God I hate the ex wife

[Anonymous]

School s are fine, water, trash and hot water are included. no, but in case you haven't noticed, we have a drought here. Mom decided to get divorced, choosing the decrease in economic level. She should have considered that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. The PPs who are attacking OP for being petty and cheap are the ones who don't get it. Blended families are hard on everyone -- the kids, the remarried spouse, the ex and the step-parent. Do you people really not understand that plenty of ex-wives pull crap like this on purpose?? Is it really that unreasonable for OP to feel so frustrated and disrespected?? So before you defend the ex and eviscerate OP, have enough sense to realize how difficult these situations can be.

OP - it sounds like you and your husband do a lot for his kids, and that's wonderful. It's not easy being a step-parent -- it's often a thankless job and even if you do just as much as a biological parent, you often don't get the same joys and special moments that come with raising children which can offset the difficult side of parenting. On top of that, you have to deal with an ex, who may be manipulative and difficult, maybe because she's still pissed at your husband over the divorce, or because she doesn't like you or feels threatened by your role in her kids' lives. While I completely understand your frustration with the ex, from a practical standpoint, there may not be much you can do about it short of going back to court to force her to pay up (doubt she would voluntarily pay if you kept a running tab or exchanged receipts) or going to court/mediation to renegotiate the terms of the custody order. That's often more trouble than it's worth, especially if that means the amount of monthly support you currently pay could increase (I have no idea whether it would and won't opine on that). In the end, you may have to accept the fact that the amount you and your husband pay may never be "equal" to what the ex pays. It will probably never feel "fair" to you, even if, in theory, it should be fair. It probably doesn't make you feel better now, but you're doing a good thing by providing so much for the kids and they are the ones most affected by all of this. Hang in there.

She knew he had kids and an ex-wife when she married him. No she doesnt get to complain. It's like buying a used car and being mad it has problems.

Oh please. So no one who has had their spouse divorce them is allowed to have a new marriage? And the new spouse just has to accept everything that is dickish, emotionally abusive, and irresponsible about their spouse's ex? NO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:School s are fine, water, trash and hot water are included. no, but in case you haven't noticed, we have a drought here. Mom decided to get divorced, choosing the decrease in economic level. She should have considered that.

How do you know it was the mother who sought the divorce. You can't make someone stay in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. The PPs who are attacking OP for being petty and cheap are the ones who don't get it. Blended families are hard on everyone -- the kids, the remarried spouse, the ex and the step-parent. Do you people really not understand that plenty of ex-wives pull crap like this on purpose?? Is it really that unreasonable for OP to feel so frustrated and disrespected?? So before you defend the ex and eviscerate OP, have enough sense to realize how difficult these situations can be.

OP - it sounds like you and your husband do a lot for his kids, and that's wonderful. It's not easy being a step-parent -- it's often a thankless job and even if you do just as much as a biological parent, you often don't get the same joys and special moments that come with raising children which can offset the difficult side of parenting. On top of that, you have to deal with an ex, who may be manipulative and difficult, maybe because she's still pissed at your husband over the divorce, or because she doesn't like you or feels threatened by your role in her kids' lives. While I completely understand your frustration with the ex, from a practical standpoint, there may not be much you can do about it short of going back to court to force her to pay up (doubt she would voluntarily pay if you kept a running tab or exchanged receipts) or going to court/mediation to renegotiate the terms of the custody order. That's often more trouble than it's worth, especially if that means the amount of monthly support you currently pay could increase (I have no idea whether it would and won't opine on that). In the end, you may have to accept the fact that the amount you and your husband pay may never be "equal" to what the ex pays. It will probably never feel "fair" to you, even if, in theory, it should be fair. It probably doesn't make you feel better now, but you're doing a good thing by providing so much for the kids and they are the ones most affected by all of this. Hang in there.

She knew he had kids and an ex-wife when she married him. No she doesnt get to complain. It's like buying a used car and being mad it has problems.

Oh please. So no one who has had their spouse divorce them is allowed to have a new marriage? And the new spouse just has to accept everything that is dickish, emotionally abusive, and irresponsible about their spouse's ex? NO.

uh actually yes. She should've foudn soembody with different baggage. She can still leave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:School s are fine, water, trash and hot water are included. no, but in case you haven't noticed, we have a drought here. Mom decided to get divorced, choosing the decrease in economic level. She should have considered that.

Godo for you. This does not exist in DC metro save for really shitty apartments. Everybody pays utilities. For all we know he left her for this complaining chic

[Anonymous]

She cheated on him while he was deployed and asked for a divorce when he got back. The guy she cheated with dumped her though. I met him about 2 yrs after his divorce was final.

Kids live in a nice 4BR house in Houston. Each kid has their own room. Nice yard, good schools, cute dog, neighborhood full of kids, community pool. The house cost her about 175k. I don't know what her mortgage payment is, maybe $1200.

Of course I knew he had kids and an ex. I didn't know that precluded me from posting on DCUM and reading about the experiences and perspectives of others. I didn't realize this forum was only designed for people with perfect lives and no problems who just want to talk about how great their lives are. (well, maybe in the money and finances section LOL!!!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She cheated on him while he was deployed and asked for a divorce when he got back. The guy she cheated with dumped her though. I met him about 2 yrs after his divorce was final.

Kids live in a nice 4BR house in Houston. Each kid has their own room. Nice yard, good schools, cute dog, neighborhood full of kids, community pool. The house cost her about 175k. I don't know what her mortgage payment is, maybe $1200.

Of course I knew he had kids and an ex. I didn't know that precluded me from posting on DCUM and reading about the experiences and perspectives of others. I didn't realize this forum was only designed for people with perfect lives and no problems who just want to talk about how great their lives are. (well, maybe in the money and finances section LOL!!!)

Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She cheated on him while he was deployed and asked for a divorce when he got back. The guy she cheated with dumped her though. I met him about 2 yrs after his divorce was final.

Kids live in a nice 4BR house in Houston. Each kid has their own room. Nice yard, good schools, cute dog, neighborhood full of kids, community pool. The house cost her about 175k. I don't know what her mortgage payment is, maybe $1200.

Of course I knew he had kids and an ex. I didn't know that precluded me from posting on DCUM and reading about the experiences and perspectives of others. I didn't realize this forum was only designed for people with perfect lives and no problems who just want to talk about how great their lives are. (well, maybe in the money and finances section LOL!!!)

Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew.

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[Anonymous]

"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. The PPs who are attacking OP for being petty and cheap are the ones who don't get it. Blended families are hard on everyone -- the kids, the remarried spouse, the ex and the step-parent. Do you people really not understand that plenty of ex-wives pull crap like this on purpose?? Is it really that unreasonable for OP to feel so frustrated and disrespected?? So before you defend the ex and eviscerate OP, have enough sense to realize how difficult these situations can be.

OP - it sounds like you and your husband do a lot for his kids, and that's wonderful. It's not easy being a step-parent -- it's often a thankless job and even if you do just as much as a biological parent, you often don't get the same joys and special moments that come with raising children which can offset the difficult side of parenting. On top of that, you have to deal with an ex, who may be manipulative and difficult, maybe because she's still pissed at your husband over the divorce, or because she doesn't like you or feels threatened by your role in her kids' lives. While I completely understand your frustration with the ex, from a practical standpoint, there may not be much you can do about it short of going back to court to force her to pay up (doubt she would voluntarily pay if you kept a running tab or exchanged receipts) or going to court/mediation to renegotiate the terms of the custody order. That's often more trouble than it's worth, especially if that means the amount of monthly support you currently pay could increase (I have no idea whether it would and won't opine on that). In the end, you may have to accept the fact that the amount you and your husband pay may never be "equal" to what the ex pays. It will probably never feel "fair" to you, even if, in theory, it should be fair. It probably doesn't make you feel better now, but you're doing a good thing by providing so much for the kids and they are the ones most affected by all of this. Hang in there.

She knew he had kids and an ex-wife when she married him. No she doesnt get to complain. It's like buying a used car and being mad it has problems.

Oh please. So no one who has had their spouse divorce them is allowed to have a new marriage? And the new spouse just has to accept everything that is dickish, emotionally abusive, and irresponsible about their spouse's ex? NO.

uh actually yes. She should've foudn soembody with different baggage. She can still leave

Brilliant solution, PP. You obviously view marriage as "for better or worse". As for the used car analogy above, that's just nonsense and a total insult to anyone who's been divorced. Maybe the situation was different when OP got married. Maybe it wasn't as bad as it is now. Even if it was exactly the same, we all have aspects of our lives that might to difficult for our spouse or significant other to deal with, whether we realized that going into the relationship or not. That doesn't mean we can't complain or be frustrated about it, espeically on an internet forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She cheated on him while he was deployed and asked for a divorce when he got back. The guy she cheated with dumped her though. I met him about 2 yrs after his divorce was final.

Kids live in a nice 4BR house in Houston. Each kid has their own room. Nice yard, good schools, cute dog, neighborhood full of kids, community pool. The house cost her about 175k. I don't know what her mortgage payment is, maybe $1200.

Of course I knew he had kids and an ex. I didn't know that precluded me from posting on DCUM and reading about the experiences and perspectives of others. I didn't realize this forum was only designed for people with perfect lives and no problems who just want to talk about how great their lives are. (well, maybe in the money and finances section LOL!!!)

Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew.

I absolutely dislike that the PP called OP a shrew, but it is uncool of OP to be posting so many details of these kids' lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

She could have easily changed the area and many other details. Her story could easily be ours our many others here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

She could have easily changed the area and many other details. Her story could easily be ours our many others here.

But, you know she didn't. She wants to be found out. She wants the fight. She doesn't realize her DH feels guilty about something and that's why he's giving her money all the time probably more than OP knows...

Can't wait until she is found out and the rest of the story comes out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

She could have easily changed the area and many other details. Her story could easily be ours our many others here.

But, you know she didn't. She wants to be found out. She wants the fight. She doesn't realize her DH feels guilty about something and that's why he's giving her money all the time probably more than OP knows...

Can't wait until she is found out and the rest of the story comes out

Or, maybe ex threatens him never to see the kids if he does not pay her random demands or constantly calls and harasses him