Cliquey parents

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Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

Yea, clearly. That’s why there are never any posts about cliquey moms or cliquey kids. Because nobody can relate, friendships are fluid and changing, there are no cliques 🙄 all the posts about DMV area moms are about how welcoming and friendly and chill they all are and how you guys are all just so happy all the time

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

Yea, clearly. That’s why there are never any posts about cliquey moms or cliquey kids. Because nobody can relate, friendships are fluid and changing, there are no cliques 🙄 all the posts about DMV area moms are about how welcoming and friendly and chill they all are and how you guys are all just so happy all the time

You aren’t describing a clique. You’re describing a loose group of people that aren’t that close with you or each other. It’s out of sight out of mind, not some lock step group.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

Yea, clearly. That’s why there are never any posts about cliquey moms or cliquey kids. Because nobody can relate, friendships are fluid and changing, there are no cliques 🙄 all the posts about DMV area moms are about how welcoming and friendly and chill they all are and how you guys are all just so happy all the time

You aren’t describing a clique. You’re describing a loose group of people that aren’t that close with you or each other. It’s out of sight out of mind, not some lock step group.

You have no idea about how the group I’m describing “operates”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

DP and I can relate. I don't get why you are being so hostile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

Pp here. My oldest is now in high school and driving. His friendships have been 100% his since middle school. We were the get ready house for homecoming and I know enough parents that I was able to get pics from prom. I have hosted countless play dates since my kid was in preschool. Now the teens come hang out at my house.

Some ways to become more involved in the community is scouts, school events, sports and host parties and play dates. Swim team is a big one although my kids didn’t do it long.

[Anonymous]

Scouts is one where parents can be very involved. The parents I know best are from scouts because we spent so many hours together on those overnights. They also seem like nice people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

Yea, clearly. That’s why there are never any posts about cliquey moms or cliquey kids. Because nobody can relate, friendships are fluid and changing, there are no cliques 🙄 all the posts about DMV area moms are about how welcoming and friendly and chill they all are and how you guys are all just so happy all the time

You aren’t describing a clique. You’re describing a loose group of people that aren’t that close with you or each other. It’s out of sight out of mind, not some lock step group.

You have no idea about how the group I’m describing “operates”.

If they let you in they aren’t a clique.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

DP and I can relate. I don't get why you are being so hostile.

Usually when people complain about cliques it’s because they are on the outside desperately wanting in. A group open to members who are in the same activity are not a clique. If the group pointedly left out half the team that would be different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

DP and I can relate. I don't get why you are being so hostile.

Usually when people complain about cliques it’s because they are on the outside desperately wanting in. A group open to members who are in the same activity are not a clique. If the group pointedly left out half the team that would be different.

😂

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive? Obnoxious at our school.

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books.

This person deserves a cookie

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ.

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Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.

DP and I can relate. I don't get why you are being so hostile.

Usually when people complain about cliques it’s because they are on the outside desperately wanting in. A group open to members who are in the same activity are not a clique. If the group pointedly left out half the team that would be different.

I’m pp above that oldest is in high school. My kids have been on teams where some of the kids have known each other since early elementary school, dads took turns coaching teams for their entire childhoods, travel together, carpool, take vacations, etc. Some of these families are on my kid’s team. I may overhear that the moms went on a girls trip or someone had a party. It really doesn’t bother me at all. Their kid came to my kid’s birthday party. They drove my kid home from a game when I needed. I don’t need to be invited to a moms dinner where I don’t even know the moms names.

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I have a kid in high school and one in middle school in a moderately high SES. Both kids do travel sports. The cliques have largely dissipated- parents are now older, busy, and the kids want to orchestdate their own social lives. The cliques were at their worst during the preschool and elementary years. There were a lot of stay at home moms with too much time on their hands- there were moms groups connected to schools and so a lot of people knew each other from when kids were first born. Its also an area where people grew up and returned to raise their kids. It made me feel like being in middle school all over again- to be honest it was terrible. I'm so glad those days are over with...the dynamics felt suffocating. I feel for those who feel excluded from the cliques.