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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are FCPS parents so gatekeeping; cliquey and competitive?  Obnoxious at our school.[/quote]

They are?

I suspect it’s just you.[/quote]

I have 3 kids. 1 is super popular. 1 is normal well liked kid. 1 is well liked introvert. They all have friends. I have very little to do with their friendships.

Sure, my kids may have been invited to a few extra parties in first or second grade because I knew a couple of parents. By mid to upper elementary, parents really don’t matter.

My kid gets invited to try out for teams bc he is good at his sport. My daughter got invited to a book club bc she likes books. [/quote]

This person deserves  a cookie[/quote]

Not sure what your problem is. I am in a million group chats and I hate them. I hated the all class preschool group chats. The so called sport team clique parents are often just organizing meals, coach gifts, carpools, drinks, etc. It isn’t some magical friend group like OP makes it seem. Yes, my kids are friends with most of the teammates. They will go out for lunch or watch some games together. We go if our schedule allows.

I honestly can’t keep track which parents are on or off a group chat. I can’t believe OP is butt hurt about being left out of some group chat that her kid isn’t even a part of the team because she was once in the group text because her kid was on the team. Usually there is a new group text chain on signal or WhatsApp or whatever messaging service one mom decides to start.

My friend’s daughters in dance, gymnastics and cheer seem to have the most drama with these things. Whether it is a birthday or sleepover or simple outing of moms, it seems to create drama of women and girls who feel insecure that they are left out.[/quote]

I have said so many times. That you. Are. Right. This. Is. Exactly. What. I. Have. Been. Saying!!!

I was not “butt hurt”, I was disappointed and sad. I since learned that I was wrong and you were right. They are just silly group chats. They aren’t friendships. I was sharing what I learned. I do not need multiple posters laughing and pointing and telling me I was wrong and naive. That’s LITERALLY the story I am telling- about the time I was wrong and naive. Jesus Christ. [/quote]\

Clearly nobody can really relate to your huge revelation. These friendships are fluid and constantly changing. Which is the exact opposite of a clique.[/quote]

DP and I can relate. I don't get why you are being so hostile.[/quote]

Usually when people complain about cliques it’s because they are on the outside desperately wanting in. A group open to members who are in the same activity are not a clique. If the group pointedly left out half the team that would be different.[/quote]

I’m pp above that oldest is in high school. My kids have been on teams where some of the kids have known each other since early elementary school, dads took turns coaching teams for their entire childhoods, travel together, carpool, take vacations, etc. Some of these families are on my kid’s team. I may overhear that the moms went on a girls trip or someone had a party. It really doesn’t bother me at all. Their kid came to my kid’s birthday party. They drove my kid home from a game when I needed. I don’t need to be invited to a moms dinner where I don’t even know the moms names. [/quote]

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