Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

ALL THESE COMPLAINING ASS WOMEN ON THIS BOARD BETTER WAKE THE HELL UP!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Remember, OP is not hearing this from the wife, but from the husband who is trying to justify his behavior. OP has no idea if any of his claims are true.

No. His wife does not work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Otherwise known as depression.

Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.

Are you the OP? Sounds like you're demonizing the wife. Not really cool, considering you're screwing her husband and taking money away from her household. The least you could do is speak of her in a respectful manner. You have NO IDEA if what this guy is telling you is true. And I'm willing to bet it's not. But that's besides the point. Show the wife some appreciation and respect; she's done nothing wrong to you.

Wasn't OP. But sexual deprivation (which is spousal abuse) would explain why DH is doing this to his wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Otherwise known as depression.

Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.

Are you the OP? Sounds like you're demonizing the wife. Not really cool, considering you're screwing her husband and taking money away from her household. The least you could do is speak of her in a respectful manner. You have NO IDEA if what this guy is telling you is true. And I'm willing to bet it's not. But that's besides the point. Show the wife some appreciation and respect; she's done nothing wrong to you.

Wasn't OP. But sexual deprivation (which is spousal abuse) would explain why DH is doing this to his wife.

Oh, that's alright, then. A very mature way to solve the problem!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, if you aren't a troll, you are seriously the least interesting AMA poster in the history of these boards, OP.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have to be faithful?

Oh good question! We have not talked about that, weirdly. But my guess is it would cause a fracture in our relationship if he knew I was with other men, though he wouldn't feel "cheated on" rather just not as close with me. He knows I bring other men to family weddings and such, which doesn't bother him.

This is the first thing I thought of to ask.

Do you date, or have sex with other men, but hide it from him, or are you 100% faithful?

[Anonymous]

What kind of work does your man do that he can afford you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Uh, sure. Op, all cheating men say that about their wives. It makes the mistress more sympathetic to his situation which makes getting what he wants from his mistress even easier. It also gives the paramour the idea that she has something special going on with the guy.

I've actually known a mistress to get upset because she found out that "her" guy was sleeping with his own wife. The wife thought she was pregnant again.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe no one asked this - IS THE SEX GOOD? :0)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Otherwise known as depression.

Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.

Are you the OP? Sounds like you're demonizing the wife. Not really cool, considering you're screwing her husband and taking money away from her household. The least you could do is speak of her in a respectful manner. You have NO IDEA if what this guy is telling you is true. And I'm willing to bet it's not. But that's besides the point. Show the wife some appreciation and respect; she's done nothing wrong to you.

Wasn't OP. But sexual deprivation (which is spousal abuse) would explain why DH is doing this to his wife.

So your theory is that the man was in a sexless/unsatisfactory relationship and that justifies his affair. You know, the one that he started before marrying his wretched, mentally ill, sex depriving wife and having children with her.

[Anonymous]

OP and her "man" both sound really selfish and immature. OP, maybe someday, you'll marry someone that does this to you. Will that be ok with you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

He could have broken off the engagement and not had two children with his wife. It's not her, it's him, pp.

Every man who cheat says he has a wife who doesn't put out, is "crazy", is too controlling, blah blah blah. It's never about the cheating man who is obviously too selfish, immature and cowardly to either end his unhappy relationship before taking up with another woman OR address his marital issues through therapy, etc. Pathetic.

Incidentally, I don't blame the other woman in these scenarios. Feel sorry for them to some extent since they usually have issues themselves. But they didn't take the vow of marriage, the guys did.

[Anonymous]

Does it bother you, morally? If so, why continue? If not, how do you justify the potential harm you are contributing (especially with young kids involved)? Do you care what your parents would think, if they found out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have enormous college debt or something? Do you not like to date available men? Do you not want to use the degree that you worked hard to earn? Do you have health insurance?

I can't imagine sidelining my own life like that. You are young - you should be building your own life, not performing as this man's plaything.

I have health insurance. While I understand that you can't imagine sidelining your life, I hope you can understand that I don't feel I'm in a race to tick boxes off a checklist of goals.

It's not a matter of checking off boxes and being an over achiever. It's a matter of you allowing this man to support you as long as he is willing to do so and when that supply line runs dry you don't seem to have a lot to fall back on. Your degree is growing staler and staler the longer you stay this guy's dole. You don't have a job. The roof over your head is being paid for by this man...

If he dumps you, what are you going to do? Most attractive guys can get sex for free so don't think that there's a long line of men waiting to take this guy's place.

The fact that he put the moves on you when you were so young and inexperienced tends to suggest that this is not going to last much past 25. 10 to 1 he'll move onto a younger chick. You seem to already understand that he could dump you so that's good. And it's good that you have health insurance.

I appreciate your concern for my well-being post relationship. I keep up with what's going on in my field (interior design) and do a bit of part-time work for a friend in the business. She has asked me to work with her full-time. This is why I'm not worried about getting a job when I need one. All the money I earn from working with her and my other friend with the flower business goes into a savings account. I really will be okay. Maybe I won't get pedicures weekly and will have to stop the personal trainer, but overall, I'm confident I'll be okay.

You are counting on this man to support you now. When/if he dumps you you are counting on your friend to give you a job...

When are you going to start relying on yourself? I'm sorry to sound so harsh but your situation is just so...train wreckish. Working here and there, dabbling a bit is a whole lot different than supporting yourself full time. If you were smart you would start working full time NOW so that you'll have something firmly in place when he decides to pull the rug out from under your feet.

[Anonymous]

OP, please answer these two questions, which you've ignored.

1 - do you acknowledge that you are a prostitute? If so, does it bother you?

2 - you've admitted you don't love the guy. Do you care about ever falling in love yourself? Or is your love of money stronger, since you obviously can't sustain a real relationship while doing what you're doing.