anonymous]

Legitimate question and I swear that I am absolutely NOT victim blaming but is it true that if you are robbed you shouldn’t ever fight back but hand over your stuff? I’ve never been in this situation (thankfully) and just wondering what you’re supposed to do? Again, absolutely not blaming Tessa, this is a horrible tragedy.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like they need to revamp NSOP to cover safety for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Legitimate question and I swear that I am absolutely NOT victim blaming but is it true that if you are robbed you shouldn’t ever fight back but hand over your stuff? I’ve never been in this situation (thankfully) and just wondering what you’re supposed to do? Again, absolutely not blaming Tessa, this is a horrible tragedy.

Perps randomly shoot and stab compliment mugging victims all the time. And rape, if the opportunity is there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Legitimate question and I swear that I am absolutely NOT victim blaming but is it true that if you are robbed you shouldn’t ever fight back but hand over your stuff? I’ve never been in this situation (thankfully) and just wondering what you’re supposed to do? Again, absolutely not blaming Tessa, this is a horrible tragedy.

I would suspect that since she was outnumbered she probably thinking she was facing something more violet than a robbery.

[Anonymous]

PP, thanks for Noonlight tip.

[Anonymous]

" Legitimate question and I swear that I am absolutely NOT victim blaming but is it true that if you are robbed you shouldn’t ever fight back but hand over your stuff? "

Oh, Dear. No, the robber is NOT entitled to file charges against you for having the unmitigated nerve to put a struggle and maybe even inflict damages. Are criminal-defense lawyers behind that meme?

[Anonymous]

Be aware that mace is illegal in some places. Maybe check before your kid stocks up.

[Anonymous]

Top two comments on reddit/news emphasize it's always been a dangerous park and the University actively conceals this reality from students and families. Wow.

I was mugged in Morningside Park in 1997, during my freshman year at Columbia. It was a VERY bad idea to be there at night back then, and that was my last trip into the park after dark. It's a bummer to see that there's been a relapse.

It has always been bad man. The perception that Morningside park was or is safe is just plain wrong. As a fellow Morningside Heights grad, it falls entirely on the University to inform the students of the dangers rather then perpetuating this myth that it’s a safe place to go to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Legitimate question and I swear that I am absolutely NOT victim blaming but is it true that if you are robbed you shouldn’t ever fight back but hand over your stuff? I’ve never been in this situation (thankfully) and just wondering what you’re supposed to do? Again, absolutely not blaming Tessa, this is a horrible tragedy.

If you’re mugged, absolutely, you should always just hand over your stuff. If you can, say or do something (gently) to remind the mugger that you’re a human being. However, that’s for mugging, which has a practical goal and can be committed by people who are not severely mentally ill. If it’s anything beyond a mugging, fighting is certainly not going to make things worse.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully the university will rethink their messaging and put more money into campus security. They cannot risk another tragedy occurring any time soon. I feel so horrible for her family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is a sophomore at Columbia and has told me that they didn't get any safety information other than "navigate in pairs" at orientation. Apparently, giving the specifics on area safety is left up to the RAs. Then it's not the university saying "x area is bad" but another student "sharing their experiences."

Her freshmen RA is the one who had a floor meeting and told them the places to avoid. DD said her RA told them to treat the area like they were visitors and not get too comfortable. Those who lived in the area found it offensive when students "took over" their spaces and "acted like they belonged" there.

that is an extremely odd way to approach living in NYC ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legitimate question and I swear that I am absolutely NOT victim blaming but is it true that if you are robbed you shouldn’t ever fight back but hand over your stuff? I’ve never been in this situation (thankfully) and just wondering what you’re supposed to do? Again, absolutely not blaming Tessa, this is a horrible tragedy.

I would suspect that since she was outnumbered she probably thinking she was facing something more violet than a robbery.

This. There were at least three perps from what I read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late 30s. I raise children in NYC and work at Columbia. I grew up in another large and significantly less safe city and was robbed in my early 20s.

My second week at work not long ago, I walked through down Morningside Park to Harlem. No one once suggested I avoid it, until yesterday, and all I was struck by that day was its beauty, the steep, man-made stairways descending from the cliff. (The only reason I haven't been back is all those damn stairs, and the description of her going up them after the attack just devastates me.)

As a matter of course, I don't walk through parks in the dark, but this was early dinnertime, prime getting-out-of-work time. It didn't strike me as the craziest thing she could do, just an unbearable tragedy.

really? no alarm bells rang when you smelled all the urine and saw not another soul around?