Rejected by moms in a playgroup- feeling hurt

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP hasn't written back because she's embarrassed that that rejector-mommy confronted her here.

OP has indeed written back. OP is the same poster that claimed to know the OP and to have been one of those who rejected her. This has probably been the greatest sock puppetting in the history of DCUM.

So, Ms. Sock Puppet. You've had your fun. Now, I think you owe the DCUM community an apology.

Jeff,

What prompted you to check?

[Anonymous]

LOL. Suckers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh, wow -- OP and 18:03 are the same person? OP -- do you suspect you were left out for the reasons you outlined in 18:03?

Who's to say. At this point she doesn't have a lot of credibility.

And I caught hell a few pages back for suggesting maybe there was more to this story than poor, sweet OP and the mean, mean playgroup mommies...

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:
Jeff,

What prompted you to check?

I hadn't read this thread since the first day it was posted. I went back yesterday and read through it. I just had a hunch that something wasn't right.

Also, let's please not attack the poster. She has apologized and promised not to do it again. There is really nothing more that she can do. Gratuitous slams at her now will not benefit anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP hasn't written back because she's embarrassed that that rejector-mommy confronted her here.

OP has indeed written back. OP is the same poster that claimed to know the OP and to have been one of those who rejected her. This has probably been the greatest sock puppetting in the history of DCUM.

So, Ms. Sock Puppet. You've had your fun. Now, I think you owe the DCUM community an apology.

I LOVE it. That is fantastic.

It's not fantastic. It's rude, annoying, and obnoxious. It makes me not want to write advice for anyone since the threads might be made up or sock puppeted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP hasn't written back because she's embarrassed that that rejector-mommy confronted her here.

OP has indeed written back. OP is the same poster that claimed to know the OP and to have been one of those who rejected her. This has probably been the greatest sock puppetting in the history of DCUM.

So, Ms. Sock Puppet. You've had your fun. Now, I think you owe the DCUM community an apology.

I LOVE it. That is fantastic.

It's not fantastic. It's rude, annoying, and obnoxious. It makes me not want to write advice for anyone since the threads might be made up or sock puppeted.

I was being sarcastic. But if you're looking for actual advice and support, you're better served on the DCUM or DC Metro Mommies mailing lists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a PP who is now working.

I think we're dealing with personality conflicts. Likes attract likes.

Personally, I'd prefer to be around some bitching women who aren't candy-coating their SAH lifestyle. I like people who are brutally honest and yes, tough!

But when I stayed home, I had a hard time finding women who - for lack of a better word - appealed to me. And I began to wonder if perhaps I had made the right decision b/c so many of these SAHMs seemed deliriously happy being soccer moms, volunteering endless hours at their child's school, and talking about baby milestones. If I cracked open a bottle of wine during a play date (afternoon, I'll clarify), I received some odd looks. On the flip side, my working pals would bring over a bottle! And we'd gab and bitch, have a glass of wine, and munch on cheese crackers.

So maybe there are the more cynical types - the "tough" ones - who have a harder time fitting into these groups b/c baby milestones and lunch duty aren't on their daily agenda!

This kind of thing has been common on this thread -- people who think SAHMs are kind of dimwits and slow. And that they're not "edgy" and "cynical" (as one PP put it). Some of SAHMs are. Just because we talk about baby milestones and volunteering at schools doesn't mean that those are the only sides to our personalities.

I am the "edgy, cynical" PP.

Respond to this: Why did the conversations revolve around these topics? If I brought up other topics, they were ignored. So why not take this opportunity to share these other sides?

FWIW, I never used the words, dimwits and slow." That was your incorrect interpretation. But when I only see the "mother" side, what do you want me to make of it?

I am sorry to be brutally honest, but milestones and volunteer duties bore me. But does that mean that I don't love my children or take pride in their milestones? pure nonsense! But I suspect that most people who inquire about these topics are only being polite, as I doubt most care about my daughter's late teething or the fact that my son walked at 15 months. really - Who cares?

I make friends for me - not for my children, as they are quite capable of making their own friends. I can guarantee that by stepping out of mommy role from time to time you'll have a grand old time at the next play date!

Bring on the wine and cheese, ladies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And, I think I know now why you were excluded from the group!

ding ding ding!

Op, I get that you were looking for diff ways to view this, but there were way better ways to just ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP hasn't written back because she's embarrassed that that rejector-mommy confronted her here.

OP has indeed written back. OP is the same poster that claimed to know the OP and to have been one of those who rejected her. This has probably been the greatest sock puppetting in the history of DCUM.

So, Ms. Sock Puppet. You've had your fun. Now, I think you owe the DCUM community an apology.

I LOVE it. That is fantastic.

It's not fantastic. It's rude, annoying, and obnoxious. It makes me not want to write advice for anyone since the threads might be made up or sock puppeted.

I'm a NP, and I DO think it's fantastic. If you're really annoyed about the sock-puppeting, maybe you need to reassess how much time and energy you put into an internet message board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP hasn't written back because she's embarrassed that that rejector-mommy confronted her here.

OP has indeed written back. OP is the same poster that claimed to know the OP and to have been one of those who rejected her. This has probably been the greatest sock puppetting in the history of DCUM.

So, Ms. Sock Puppet. You've had your fun. Now, I think you owe the DCUM community an apology.

I LOVE it. That is fantastic.

It's not fantastic. It's rude, annoying, and obnoxious. It makes me not want to write advice for anyone since the threads might be made up or sock puppeted.

I'm a NP, and I DO think it's fantastic. If you're really annoyed about the sock-puppeting, maybe you need to reassess how much time and energy you put into an internet message board.

Yes, this.

[Anonymous]

OP doesn't need a playgroup, she is a group unto herself (aka Sybil), lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP hasn't written back because she's embarrassed that that rejector-mommy confronted her here.

OP has indeed written back. OP is the same poster that claimed to know the OP and to have been one of those who rejected her. This has probably been the greatest sock puppetting in the history of DCUM.

So, Ms. Sock Puppet. You've had your fun. Now, I think you owe the DCUM community an apology.

I LOVE it. That is fantastic.

It's not fantastic. It's rude, annoying, and obnoxious. It makes me not want to write advice for anyone since the threads might be made up or sock puppeted.

I'm a NP, and I DO think it's fantastic. If you're really annoyed about the sock-puppeting, maybe you need to reassess how much time and energy you put into an internet message board.

Good point. And I'm one of the pathetic people who got sucked in and posted very passionate comments. I feel pretty stupid. Nice job, OP.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Jeff,

What prompted you to check?

I hadn't read this thread since the first day it was posted. I went back yesterday and read through it. I just had a hunch that something wasn't right.

Also, let's please not attack the poster. She has apologized and promised not to do it again. There is really nothing more that she can do. Gratuitous slams at her now will not benefit anyone.

I won't attack the OP. But I will say that I feel really deceived. I did feel really badly for you OP -- to the point that I even told DH about your story.

[Anonymous]

What on earth have I missed out on?
with my first baby, I was too busy and just not into the playgroup kind of scene.
With my second kid, I had a 6 year old, too old for me to comfortable join these groups and take her with too.

I think I have been spared.

[Anonymous]

is it possible that OP does in fact have the problem that she initially wrote about and then she just wrote the fake reply to rev things up?

ps--adams morgan mom here. i knew this couldn't be adams morgan! nobody has ever acted like that that i've encountered in 4 years of mommyhood here.