How many men have you slept with?

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Gross.

[Anonymous]

8 or 9. Met dh at 27.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at the amount of "one only" people.

Me, too--and I'm one of them! Dh and I were both each other's firsts in college.

They either met their spouses very young or very physically unattractive (not meaning to be rude but I know some couples like this) or very shy.

Why? Literally everyone I know who has slept with one person fits one of the three categories.

NP- I think the opposite is true. The unattractive, chunky women always have higher numbers. It's a self-esteem thing or daddy issues. The really attractive, undamaged women aren't sleeping around.

Agreed. Beautiful women don't sleep around, in my experience

I think both unattractive and unattractive women sleep around. Actually, I know both attractive and unattractive women sleep around.

Right, we're talking about BEAUTIFUL women, not merely attractive.

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Some beautiful women sleep around, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Gah, gross.

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Grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:Gross.

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Your high horse is what's truly gross.

[Anonymous]

Serial monogamist older gen x'er here. Somewhere between 20 and 25. Last three were post-divorce. I got married at 29, was engaged for much of college, did a few stupid things before that and in high school. A few casual things in grad school before meeting XH at 27.

As far as looks, it has taken me until after my divorce to really come into my own skin. Before I wanted to be known for my intellect and not what I looked like. My ex ran my looks and how I dressed down all the time, so I had some self-esteem work to do. I've finally come to accept that I am beautiful. My current boyfriend, who is himself very handsome and almost half my age, says I am the most beautiful woman he's ever met in real life. So, if you take his word for it, beautiful women can have high numbers, too, depending on how old they are and when they settled down and how long they were married. I was married for 18 years before we separated. I don't consider myself someone who sleeps around. My last relationship before my current one lasted over a year.

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Anonymous wrote:Serial monogamist older gen x'er here. Somewhere between 20 and 25. Last three were post-divorce. I got married at 29, was engaged for much of college, did a few stupid things before that and in high school. A few casual things in grad school before meeting XH at 27.

As far as looks, it has taken me until after my divorce to really come into my own skin. Before I wanted to be known for my intellect and not what I looked like. My ex ran my looks and how I dressed down all the time, so I had some self-esteem work to do. I've finally come to accept that I am beautiful. My current boyfriend, who is himself very handsome and almost half my age, says I am the most beautiful woman he's ever met in real life. So, if you take his word for it, beautiful women can have high numbers, too, depending on how old they are and when they settled down and how long they were married. I was married for 18 years before we separated. I don't consider myself someone who sleeps around. My last relationship before my current one lasted over a year.

You go girl! From a 28 year old woman, you are an inspiration. Love it. Good for you!

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Anonymous wrote:Half of my partners were women. Am I not supposed to count them?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at the amount of "one only" people.

Me, too--and I'm one of them! Dh and I were both each other's firsts in college.

They either met their spouses very young or very physically unattractive (not meaning to be rude but I know some couples like this) or very shy.

Why? Literally everyone I know who has slept with one person fits one of the three categories.

NP- I think the opposite is true. The unattractive, chunky women always have higher numbers. It's a self-esteem thing or daddy issues. The really attractive, undamaged women aren't sleeping around.

Agreed. Beautiful women don't sleep around, in my experience

Ha! The idea that beautiful women are generally undamaged is the biggest crock of shit I've heard in a long time.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here, about 30. Seems pretty typical, according to previous posts.

So you're a man who sleeps with men? If not, your post has no place here.

[Anonymous]

Im an attractive woman (let's say a solid 8) who has slept with about 35 men. (I mention attractiveness only because someone above suggested that only ugly women have high numbers lol).

Met my DH at 26.

I just love sex, today and in the past. I value monogamy and my DH is amazing, but I had a good time before I met him and I don't regret it whatsoever.

Contrary to the popular stereotype, I also didn't "settle" for my DH after a bunch of random sex with non-committal guys.

DH was simply the first person I met who I was insanely attracted to AND wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

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I am beautiful and it is something around 20. I can't remember them all. I got married at 29 and am 34 now.

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Anonymous wrote:Serial monogamist older gen x'er here. Somewhere between 20 and 25. Last three were post-divorce. I got married at 29, was engaged for much of college, did a few stupid things before that and in high school. A few casual things in grad school before meeting XH at 27.

As far as looks, it has taken me until after my divorce to really come into my own skin. Before I wanted to be known for my intellect and not what I looked like. My ex ran my looks and how I dressed down all the time, so I had some self-esteem work to do. I've finally come to accept that I am beautiful. My current boyfriend, who is himself very handsome and almost half my age, says I am the most beautiful woman he's ever met in real life. So, if you take his word for it, beautiful women can have high numbers, too, depending on how old they are and when they settled down and how long they were married. I was married for 18 years before we separated. I don't consider myself someone who sleeps around. My last relationship before my current one lasted over a year.

You go girl! From a 28 year old woman, you are an inspiration. Love it. Good for you!

Thanks. Hope you are a quicker study than me on self-love and self-acceptance. My one piece of advice: don't marry him if you aren't skipping down the aisle crazy in love. Yes, real life isn't like the movies, but don't talk yourself into something because you "are being grown up." Good luck on the beautiful journey to you, my sister!

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6.

2 were one-two night stands I could have done without, but they weren't the worst. Best get THAT out of my system early.
1 was a boy I dated for a summer and I could have done without.
1 was a man I was really in love with but it ended.
1 was my husband.
1 was an affair with a married man.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at the amount of "one only" people.

Me, too--and I'm one of them! Dh and I were both each other's firsts in college.

They either met their spouses very young or very physically unattractive (not meaning to be rude but I know some couples like this) or very shy.

Why? Literally everyone I know who has slept with one person fits one of the three categories.

NP- I think the opposite is true. The unattractive, chunky women always have higher numbers. It's a self-esteem thing or daddy issues. The really attractive, undamaged women aren't sleeping around.

Agreed. Beautiful women don't sleep around, in my experience

I think both unattractive and unattractive women sleep around. Actually, I know both attractive and unattractive women sleep around.

Right, we're talking about BEAUTIFUL women, not merely attractive.

Oh right! Like Angelina Jolie? Amber Heard? January Jones? Miranda Kerr? Jennifer Lopez? Yes, pure as snow!