Resentful and annoyed

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you posted what your IB school is, maybe you would find other people who are in your position.

OP has great WL #s at Bridges and Lee. It is very likely that her IB is a decent, if not semi-sought after school. OP sounds like she wanted a top 5 charter and is mad because she got shut out. My bet is her IB is Takoma, Brightwood or Shepherd.

My IB has never - seriously never, I just did a search here - been mentioned on this board.

My apologies, just looked again and it was referenced in 2011 in negative terms, and again in a thread listing dozens of schools with open spots. Suffice to say, it's not at all sought after.

Say the name. This is an anonymous board and I assure you no one at your IB school is reading this 9 page thread.

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The under-40 crowd is shocked; shocked! that more expensive neighborhoods have better schools. Please. It may not be right, but that's how it is EVERYWHERE. Sitting in your Columbia Heights loft and whining about how it's not fair will get you nowhere. Many schools in DC are not very good (neither are many charters past 3rd grade, but that's another discussion). It's unfortunate, but true. And I'm not sure why OP would stick around to get shut out 3 times and then vent about it.

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Anonymous wrote:The under-40 crowd is shocked; shocked! that more expensive neighborhoods have better schools. Please. It may not be right, but that's how it is EVERYWHERE. Sitting in your Columbia Heights loft and whining about how it's not fair will get you nowhere. Many schools in DC are not very good (neither are many charters past 3rd grade, but that's another discussion). It's unfortunate, but true. And I'm not sure why OP would stick around to get shut out 3 times and then vent about it.

For what it's worth, I've been posting on this thread, and I strongly doubt that the OP lives in Columbia Heights. $1200 a month and an elementary school that's never been mentioned on this board?

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You know who is entitled here? It's the people who sit in their big expensive upper NW houses with their great guaranteed inbound schools and weigh up whether to send their kids to LAMB, Mundo Verde, their amazing inbound school or straight to private.

And then they go right on ahead and take that place at LAMB (while boasting that they've just saved $100k in school fees) while the rest of us struggle and know that there are no realistic options other than trying to get our failing IB schools to work for us - if only so that it's improved for those who come after us.

That's the topic that OP raised, which the people in those expensive houses with their overinflated salaries and their multiple options for their overindulged little snowflakes have conveniently overlooked when they berate OP and suggest that SHE is "entitled" because she's unable or unwilling to move and didn't plan where she lived or what her earning potential was based on the prospect that she may (or may not) have children at some point in the future.

Bitter, yes? And with every right.

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PP, I think your imagination has gotten the better of you. Or you're a mind reader. Not.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people who live in good school districts feel like your children are entitled to a better education than others, and tell people to just move? All kids deserve a good education, not just those you live in pricey neighborhoods.

How does this post solve OP's problem? Her kid needs a good school now.

Because she is venting that she is resentful and annoyed, which are valid feelings, and people are beating her up for not living in a pricier neighborhood.

No, people are beating her up because she is refusing any and all suggestions about how to improve her situation, without offering any reasons why, other than to say that her marriage wouldn't survive a one bedroom apartment and that she doesn't want to pay more than $1200 a month to house a family of 4.

$1200 a month in DC is not going to get you a stellar school. I'm surprised it gets you a house that is safe and large enough for 4 people. I understand venting, but her venting comes off as hostile, elitist and mean-spirited.

We don't see eye to eye. You're not getting my point. See, I think every kid deserves to go to a stellar school, no matter how big his parents' mortgage is. So, yeah, it is acceptable to me to want to vent about not having better school options. Her neighborhood school should be better.

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Anonymous wrote:PP, I think your imagination has gotten the better of you. Or you're a mind reader. Not.

Did you read the first post?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people who live in good school districts feel like your children are entitled to a better education than others, and tell people to just move? All kids deserve a good education, not just those you live in pricey neighborhoods.

How does this post solve OP's problem? Her kid needs a good school now.

Because she is venting that she is resentful and annoyed, which are valid feelings, and people are beating her up for not living in a pricier neighborhood.

No, people are beating her up because she is refusing any and all suggestions about how to improve her situation, without offering any reasons why, other than to say that her marriage wouldn't survive a one bedroom apartment and that she doesn't want to pay more than $1200 a month to house a family of 4.

$1200 a month in DC is not going to get you a stellar school. I'm surprised it gets you a house that is safe and large enough for 4 people. I understand venting, but her venting comes off as hostile, elitist and mean-spirited.

We don't see eye to eye. You're not getting my point. See, I think every kid deserves to go to a stellar school, no matter how big his parents' mortgage is. So, yeah, it is acceptable to me to want to vent about not having better school options. Her neighborhood school should be better.

I agree that her neighborhood school should be better. Believe me. My neighborhood school isn't great either, but I understand that there actually ARE other options. I like my neighborhood, but if my child's school was SO BAD and I didn't get her into another school and I couldn't afford to send her to private school, I would absolutely look at moving to another neighborhood.

I am sending my child to a less than stellar neighborhood school, and put as much energy as I have into helping to make it better, despite working full time myself. I didn't whine about not getting into schools that have 700+ people on the waitlist, though, because it was always a long shot to get into those schools. The OP is absolutely prioritizing housing costs and commute length over living in a school district that is of higher quality. I don't know why that's so hard to accept/understand. I'm not saying it's not the right choice for her family. I'm making the exact same choice. I'm just totally cognizant that it IS a choice I'm making. I'm not pretending that I don't have ANY other options.

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I bet her in bound is Brookland Education Campus . If so Op: look at Burroughs, Mary McLeod Bethune, And Langdon.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet her in bound is Brookland Education Campus . If so Op: look at Burroughs, Mary McLeod Bethune, And Langdon.

And Amos 2, which usually has K slots.

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Anonymous wrote:This was me a few years ago. Not the resentment part but the being shut out time and time again part. I also had a townhouse that was bought long long ago and moving wasn't impossible but would of been very difficult to do. So you know what I did? My kid went to a crappy school for K and 1. Its really not the end of the world. There are good teachers everywhere...even in schools that are failing. I dedicated myself to being an active parent, to volunteer, to get to know my teacher, to not write off the school or act above it, and I was honestly a little sad to leave when we did get into a charter. Yes some DCPS are very "bad" but having spent a lot of time in a "bad" school there is good to be found in any situation. Kindergarden isn't rocket science.

Signed by a Mom who's oldest child learned to read and write in a failing DCPS school.

I agree with everything you said except the rocket science part. Go teach a group of 25 kinders for a day. It is hard hard work.

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Anonymous wrote:You know who is entitled here? It's the people who sit in their big expensive upper NW houses with their great guaranteed inbound schools and weigh up whether to send their kids to LAMB, Mundo Verde, their amazing inbound school or straight to private.

And then they go right on ahead and take that place at LAMB (while boasting that they've just saved $100k in school fees) while the rest of us struggle and know that there are no realistic options other than trying to get our failing IB schools to work for us - if only so that it's improved for those who come after us.

That's the topic that OP raised, which the people in those expensive houses with their overinflated salaries and their multiple options for their overindulged little snowflakes have conveniently overlooked when they berate OP and suggest that SHE is "entitled" because she's unable or unwilling to move and didn't plan where she lived or what her earning potential was based on the prospect that she may (or may not) have children at some point in the future.

Bitter, yes? And with every right.

I kind of love this.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I can't move. My housing costs are $1200 a month for a family of 4. Tell me where in the city I could get somewhere to live for that price and a good school? I have lived here since long before I had children so it was not a consideration when I saw single.

People who throw around "can't you move" have no understanding of the reality of normal people who don't have incomes into six figures.

If you have lived there for so long then WHY did you have multiple kids when you didn't have a viable school option the entire time?
Most of us made the housing decisions years ago based on the knowledge that we would have kids someday. We scrimped and saved and bought in areas we didn't want to live in based on our future school needs. AND we only had one child. we didn't have a second because we couldn't afford to.
I kind of feel like you made your bed and now you want to complain about it.

Wow, I kind of feel like you are someone who is without empathy.

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To echo 18:13, it is impossible to know another poster's background, life story, reasons for living where they do, decisionmaking process, etc., based on a limited, anonymous online interaction. And yet this forum is a cacophony of snap judgments, uninformed accusations, and snark. Let's chill the h*** out and remind ourselves that we don't know jack about where other folks are coming from.

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Anonymous wrote:You know who is entitled here? It's the people who sit in their big expensive upper NW houses with their great guaranteed inbound schools and weigh up whether to send their kids to LAMB, Mundo Verde, their amazing inbound school or straight to private.

And then they go right on ahead and take that place at LAMB (while boasting that they've just saved $100k in school fees) while the rest of us struggle and know that there are no realistic options other than trying to get our failing IB schools to work for us - if only so that it's improved for those who come after us.

That's the topic that OP raised, which the people in those expensive houses with their overinflated salaries and their multiple options for their overindulged little snowflakes have conveniently overlooked when they berate OP and suggest that SHE is "entitled" because she's unable or unwilling to move and didn't plan where she lived or what her earning potential was based on the prospect that she may (or may not) have children at some point in the future.

Bitter, yes? And with every right.

I kind of love this.

I think its ridiculous. We're damn lucky to have charter schools. For most of the country, if your IB school is bad, there are no other options but to enroll or move. It is not the mission of charter schools to save students from their parents' short-sighted housing decisions. If someone in Ward 3 desires Mandarin immersion, montessori or expeditionary learning for their child, options not available in their neighborhood school, why should their address prevent them from entering the lottery?