Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

[Anonymous]

You guys know doing this is illegal? Right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

Pick up baby in car seat, put in snap and go, go inside. Really not that hard. We have all done it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can 100% predict OP's next step. She will bring her iPhone to record the next instance of "bad Mom" leaving her kid in the car for 2 minutes. She will then call CPS and/or the cops and submit her video as evidence, saying she's just concerned for the kid.

The vast majority of people here are saying that she should tell the center (ours would take that seriously) not the cops or CPS. Former makes sense. Latter is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys know doing this is illegal? Right?

If you think this child would be better served by his parents having to fight a pointless and wasteful citation, by all means, call the cops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

Pick up baby in car seat, put in snap and go, go inside. Really not that hard. We have all done it.

Yes we have. And it didn't take a Village to figure it out, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys know doing this is illegal? Right?

It's ONLY illegal in Maryland. NOT in DC or Virginia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can 100% predict OP's next step. She will bring her iPhone to record the next instance of "bad Mom" leaving her kid in the car for 2 minutes. She will then call CPS and/or the cops and submit her video as evidence, saying she's just concerned for the kid.

The vast majority of people here are saying that she should tell the center (ours would take that seriously) not the cops or CPS. Former makes sense. Latter is insane.

I think the vast majority are saying that she should butt out. The child isn't being harmed. If the Op must say something, say something vague to the director so that she can put out a reminder about the parking lot rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

If a woman I didn't know was like "hey let me stand by your car!" I'm just trying to think of being in her shoes-ok-I'd be:
1) hesitant to accept bc I wouldn't want to inconvenience her for thirty seconds -let alone two plus minutes.
2) kind of annoyed that she was implying with her offer that I was being unsafe
3) kind of creeped out that she was watching me-I don't know her.

[Anonymous]

From a legal perspective, and I don't know the law precisely, you' d have to define what "alone" means. Was she alone? Or was she supervised at all times by a parent, albeit out of line of sight. She was no further from her child than I am from mine right now who is sleeping upstairs. She just happened to be in a running car.

We have thrown common sense out the window in this thread (and this country). Parents don't get to make parenting choices any more. We don't get to let our kids walk to the park anymore. It's insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From a legal perspective, and I don't know the law precisely, you' d have to define what "alone" means. Was she alone? Or was she supervised at all times by a parent, albeit out of line of sight. She was no further from her child than I am from mine right now who is sleeping upstairs. She just happened to be in a running car.

We have thrown common sense out the window in this thread (and this country). Parents don't get to make parenting choices any more. We don't get to let our kids walk to the park anymore. It's insane.

They need to be under 24/7 surveillance from birth until age 24 or they are not "safe".

[Anonymous]

OP,

You are really and truly being a bad person. She is leaving a sleeping baby in an air conditioned and likely locked car for TWO MINUTES while she runs into the childcare center. The risk she is taking is extremely minimal -- much much smaller than the risk she is taking by driving to daycare at all. What is likely to happen if she can't leave the sleeping baby in the car for TWO minutes is that the kid's nap schedule is going to be a wreck, the baby's going to cry a bunch and make the mom tired and frustrated and a worse parent. Enforcing safety rules is not a competition, OP, and you will get no reward for being the most stringent. MYOB. This is not remotely the same thing as finding a baby in a car alone while the mom is in the mall or something. Not even close.

[Anonymous]

OP I don't suggest you help the woman, you should just find some business of your own to mind, but know there is more than one poster who thinks you are a complete ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

You are really and truly being a bad person. She is leaving a sleeping baby in an air conditioned and likely locked car for TWO MINUTES while she runs into the childcare center. The risk she is taking is extremely minimal -- much much smaller than the risk she is taking by driving to daycare at all. What is likely to happen if she can't leave the sleeping baby in the car for TWO minutes is that the kid's nap schedule is going to be a wreck, the baby's going to cry a bunch and make the mom tired and frustrated and a worse parent. Enforcing safety rules is not a competition, OP, and you will get no reward for being the most stringent. MYOB. This is not remotely the same thing as finding a baby in a car alone while the mom is in the mall or something. Not even close.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

Pick up baby in car seat, put in snap and go, go inside. Really not that hard. We have all done it.

Ours has several flights of stairs. So while I agree w/your general premise, I have to be the pain in the ass to point out why that wouldn't work at our center.

Maybe the mom in question has a convertible car seat though, now that I think about it. While I find sleeping-baby-in-bucket to be worth the extra investment in getting infant seat for the first year + convertible seat thereafter, not everyone can afford that luxury.