DC gained 5+ lbs last week at sleep away camp

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I have an 11 year old boy. He is 75 pounds and 4 1/2 feet. I was told he was perfectly average but he looks really thin to me compared to his friends. Most of his friends are a lot heavier. He eats a lot but he swims year round and his dad is tall and thin

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You keep a scale in your house?

Was the poor kid a hungry beanpole before he left? Maybe he's actually his normal size now that he should be.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an 11 year old boy. He is 75 pounds and 4 1/2 feet. I was told he was perfectly average but he looks really thin to me compared to his friends. Most of his friends are a lot heavier. He eats a lot but he swims year round and his dad is tall and thin

Is that too me? I only knew that because he just had a physical for camp.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the posters who claim chicken wings are a good source of fat and protein . No wonder so many kids are obese.

Fitness pro here. There's nothing wrong with chicken wings if you prepare them in a non-fast food way, that is to say, not deep fried in unhealthy oils and covered in salt/sugar or chemical flavorings. You can also make a perfectly healthy blue cheese dressing. They're just chicken.

Are you one of those people still believing fat is bad for you?

I think she's one of those people who believe food is bad for you.

LOL Bitches strike again. No, I am "one of those people" who thinks fat is not only necessary for health but also one of the things that makes life worth living. i love food, all kinds of it. I also think it's asinine to call chicken wings a good source of protein or fat. They're almost all skin and bones, so not a good source of protein, and they're fried in oils meant to withstand multiple fryings all day long and likely rancid long before it's thrown out. Let's be real here, folks. I eat more than my fair share of poison, but let's be honest about chicken wings. Poor choice for a protein, poor choice for fat.

I wouldn't call wings a "good" source of protein and fat, but they are still better than other options. Way better than any candy he might eat. I doubt they were fried at a camp.

So "better than candy" is what you consider healthy? And you're giving the OP advice?

I never said it was "healthy". Why are you being so argumentative? It just makes you sound like a bitch.

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OP, you do realize boys fluctuate in weigh all the time. They eat a ton, gain weight, and have a growth spurt. Puberty enhances that.

I have 4 kids and have never weighed them and at their pediatrician appointments, I don't even care.

You continue down this path, he will have a severe eating disorder. Would you do this if your child was a girl? Do you know how little self esteem pre-teens and teens have? SUPPORT him. Stop tearing him down. If he exercises each day, let him be.

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Anonymous wrote:OP back. Yes I'm the field trip/$18 lunch mom. Maybe I so have control issues but I do love him very much and want the best for him. He's ten weighs 116 lbs about two weeks ago, today he's well over 122.

The 'unlimited ice cream' camp is a great camp and I'm not gonna ban it just because the ice cream.

He is 10 and weighs 122 lbs! My 11 year old weighs half that. Where is he on the growth chart?

Your 11 yo is teeny tiny.

My 10 yo son is 5'4 and about 125 pounds, and healthy. There is a huge range of normal at this age.

That is HUGE. Surely you realize that, right? The fact that your DS is massive has absolutely nothing to do with "normal" size and weight.

Seriously, he's the size of an adult.....

Not PP, but there is a large range of normal. The 5'4" kid is not his adult size even though there are adults that size. The 61 pound 11 year old is small. There are 6 year olds that weigh 60 pounds and they are not ovetweight. Is that 11 year old on the growth chart?

I think you are confusing "normal" with "healthy." Normal means, the norm. It is not the norm to be the size of a small adult at the age of 10, even though it may be healthy for that particular ten year old. See? That makes it sort of irrelevant to say, "Hey, my 10 year old is even bigger, so that must mean OP is overreacting." Seriously, I have not seen a 10 year old that size yet.

You must not be around many 4th-5th grade boys then.

My ten year old is under/around sixty lbs and he is TINY compared to his classmates.

Most of the other boys his age are around eight to twelve inches taller than him and weigh aroun 100 lbs +/-.

Quite frankly, the only boys his age close in height and weight to him are a few of the asian kids, some of the hispanic kids (height only, weight is heavier) and white kids on adhd medication that suppresses appetite. All the other (healthy active) boys are around 100 lbs at ten/eleven.

I have boys and i"m around boys on a regular basis. A ten year old who weighs 125 pounds is LARGE. Admit it.

I googled average weight of a 10 year old boy: Boys tend to weigh about 68 pounds (31kg) on average; normal range is anything from 57 to 100 pounds.

Is that for boys who are exactly 10 years old? Because many kids grow a lot between their 10th birthday & their 11th so the average may be significantly higher for 10-year-old boys who are closer to their 11th birthday than their 10th.

Anyway, there is no way of knowing whether a 10-year-old boy who weighs 125 lbs is overweight or not without knowing his height & his build. He definitely weighs more than most boys his age (even if he is almost 11) but may or may not weigh more than is healthy for HIM. My DD, for instance, just turned 9 & only weighs 46 lbs. For most girls her age, that would a dangerously low weight. For her, however, it is a perfectly healthy weight; she's just built like me: a bit short & very thin but still very healthy. Meanwhile, my niece is the same age, weighs a good 35 lbs more but is not overweight ; she's just built like HER mom: a bit tall with a bigger-than-average frame but still very healthy. Neither my DD's pediatrician nor my niece's is concerned about her weight.

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Did OP ever state how tall her son was?

Did OP ever mention if the pediatrician was concerned about his weight?

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What does your pediatrician say? And where does he fall on height and on the curves? Is he quickly jumping percentiles or is he on the same one as always. And where on the height to weigh ratio?

Were those eights on different scales? My ped's scale and my home scale are definitely off by several pounds from each other. But if that's the same scale, that much change in a short time is concerning. Has he seen an endocrinologist?

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It could be just water weight. It's humid, DC could be eating more salt than usual, etc.

If the camp is active, that could actually contribute to water weight gain (swelling in the muscles when you first start a sport after being more sedentary, perfectly normal).

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Guessing OP hasn't chimed in again because her poor kid went to the bathroom and she weighed him after (probably immediately after - skulking outside with a scale) and hopefully realized that she's a crazy person.

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If he was MORE active at camp than he normally is and enjoyed the sports and games and you've been trying to get him to be more active, PLEASE don't harp on his weight or food. Instead, talk to him about the sports and activities he LIKED and focus on the positive and think about ways to encourage him to participate in those or keep in touch with camp friends for the rest of the summer.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he gained weight?

Real question?

Are you clinically obese, and forgot a few basic things?

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Anonymous wrote:The PP with the kid who is in the 5th percentile lecturing the OP is hilarious. If your kid is teeny tiny, of course other kids are going to look/sound huge to you.

I volunteer at my son's school every week, and there's a rising 3rd grade girl who is exactly my height. There are kids in the same grade that look like kindergartners. They are all healthy and fine. Newsflash - people come in different sizes. This is particularly true someplace like the US, where folks come from all over, so people from tall ethnic groups are in the same classes as those from groups where it is typical for adults to top out at 5'3.

But, back to OP. OP has demonstrated that she has unrealistic expectations for her son's eating habits (10 chicken wings isn't THAT much, nor is $18 at a food court as a special occasion).

Basically, the food court letter let us know how tightly you control his eating at home and how much you worry about him eating like his peers. The camp letter is the natural outcome of what we learned in the food court letter - which is that this is not a kid who has learned to make healthy choices by having a variety of foods (including sub-optimal ones) available to him.

Get help, OP. You need to talk to someone about your own anxieties and how they are playing out on your son.

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Posts and questions like OP's are all about context.

Here's OP's earlier thread about her son's $18 food court lunch.

OP's language and tone speak for themselves:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/565992.page

OP, please get help. You don't have to live like this. You also owe it to your son to address your anxiety and control issues before they impact him further.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he gained weight?

Real question?

Are you clinically obese, and forgot a few basic things?

Not PP but I'm guessing she was trying to figure out if OP weighed her kid or not. It's not normal to weigh your kid as soon as they get back from camp. Poor kid.

Why are you being such a bitch about it? Forgot a few basic things about being a nice person?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he gained weight?

Real question?

Are you clinically obese, and forgot a few basic things?

Not PP but I'm guessing she was trying to figure out if OP weighed her kid or not. It's not normal to weigh your kid as soon as they get back from camp. Poor kid.

Why are you being such a bitch about it? Forgot a few basic things about being a nice person?

Can I get an Amen!

That is what this whole thread is about.