God I hate the ex wife

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Anonymous wrote:DH pays regular child support, $500 per kid per month for three kids. The rest of the year she nickel and dimes us for every expense. If DH won't pay half she says "well you can't do x,y,or z bc your dad won't pay." He pays half for all of the expenses for the expensive club sports during the school year, but when he asks her to pay for half their sports camps when we have them on the summer she refuses. She sent the kids up in the summer fresh after a lice infestation and didn't tell us until DSD was itching her scalp uncontrollably and I called her to ask why. She won't pay anything for the lice treatment. She also sent DSD to us with a fungal infection under her arm untreated, bc she doesn't wash their swimsuits regularly. When I called her to get the docs number to get a referral she said to just go to CVS minute clinic and that it was covered. Well it wasn't, and now that the $50 tab was mailed to her houseshe is hounding DH to pay it. She never pays DH back for her half of the plane tix for the kids either. She just says she can't afford it even though her take home pay is now more than his. She is just so cheap and manipulative and uses the kids to extort money from us. I just hate it.

Sounds like my DH's ex. We also paid 100% of college for both kids on top of all the other expenses. I begged DH to force her to help pay or have the kids get partial loans but he said that he was not going to let the kids suffer just because of his ex - which I totally understand . And that if they were still married he would have still paid for all their college instead of forcing them to get loans.

I hope your DH has the college piece figured out because that was a very expensive time in our lives and it will be for you guys as well. My youngest step daughter has one year of college left and then we are DONE! I told DH that if he even for one minute thought about possibly paying for grad school that it was serious deal-breaker for us. and I'm not joking.

Thats pretty shitty. Student loan debt can be crippling for people who've just graduated, and you're seriously not going to let him even THINK about paying for grad school? To screw over the ex? My God. What a terrible excuse for a human being and stepmother.

Not shitty at all. Teach adult children to be self sufficient adults, not entitled leeches. And the ex isn't paying ANYTHING in the PP's case. If the kids got a free ride from dad for undergrad, they can fund their own grad school, work for a few years and save, etc. it has nothing to do with screwing the selfish, greedy ex.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I just read the past few pages and I feel utter contempt for OP.

And I actually agree with the previous posters that you, OP, need some mental help. I can't even imagine feeling resentful and angry and sanctimonious about my husband paying for half of his children's haircuts.

Shudder.

IKR... she is so mindlessly stubborn about refusing to acknowledge the ex's perspective. It's really unbelievable. Mental help would be a good thing for her.

Yup, exactly.

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Uhhh, am I reading a different thread than most or are these bitter exes who are mostly posting? OP doesn't sound horrible or in need of mental help at all. What is wrong with expecting an ex to pay his/her share for joint children? Smh here because there really seem to be some crazy posters here who could use help but it's not the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, am I reading a different thread than most or are these bitter exes who are mostly posting? OP doesn't sound horrible or in need of mental help at all. What is wrong with expecting an ex to pay his/her share for joint children? Smh here because there really seem to be some crazy posters here who could use help but it's not the OP.

We know the moms side and that she is paying her share and the some. We also know it is unlikely she is telling the kids they can't have things because dad didn't do xyz. More like the teens hate wife and are doing what they can to cause friction. But DW is to thick to step back and see the picture. Oh twell.

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OP, you married another woman's husband, what did you expect?

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Anonymous wrote:DH pays regular child support, $500 per kid per month for three kids. The rest of the year she nickel and dimes us for every expense. If DH won't pay half she says "well you can't do x,y,or z bc your dad won't pay." He pays half for all of the expenses for the expensive club sports during the school year, but when he asks her to pay for half their sports camps when we have them on the summer she refuses. She sent the kids up in the summer fresh after a lice infestation and didn't tell us until DSD was itching her scalp uncontrollably and I called her to ask why. She won't pay anything for the lice treatment. She also sent DSD to us with a fungal infection under her arm untreated, bc she doesn't wash their swimsuits regularly. When I called her to get the docs number to get a referral she said to just go to CVS minute clinic and that it was covered. Well it wasn't, and now that the $50 tab was mailed to her houseshe is hounding DH to pay it. She never pays DH back for her half of the plane tix for the kids either. She just says she can't afford it even though her take home pay is now more than his. She is just so cheap and manipulative and uses the kids to extort money from us. I just hate it.

Sounds like my DH's ex. We also paid 100% of college for both kids on top of all the other expenses. I begged DH to force her to help pay or have the kids get partial loans but he said that he was not going to let the kids suffer just because of his ex - which I totally understand . And that if they were still married he would have still paid for all their college instead of forcing them to get loans.

I hope your DH has the college piece figured out because that was a very expensive time in our lives and it will be for you guys as well. My youngest step daughter has one year of college left and then we are DONE! I told DH that if he even for one minute thought about possibly paying for grad school that it was serious deal-breaker for us. and I'm not joking.

Could you husband financial afford to pay for college? If so, I don't understand your angst. I would not want my child crippled with student loan debt if I can afford to pay for it without sacrificing retireement. Students exiting college with little or no debt are financially ahead of the curve in comparison to students exiting with 40K plus in student loans. For some, it will take 10-20 years to pay student debt off. If he coud not and it was a financial burden, I can understand making them obtain student loans.

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Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, am I reading a different thread than most or are these bitter exes who are mostly posting? OP doesn't sound horrible or in need of mental help at all. What is wrong with expecting an ex to pay his/her share for joint children? Smh here because there really seem to be some crazy posters here who could use help but it's not the OP.

I think you are taking everything OP writes as the gospel. Go pick up a quarter and let the rest of us know if you can see two different sides.

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She hates you too

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Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, am I reading a different thread than most or are these bitter exes who are mostly posting? OP doesn't sound horrible or in need of mental help at all. What is wrong with expecting an ex to pay his/her share for joint children? Smh here because there really seem to be some crazy posters here who could use help but it's not the OP.

You do understand mom pays for her portion out if child support. Many orders are inclusive of extras. Dad pays half on top of child support so he is paying for the entire thing.

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Anonymous wrote:She hates you too

And the step kids will hate her too, if they don't already.

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Anonymous wrote:Yup, OP is clearly a person who just wants to her what she wants. She also is the kind of person that enjoys "winning" battles with the ex. Poor kids. Every woman who posts about seeking a divorce should read this thread. This is what your kids wind up with.

BS, you bitches would go nuclear if somebody knowingly send lice infestation into your house.

I think OP is a good person, and she is allowed to gripe. She loves her husband, loves the kids, works hard and does her best to keep shit together. She is better than most of the bitter people here.

Just because single mom has it hard does not mean everybody else has it easy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I am so sorry that the women on here are attacking you. TX is a lot less then DC. 1500 a month is enough. I dated a guy before I got married. His ex sounds like the one you are dealing with. Many women have a hard time believing that a biological mother can do a shitty job of taking care of kids and sliding on her part of the finances. I understand your frustration. I would defiantly document all of it! The not tell you about the lice, the money owed. You could take her to court. Could you take her back for custody? Would the kids rather live with you guys? You sound like a great step mom. I think the kids will probably see the difference between her parenting and yours and know all that you are doing for them. Make sure the money that you are setting aside for college can only be used by them. For the extras like soccer and prom and whatever. I would give the kid the money and say that the money is for half of what they want and that they are to ask her for the other half. "Sue here is $60 for half of soccer, please ask your mom for the other half." This way the kid realizes that its their mom that is actually saying no because she won't pay %50. Good Luck.

Thanks for the laugh. You are honestly suggesting she take her to court over a bottle of lice shampoo? I work in family and let me just say you are the kind of idiotic client we just love. Costing themselves hundreds or more likely thousands of dollars over an issue that costs less than $150. And earnestly believing that the judge will fully take your side and punish the other. Gotta love people who act like they're toddlers who never got taught how to share, and the court system is a kindly kindergarten teacher. Oh, how funny it is to watch these types learn the truth...

No I am not suggesting for a bottle of shampoo. If the mom is NOT taking care of the kids, like not getting them help for lice or a bacterial infection or whatever. What is in the best interest of the kids?? Who has their interest at heart? The bio mom sounds like a deadbeat.

Or maybe the bio mom was inundated with the tasks of being a single mom and noticed lice right before the daughter left (since lice spreads quickly I'm guessing the girl didnt have it long or everyone in the family would have had it), and figured that since they were leaving to be with dad, he could take care of it, which is called.... drumroll please... COPARENTING. No, it is not up to bio mom to do everything, and I guarantee you that the court system wont think that unlike some of the bozos on here.

No excuse. She should put out more than the step mom, if she truly loves her kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you consider it was her first experience with lice and she thought the shampoo would do it?

So you would be ok if somebody send lice to your house?

OP, ignore the haters.

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She knew he had kids and an ex-wife when she married him. No she doesn't get to complain. It's like buying a used car and being mad it has problems.

THIS.

Wow, you two are crass. Is this how you think of people? Used cars?

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Anonymous wrote:She cheated on him while he was deployed and asked for a divorce when he got back. The guy she cheated with dumped her though. I met him about 2 yrs after his divorce was final.

Kids live in a nice 4BR house in Houston. Each kid has their own room. Nice yard, good schools, cute dog, neighborhood full of kids, community pool. The house cost her about 175k. I don't know what her mortgage payment is, maybe $1200.

Of course I knew he had kids and an ex. I didn't know that precluded me from posting on DCUM and reading about the experiences and perspectives of others. I didn't realize this forum was only designed for people with perfect lives and no problems who just want to talk about how great their lives are. (well, maybe in the money and finances section LOL!!!)

Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew.

Are you the ex?