God I hate the ex wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

You sound just like my dad's second wife.
She knew he had three children when they got together, yet it began, all the counting of pennies (e.g., going to the movies money) while knowing that the child support no way matched up with actual reasonable expenses. Fast forward two decades later, not one of us three kids has spoken to dad or that woman since we graduated from college. Looking back, all I think is what a b*tch.

Did your mom cheat on your dad too? If not, your dad is no angel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wtf is all this trashing OP? I don't get it. The ex sounds like a selfish twat who won't chip in when she's supposed to. Why is that ok? Why isn't OP allowed to be frustrated? Sounds like OP is doing her part in trying to be a good step mom.

Btw, I grew up in Houston and $1500 is totally enough for child support as long as ex is working.

Because they are just like the ex, cheated on their spouses, got divorced and now all mad?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Or, maybe ex threatens him never to see the kids if he does not pay her random demands or constantly calls and harasses him"

She does not threaten that he cannot see the kids. In the early years she tried this maybe once or twice but it was an empty threat and she doesn't really want that. She texts constantly and he transfers money constantly. Our bank accounts are linked so I get a message a couple times a weeks notifying me of a transfer to her bank account. The emotional leverage she uses is that she says "you can't have x,y,z bc dad won't pay for it." I think that hurts him deeply that she says this bc he's a good guy, he's not a deadbeat or a bad father or a cheap father. Just another example happend this week, when she texted him and said he owed her $268 to sign up for a sport. He transferred it to her account, and then he got a call from dsd saying mom wouldn't sign her up for the sport bc he didn't pay for half. As it turns out, the amount she wanted him to pay was $286 but she texted it wrong. So, when he sent the wrong amount, she immediately painted him as a rotten dad to dsd and said she hadn't signed up dsd for the sport bc dad hadn't paid his half yet.

Op, we don't like you. You can't sit with us.

THIS! x100000000!

That's ok, I'm sitting with your ex and your kids and they like me better than they like you.

Good for you.

Why do the PPs defend the cheating ex? She broke her family and hurt the kids, not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time marry a man without kids.

You are just being nasty. Everybody is allowed to find love in their not so perfect life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, however strange it may sound, but I think part of your hatred lies in the fact that you are such a great step mom.
I would stop paying for things that are not truly your responsibility. No need for college accounts contributions, salons (even lice treatment ones), or back to school shopping. Just pay for the tix, food, and medical stuff if needed. And yes some gifts. Maybe a camp for each and a mini vacation.
I think you are doing too much, are strained, and all the ex's shit really gets to you because she just takes it for granted.

Hmm, I was actually thinking it was the opposite. If she is doing all of that for the kids because she WANTS to, why all the hate for their mother? So, she pays for it, but she's tallying it up. It seems disingenuous to me.

We've had lice and it's not a big deal. Lice don't live on surfaces, only heads. It only spreads if a pregnant louse jumps to another "clean" head. So, if she took them to the salon, she can wash any sheets they slept on and be done with it (if even that according to my lice lady). Now pinworms....

Hate is a figure of speech. You've never overstated? Are you perfect?

OP sounds sane. The attackers sound unhinged. It is one of the worst threads I've read here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
She knew he had kids and an ex-wife when she married him. No she doesn't get to complain. It's like buying a used car and being mad it has problems.

THIS.

Wow, you two are crass. Is this how you think of people? Used cars?

OP married a lemon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp these are horrible sentiments to take such pleasure in the hypothetical pain of another. Get off this forum and go to therapy!

OP needs to go to therapy for her total lack of compassion to her husband's ex.

Why are you full of compassion to a home wrecking ex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I just read the past few pages and I feel utter contempt for OP.

And I actually agree with the previous posters that you, OP, need some mental help. I can't even imagine feeling resentful and angry and sanctimonious about my husband paying for half of his children's haircuts.

Shudder.

You will do a lot worse than OP, you sanctimonious bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will say this... Just bc I am frustrated about an issue and aired my frustration on an anonymous internet form does not mean the issue affects me to the extent that I need therapy. I just enjoy reading the views of others, positive and negative, and some of them are really funny. But reading some of the profoundly bitter, angry, resentful, mean, and negative responses is actually eye opening. I thought I was just venting about the ex, being seeing some of the hatred and anger you ladies carry does actually give me a glimpse into how the ex must feel. Thank you for showing me your true, honest, angry, and bitter selves- it does give me some context for how the ex feels.

OP, do not wrestle with the pigs. It only makes you feel dirty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you married another woman's husband, what did you expect?

But ex dumped her husband. Did you ignore the cheating part intentionally?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She hates you too

And the step kids will hate her too, if they don't already.

Are all this hate making you happy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

You sound just like my dad's second wife.
She knew he had three children when they got together, yet it began, all the counting of pennies (e.g., going to the movies money) while knowing that the child support no way matched up with actual reasonable expenses. Fast forward two decades later, not one of us three kids has spoken to dad or that woman since we graduated from college. Looking back, all I think is what a b*tch.

Did your mom cheat on your dad too? If not, your dad is no angel.

Dafuck, OP you are horrible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you married another woman's husband, what did you expect?

But ex dumped her husband. Did you ignore the cheating part intentionally?

Does not change the fact pattern. Op should steered clear of the s&$^tshit. But now she's mad it smells

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Next time marry a man without kids.

You are just being nasty. Everybody is allowed to find love in their not so perfect life.

Truth hurts. Take some responsibility for your actions, OP. This is why I don't date single mothers: Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Next time marry a man without kids.

You are just being nasty. Everybody is allowed to find love in their not so perfect life.

Truth hurts. Take some responsibility for your actions, OP. This is why I don't date single mothers: Life is too short.

A prize like you doesnt date single mothers? DAMN! I can just hear the tears of single moms in the DC area as they hit their keyboards.... /s