What do you say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Let’s say instead of a pregnancy, it’s cancer. Are you saying that a 27-year-old with a cancer diagnosis shouldn’t call and talk to his parents?
What if it was a car accident that really shook him up and he just wants to talk. Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about a car accident?
What if his girlfriend died? Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about his girlfriend dying?
I guess the only thing we should talk to our parents about after we are 22 is the weather and what we’re eating at Thanksgiving.

Well a baby isn't death, cancer or a car accident. This decision should be between parents of the baby, unless parents are minors, clinically incompetent or financially dependent.

You are wrong, you know you're wrong, why youre still continuing this idiotic tridate I have no idea. Adults talk to their parents about all sorts of things. That's all this way. Buzz off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents of parents can provide listening ears but not making decisions for them.

And that's all OP offered

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here

Tomorrow is Friday

I'll know more tomorrow.

Want me to tell you how it goes?

I can but it would be cool if some of you would stop coming at me like you have all the things to say. Maybe you do 360+ times of the year but sometimes some of us actually post some stuff. Just chill

Nothing in my life will affect yours, I am not that important. Just hold back pls for real

Just ignore them. They have nothing of value to add. You did a great job talking to your son and I wish you all the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

PP. The hypocrisy on this site is crazy. Moms here are raising the man children & incels they complain about. And they say they support women, yeah no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

PP. The hypocrisy on this site is crazy. Moms here are raising the man children & incels they complain about. And they say they support women, yeah no.

A son calling his mother to let her know he might be having a child is "raising an incel?" WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

PP. The hypocrisy on this site is crazy. Moms here are raising the man children & incels they complain about. And they say they support women, yeah no.

A son calling his mother to let her know he might be having a child is "raising an incel?" WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU????

That’s okay, but if it the GFs mom posted this, the replies here would be very different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Let’s say instead of a pregnancy, it’s cancer. Are you saying that a 27-year-old with a cancer diagnosis shouldn’t call and talk to his parents?
What if it was a car accident that really shook him up and he just wants to talk. Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about a car accident?
What if his girlfriend died? Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about his girlfriend dying?
I guess the only thing we should talk to our parents about after we are 22 is the weather and what we’re eating at Thanksgiving.

And unexpected pregnancy is not cancer. It's a very big OOPs with lifestyle choices factored in.
I've been in a big car accident at that age. Neither me, nor my eventual dh in that car with me considered calling parents.
And the 27 year old isn't announcing the pregnancy.
He is asking for help and guidance about a very big OOPs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Let’s say instead of a pregnancy, it’s cancer. Are you saying that a 27-year-old with a cancer diagnosis shouldn’t call and talk to his parents?
What if it was a car accident that really shook him up and he just wants to talk. Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about a car accident?
What if his girlfriend died? Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about his girlfriend dying?
I guess the only thing we should talk to our parents about after we are 22 is the weather and what we’re eating at Thanksgiving.

And unexpected pregnancy is not cancer. It's a very big OOPs with lifestyle choices factored in.
I've been in a big car accident at that age. Neither me, nor my eventual dh in that car with me considered calling parents.
And the 27 year old isn't announcing the pregnancy.
He is asking for help and guidance about a very big OOPs.

Who cares that you didn't call your parents? I actually think that's super irresponsible and would be very upset if my child didn't let me know he was in a major car accident, but that's me. OP's son needed to talk to his parent. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. Adults talk to their family about all sorts of things. It's sad that you don't have that kind of loving relationship with your parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

PP. The hypocrisy on this site is crazy. Moms here are raising the man children & incels they complain about. And they say they support women, yeah no.

A son calling his mother to let her know he might be having a child is "raising an incel?" WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU????

That’s okay, but if it the GFs mom posted this, the replies here would be very different.

I agree with that. No one would be bashing the daughter for calling her mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I would figure out a way to let him know that getting married because of a surprise pregnancy is very, very likely to end in divorce and be extremely painful and disruptive to him, her and the baby. He should be clear with his GF that he will be supportive of either decision as he will be responsible for partial custody and child support no matter what happens to their relationship in the future but their relationship isn’t going to fast forward to marriage or living together because they are pregnant.

I also would not mention adoption at all. No mid twenties woman is going to go through pregnancy unless she wants to keep the baby or is too poor to travel out of a repressive state if they live in a ban/forced birth state.

Kids who are put up for adoption are very upset about that choice. I wouldn't say that's a choice anymore. There aren't closed adoptions anymore with DNA testing.

Please don't ever comment on adoption again.

+1
I know many very happy adoptees.and there are closed adoptions.
Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

PP. The hypocrisy on this site is crazy. Moms here are raising the man children & incels they complain about. And they say they support women, yeah no.

A son calling his mother to let her know he might be having a child is "raising an incel?" WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU????

That’s okay, but if it the GFs mom posted this, the replies here would be very different.

I agree with that. No one would be bashing the daughter for calling her mother.

Nope they’d be blaming her, calling her slurs, and telling her to figure it out, not coddling & excusing. No one here has expressed an ounce of sympathy for the girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

PP. The hypocrisy on this site is crazy. Moms here are raising the man children & incels they complain about. And they say they support women, yeah no.

A son calling his mother to let her know he might be having a child is "raising an incel?" WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU????

That’s okay, but if it the GFs mom posted this, the replies here would be very different.

I agree with that. No one would be bashing the daughter for calling her mother.

Nope they’d be blaming her, calling her slurs, and telling her to figure it out, not coddling & excusing. No one here has expressed an ounce of sympathy for the girlfriend.

Stop making shit up. OP's son got a ton of hate (including from you).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Let’s say instead of a pregnancy, it’s cancer. Are you saying that a 27-year-old with a cancer diagnosis shouldn’t call and talk to his parents?
What if it was a car accident that really shook him up and he just wants to talk. Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about a car accident?
What if his girlfriend died? Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about his girlfriend dying?
I guess the only thing we should talk to our parents about after we are 22 is the weather and what we’re eating at Thanksgiving.

And unexpected pregnancy is not cancer. It's a very big OOPs with lifestyle choices factored in.
I've been in a big car accident at that age. Neither me, nor my eventual dh in that car with me considered calling parents.
And the 27 year old isn't announcing the pregnancy.
He is asking for help and guidance about a very big OOPs.

I agree! And if it were my son I’d say ‘I love you and I support whatever decisions to make and we are all family and I will help you to make the right choices if you choose to raise the child. This is a huge decision and one with life long consequences. Take your time, talk to your girlfriend and her parents if she wants to. There is a solution and you have options.’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, now 27+ are treated as teenagers.

Only on DCUM, and only 27 yo men, not women.

Obviously! Because it’s only the woman’s fault to get pregnant- how dare she

PP. The hypocrisy on this site is crazy. Moms here are raising the man children & incels they complain about. And they say they support women, yeah no.

A son calling his mother to let her know he might be having a child is "raising an incel?" WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU????

That’s okay, but if it the GFs mom posted this, the replies here would be very different.

I agree with that. No one would be bashing the daughter for calling her mother.

Nope they’d be blaming her, calling her slurs, and telling her to figure it out, not coddling & excusing. No one here has expressed an ounce of sympathy for the girlfriend.

Stop making shit up. OP's son got a ton of hate (including from you).

I don’t see the issue with a 27yo son or daughter (or whatever age) telling their mother that they might be having a baby soon, but there is a clear pattern of coddling male adult children on this forum.