What do you say?

[Anonymous]

My best friend got pregnant at 44. She had a 12 and 10 year old. She called her mom and asked for advice. Why is it weird for adult children to ask their parents for advice on the heavy stuff in life.

[Anonymous]

When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, this guy, at 27+ is calling his mom for help so it doesn't sound like he's on the matrimonial road with the girlfriend.
And it sounds like the girlfriend KNEW she was pregnant if she's more than 14 weeks along.

Does OP's support also extend to the palimony the son will be stuck with until the child is 18?

What a load of crap, word salad you just made.

Here's the non-word salad phrasing -
He's in a very bad place.

Maybe, maybe not. You have no idea. All you know is that he confided in his mother about what is going on in his life.

He is scared.

And?

All the maternal words of support sounds misleading if child support payments are not part of the offered support.

You seem very confused. Hope you don't have children.

Why would she offer money to support a child that's not hers? I get all kinds of support from family and friends that doesn't involve cash.

But you're just trolling, soo.....

"Whatever happens we will support you in your decision..."
If I were a gullible young man, which it sounds like he is if the girlfriend is 14+ weeks along without his awareness, I would interpret that to be inclusive of financial support.
I do have kids and talked about this very scenario with them before they graduated high school because we know two people to whom variations of this happened and the outcome is not happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend got pregnant at 44. She had a 12 and 10 year old. She called her mom and asked for advice. Why is it weird for adult children to ask their parents for advice on the heavy stuff in life.

There is nothing wrong with discussing anything with your parents but also people can be immature at 44.

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Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Who are these idiots that think PP is only for abortion? PP is healthcare for the millions who cannot afford other options. About 2mm go to PP each year.

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Anonymous wrote:We got married in our mid 20's, moved to another country for career, had kids, built a life, bought a home, all that without any support network.

I moved overseas in my 20s, got married and had kids in my 30s, without any advice or support from my family. Because they were abusive and dysfunctional. I’m sure my life would have been easier if I had a support system. I hope my children still want my advice and guidance in their 20s and 30s. That reflects a healthy relationship.

That's on you, keep blaming parents past adulthood isn't healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Let’s say instead of a pregnancy, it’s cancer. Are you saying that a 27-year-old with a cancer diagnosis shouldn’t call and talk to his parents?
What if it was a car accident that really shook him up and he just wants to talk. Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about a car accident?
What if his girlfriend died? Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about his girlfriend dying?
I guess the only thing we should talk to our parents about after we are 22 is the weather and what we’re eating at Thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

Bottom line is that unwanted pregnancies ruin lives, baby's and parents's. If they aren't ready, they aren't ready no matter if they are 17, 27 or 37. Thank God for Planned Parenthood.

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Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Let’s say instead of a pregnancy, it’s cancer. Are you saying that a 27-year-old with a cancer diagnosis shouldn’t call and talk to his parents?
What if it was a car accident that really shook him up and he just wants to talk. Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about a car accident?
What if his girlfriend died? Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about his girlfriend dying?
I guess the only thing we should talk to our parents about after we are 22 is the weather and what we’re eating at Thanksgiving.

Well a baby isn't death, cancer or a car accident. This decision should be between parents of the baby, unless parents are minors, clinically incompetent or financially dependent.

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Anonymous wrote:When society keeps telling grown men and women that they are naive kids then why would they act as responsible adults? These are people who are five six years post college, not college freshmen. A sensible couple would've discussed it, explore their options and either quietly had it taken care of if they didn't want it or made an announcement of expecting a baby. In current day and age they don't even have to get married unless there is a religious reason. They don't even have to have a wedding music band, just a trip to city court and a dinner with immediate family and a few friends would suffice.

Let’s say instead of a pregnancy, it’s cancer. Are you saying that a 27-year-old with a cancer diagnosis shouldn’t call and talk to his parents?
What if it was a car accident that really shook him up and he just wants to talk. Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about a car accident?
What if his girlfriend died? Are you saying a 27-year-old shouldn’t talk to his parents about his girlfriend dying?
I guess the only thing we should talk to our parents about after we are 22 is the weather and what we’re eating at Thanksgiving.

Well a baby isn't death, cancer or a car accident. This decision should be between parents of the baby, unless parents are minors, clinically incompetent or financially dependent.

A baby is a major life event. Just like cancer and death.

[Anonymous]

Parents of parents can provide listening ears but not making decisions for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, this guy, at 27+ is calling his mom for help so it doesn't sound like he's on the matrimonial road with the girlfriend.
And it sounds like the girlfriend KNEW she was pregnant if she's more than 14 weeks along.

Does OP's support also extend to the palimony the son will be stuck with until the child is 18?

What a load of crap, word salad you just made.

Here's the non-word salad phrasing -
He's in a very bad place.

Maybe, maybe not. You have no idea. All you know is that he confided in his mother about what is going on in his life.

He is scared.

And?

All the maternal words of support sounds misleading if child support payments are not part of the offered support.

You seem very confused. Hope you don't have children.

Why would she offer money to support a child that's not hers? I get all kinds of support from family and friends that doesn't involve cash.

But you're just trolling, soo.....

"Whatever happens we will support you in your decision..."
If I were a gullible young man, which it sounds like he is if the girlfriend is 14+ weeks along without his awareness, I would interpret that to be inclusive of financial support.
I do have kids and talked about this very scenario with them before they graduated high school because we know two people to whom variations of this happened and the outcome is not happy.

Well that's your interpretation and nothing more. OP never said the son asked for that or that she offered it. Perhaps a little less speculating on your part would be welcome.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, every individual, family and situation is unique.

[Anonymous]

OP here

Tomorrow is Friday

I'll know more tomorrow.

Want me to tell you how it goes?

I can but it would be cool if some of you would stop coming at me like you have all the things to say. Maybe you do 360+ times of the year but sometimes some of us actually post some stuff. Just chill

Nothing in my life will affect yours, I am not that important. Just hold back pls for real