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First sleep over for my daughter, and the mom was drinking wine.
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Anonymous
| This grandmother thought it was ok to drink when babysitting. The daughter thought otherwise. This was the final straw that precipitated the intervention. I bet the grandmother said "I just had one drinky.. what's wrong with that?" |
Anonymous
well at least this thread led me to google "Baron Munchausen" |
Anonymous
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No way to tell how much the adults had to drink since you had to leave OP. Getting to sleepover age and above is really hard especially when you don't really know the other families. Did she have fun?
A friend told me that she bought her son a phone that could only call certain numbers, maybe Dragonfly, when he was 7, before he started going on sleepovers. It could fit in his pocket. They practiced what to do if something happened on a sleepover that made him uncomfortable. About a year after he got the phone he called from the bathroom and asked her to get him. The adults were drinking heavily (not to say that that was the sitch last night) and he was scared by the way that they were acting. His mom waited a few minutes then called to "check in and say goodnight". He said that he felt sick to his stomach, as they had practiced. He got out of a stituation where he wasn't comfortable without losing face with his friend or making the friend uncomfortable. They had met that family at school events and soccer, but you can't always know what goes on in people's houses. They set it up that his parents would call the house rather than him telling the other adults he didn't feel well so there wasn't a chance of them insisting on driving him home if they were impaired. When my kids get to be that age, I plan to do the same and to role play different situations. You don't want them to feel stranded if something off happens. Hope the bday party went well and that it was only a small social drink by the parents. |
Anonymous
| If one drink incapacitates you, you have bigger problems. |
Anonymous
| QUICK POLL: if you're not okay with moms having a glass of wine together, where do your kids go to school? |
Anonymous
I respect that. I do thin k that if you expect other people to also follow this rule, though, you need to confirm it in advace of any sleepovers. Better yet, do not allow your child to go out on sleepovers. |
Anonymous
Wow. My husband and I just had 2 glasses of wine with dinner tonight. We have two kids, ages 6 and 10. Are we somehow negligent? The 10 year old is in the bath as I speak (type). My husband is watching football on TV and explaining the game to the 6 year old. What am I missing... how are we not able to care for our children? I can even type with no (major) mistakes.... |
Anonymous
Thank you. |
Anonymous
| For those of you who think it's fine to have a little wine when you have other children spend the night, can you agree on what's enough? You really don't know how one glass or two might affect someone, for any number of reasons. Do you also think it's okay for someone to smoke a little marijuana? Not enough to get high, you understand, just enough to relax for the evening? |
Anonymous
I thought the point of this thread is that we don't always know how another parent might react or feel after a little wine. Just because you're able to do it doesn't mean everyone can. Pretty naive to think all drinking patterns are the same as yours. |
Anonymous
For me, what's enough is a normal amount of wine with dinner. No to marijuana. That's illegal. |
Anonymous
My thoughts exactly! |
Anonymous
Let's be specific, please. what's a normal amount of with dinner? |
Anonymous
So what you're saying is that all people who say they only had one drink are probably lying?? There are people in both camps and to lump them together is inflamitory. |
Anonymous
Oops--omitted the key word--wine! |