Wondering if DW is part of some kind of fight club...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did the warrior dash with a big group of friends. None of us trained and it wasn't exactly a competitive event. It was more like a "get really muddy and messy and then drink tons of beer" type of event. It was absolutely not worthy of weekly training sessions.

Yes, I questioned this as well. From my understanding, the class she is in is for beginners or people who have not worked out in a while. DW hasn't really worked out in nearly 5 years since the kids, and she has knee problems. Also, everyone who is in her class is not all going to be doing the warrior dash. Some are doing other races/events. The gym has a website and has positive reviews online, so I am confident in these facts. Or I should say, I am confident she's is not going out every week to "nail" her trainer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another vote for the PI. I don't see how you are going to be able to follow her without her knowing. (Unless you day job is a secret agent.)
Also agree to maybe wait a bit, as your recent queries might have them on guard.

I don't believe I need a P.I. I simply want to see where she goes after her class ends. I realized recently that I can track her phone via google. Problem is that I can't pin point the exact address using that feature online alone. I need to go to the location to see the exact address. Still doesn't tell me what she us doing, but at least I have more information to work off of.

[Anonymous]

Op isn't she going to recognize your car? To be close enough to trail her, you are going to have to be pretty close.
I'm not sure that is going to work unless you drive a blue Honda and plan to wear a wig and hat or something.

[Anonymous]

ARe you seeing results of her training other than bruises. Is she eating more? Healthier? Loosing weight? Getting more muscle definition?

I'm bothered by the gut not trusting her. You called to check with the instructor? Is she 12? Are you her dad?

Seems off to me.

[Anonymous]

The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a friend that could follow her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

You are bragging about how trusting and awesome your relationship is but if he stopped by your class you would immediately "rip him a new one?" Classy phrasing, btw.
I'm not so sure your relationship is as great as you think of that would be your immediate response.
Eek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

Give me a break. I'm not sure what is going on here, but for her to take 6 hours to go to a class that doesn't even make sense (like others, I've done this type of event - it's not a train-worthy thing) and come back all bruised and battered at midnight is beyond weird. Both my husband and I work out hardcore and I've never heard of situations like what OP is describing at a class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:



Give me a break. I'm not sure what is going on here, but for her to take 6 hours to go to a class that doesn't even make sense (like others, I've done this type of event - it's not a train-worthy thing) and come back all bruised and battered at midnight is beyond weird. Both my husband and I work out hardcore and I've never heard of situations like what OP is describing at a class.

So just because her class isn't just like yours, she must be lying? Maybe you're not as hardcore as she is

She already explained to him: she hangs out with friends after her class. I don't understand how this is so incomprehensible. Men grab beers after playing a sport all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

Oh stop it. If this was a man coming home after midnight during his "workout" night and supposedly drinking with friends, you'd probably tell his DW that she has every right to follow him in an attempt to confirm her suspicions.

The double standards here are so obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Roller derby will bruise you up pretty badly, but why hide that?

in pretty specific places, I disagree that OP's description matches with roller derby because I play. thighs and butts bruised to hell but not our knuckles- we wear protective gear there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are bragging about how trusting and awesome your relationship is but if he stopped by your class you would immediately "rip him a new one?" Classy phrasing, btw.
I'm not so sure your relationship is as great as you think of that would be your immediate response.
Eek.

If my husband said, "Hey, hon, why don't I meet you after your class and we'll go get dinner" I would be delighted for him to meet me at my studio. If he showed up in the middle of the class and tried to enter the classroom to ascertain my attendance, I would be very annoyed (or scared that someone had died), because I'd have to stop my workout to see what was up. And if his response to "why are you here" is that he wanted to verify that I was actually in class, because he was suspicious that I was lying and actually doing something else, then I would gently sculpt a new rectum for him (since you didn't like my initial phrasing). I've never given him a moment's cause for distrust, so I wouldn't appreciate being spied upon at all, and I would make that very clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Oh stop it. If this was a man coming home after midnight during his "workout" night and supposedly drinking with friends, you'd probably tell his DW that she has every right to follow him in an attempt to confirm her suspicions.

The double standards here are so obvious.

Nope. I'd think she was a paranoid loon, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are bragging about how trusting and awesome your relationship is but if he stopped by your class you would immediately "rip him a new one?" Classy phrasing, btw.
I'm not so sure your relationship is as great as you think of that would be your immediate response.
Eek.

If my husband said, "Hey, hon, why don't I meet you after your class and we'll go get dinner" I would be delighted for him to meet me at my studio. If he showed up in the middle of the class and tried to enter the classroom to ascertain my attendance, I would be very annoyed (or scared that someone had died), because I'd have to stop my workout to see what was up. And if his response to "why are you here" is that he wanted to verify that I was actually in class, because he was suspicious that I was lying and actually doing something else, then I would gently sculpt a new rectum for him (since you didn't like my initial phrasing). I've never given him a moment's cause for distrust, so I wouldn't appreciate being spied upon at all, and I would make that very clear.

Haha well sculpting a new rectum is actually much worse, but thank for the mental image blech