Help! Baby is three days old and we can’t agree on a name

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Anonymous wrote:Another nickname for Caspian is Casper. And U bbn know it makes everyone think of the friendly ghost but I knew a kid in grade school who was named Casper and he was not made fun of any more than any other name.

I was just talking to my two second graders. There are a number of kids in their grade that have names that seem like they would be prime target contenders. But no one makes fun of the names. At this point I think that there are far fewer people using traditional names and a lot more cultural names , so most everything is normal. My kids said no 9ne makes fun if anyone's name because everyone had normal names, which really isn't true. But they are normal to the kids. When we were young the popular names were 10-20 times more commonly used than the most popular names today. The top 10 names now are about as common as the top 50-100 names were then.

Two things. First, I think second grade is pretty young for teasing. Second, I think teasing is about the person, not the name. Some people are unfortunately more likely to be teased and others are not. If you are subject to teasing, they will find something about you. If not, an odd name is not an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another nickname for Caspian is Casper. And U bbn know it makes everyone think of the friendly ghost but I knew a kid in grade school who was named Casper and he was not made fun of any more than any other name.

I was just talking to my two second graders. There are a number of kids in their grade that have names that seem like they would be prime target contenders. But no one makes fun of the names. At this point I think that there are far fewer people using traditional names and a lot more cultural names , so most everything is normal. My kids said no 9ne makes fun if anyone's name because everyone had normal names, which really isn't true. But they are normal to the kids. When we were young the popular names were 10-20 times more commonly used than the most popular names today. The top 10 names now are about as common as the top 50-100 names were then.

Two things. First, I think second grade is pretty young for teasing. Second, I think teasing is about the person, not the name. Some people are unfortunately more likely to be teased and others are not. If you are subject to teasing, they will find something about you. If not, an odd name is not an issue.

Second grade is prime time for kids to make fun of one another. It starts at 3. I’ve found most kids grow out of making fun of names around 11/12z

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Love Orion!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love Orion!!

She already picked a name

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Man, your husband sounds exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another nickname for Caspian is Casper. And U bbn know it makes everyone think of the friendly ghost but I knew a kid in grade school who was named Casper and he was not made fun of any more than any other name.

I was just talking to my two second graders. There are a number of kids in their grade that have names that seem like they would be prime target contenders. But no one makes fun of the names. At this point I think that there are far fewer people using traditional names and a lot more cultural names , so most everything is normal. My kids said no 9ne makes fun if anyone's name because everyone had normal names, which really isn't true. But they are normal to the kids. When we were young the popular names were 10-20 times more commonly used than the most popular names today. The top 10 names now are about as common as the top 50-100 names were then.

Not OP but we came very close to naming our son Caspar. We chose something else bc we were afraid of him getting mocked as Casper the Friendly Ghost (particularly bc we are rather pale in skin tone...). But, in retrospect, this doesn’t seem like it would have been an issue. There are lots of kids in DS’s elementary classes with non-traditional names and no one seems to get mocked for their name. Other things, yes. But not the name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We ended up finding a name we both agree on and then started fighting about middle names. I’m exhausted so our kid now has three names. Oh well.

Caspian “Ian” Michael Odysseus

Looking forward to the day my kid googled his name and finds this. I hope he’s thankful.

Glad you finally agreed on a name. Have to say, it’s not horrible. However I do feel bad for your kid when he goes to fill out any forms.

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Anonymous wrote:Another nickname for Caspian is Casper. And U bbn know it makes everyone think of the friendly ghost but I knew a kid in grade school who was named Casper and he was not made fun of any more than any other name.

I was just talking to my two second graders. There are a number of kids in their grade that have names that seem like they would be prime target contenders. But no one makes fun of the names. At this point I think that there are far fewer people using traditional names and a lot more cultural names , so most everything is normal. My kids said no 9ne makes fun if anyone's name because everyone had normal names, which really isn't true. But they are normal to the kids. When we were young the popular names were 10-20 times more commonly used than the most popular names today. The top 10 names now are about as common as the top 50-100 names were then.

Not OP but we came very close to naming our son Caspar. We chose something else bc we were afraid of him getting mocked as Casper the Friendly Ghost (particularly bc we are rather pale in skin tone...). But, in retrospect, this doesn’t seem like it would have been an issue. There are lots of kids in DS’s elementary classes with non-traditional names and no one seems to get mocked for their name. Other things, yes. But not the name.

My 4yo knows a 5yo named Caspar. He’s adorable. My 4yo knows about the ghost but I cannot imagine this really being an issue because she knows her friend so much better. Instead when the ghost comes up she thinks of her friend. Not vice a versa.

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I knew you’d go with a C name!

I was pulling for Carlisle.

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IF this whole thread is true, I think the name you picked is really awesome. Congrats … enjoy him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another nickname for Caspian is Casper. And U bbn know it makes everyone think of the friendly ghost but I knew a kid in grade school who was named Casper and he was not made fun of any more than any other name.

I was just talking to my two second graders. There are a number of kids in their grade that have names that seem like they would be prime target contenders. But no one makes fun of the names. At this point I think that there are far fewer people using traditional names and a lot more cultural names , so most everything is normal. My kids said no 9ne makes fun if anyone's name because everyone had normal names, which really isn't true. But they are normal to the kids. When we were young the popular names were 10-20 times more commonly used than the most popular names today. The top 10 names now are about as common as the top 50-100 names were then.

Not OP but we came very close to naming our son Caspar. We chose something else bc we were afraid of him getting mocked as Casper the Friendly Ghost (particularly bc we are rather pale in skin tone...). But, in retrospect, this doesn’t seem like it would have been an issue. There are lots of kids in DS’s elementary classes with non-traditional names and no one seems to get mocked for their name. Other things, yes. But not the name.

I spend my weekends listening to parents yell at kids on the soccer field and I can tell you there are a lot of kids running around with names my DH insisted would be horrible choices due to being picked on. I almost fell out my chair when I heard a "Billy".

[Anonymous]

I don't have any advice to offer you on your choices but I just popped in to say that I basically stayed an extra (third) day in the hospital because my husband and I had trouble agreeing on a name. We were so tired! It gets better!

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It was very gratifying to read this today knowing I could skip ahead to see what you chose! I have to say when I read your list I was worried about how you two were ever going to agree (although my policy was always that H had veto rights, but if he wanted free reign on name choice he had to birth the baby). Anyway, what a fun conclusion to see you actually ended up with a great name that reflects both of your tastes! Caspian "Ian" is lovely and I hope he loves his name someday.

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Anonymous wrote:Great compromise OP.

+1. Congrats, OP!