A Jew named Mary?

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Anonymous wrote:As a Jew with a very non-Jewish name - don’t do it. My whole life, everyone has assumed I’m not Jewish or a convert. Which isn’t the end of the world but it gets tedious. When I got married the rabbi grilled me about whether I was sure I wasn’t a convert, because of my name.

If you must call her Mary, then name her Miriam and use Mary as a nickname.

Also your other kids have very religious sounding Jewish names and if you add Mary, people will think she’s adopted and not converted. With Miriam, even nicknamed Mary, they won’t think that.

THIS. I've had to jump through hoops to prove that I'm Jewish because of my non-Jewish name (especially when getting married). I swear they practically did a full-blown background check on me. They wanted the names of my parents, my grandparents, etc. They wanted to know which cemeteries my older ancestors are buried in. They wanted to know where my family emigrated from. Thankfully, my parents were able to give me their ketubah that I was able to eventually provide as proof to easily put the doubt to rest.

If your daughter is even slightly interested in her Jewish identity and wants to be actively involved in her Jewish community, being named Mary will be a nightmare for her logistically speaking.

Why does anyone even choose to be part of a community that is so exclusive and unwelcoming? That is a choice.

This proves to me that humans are still very tribalistic.

Jews are God’s chosen people while everyone else isn’t. If you had the chance to be chosen, or be relegated to the discarded, aren’t you going to try to get into the chosen group?

If someone truly wanted to be Jewish AKA “chosen”, don’t you think they already would have started the process of converting...?

Exactly. I can’t believe there are people out there that flatter themselves as much as that previous poster. It’s bizarre and, frankly, pathological.

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Anonymous wrote:Mary is Miriam in Hebrew. Mary is not Christian, it’s English. I wouldn’t be surprised at a Jewish Mary, because Mary was Jewish.

Again. mary is the Christian version of Miriam.

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Anonymous wrote:The most famous Mary in history was Jewish.

But of course her actual name was Miriam. Mary is the Christian version.

Mary is the English language version. It’s Maria in Spanish / Italian / Greek / Slavic , Maryam in Arabic, Marie in French… they all refer to the same person.

mary is the CHRISTIAN version.

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Anonymous wrote:As a Jew with a very non-Jewish name - don’t do it. My whole life, everyone has assumed I’m not Jewish or a convert. Which isn’t the end of the world but it gets tedious. When I got married the rabbi grilled me about whether I was sure I wasn’t a convert, because of my name.

If you must call her Mary, then name her Miriam and use Mary as a nickname.

Also your other kids have very religious sounding Jewish names and if you add Mary, people will think she’s adopted and not converted. With Miriam, even nicknamed Mary, they won’t think that.

THIS. I've had to jump through hoops to prove that I'm Jewish because of my non-Jewish name (especially when getting married). I swear they practically did a full-blown background check on me. They wanted the names of my parents, my grandparents, etc. They wanted to know which cemeteries my older ancestors are buried in. They wanted to know where my family emigrated from. Thankfully, my parents were able to give me their ketubah that I was able to eventually provide as proof to easily put the doubt to rest.

If your daughter is even slightly interested in her Jewish identity and wants to be actively involved in her Jewish community, being named Mary will be a nightmare for her logistically speaking.

Why does anyone even choose to be part of a community that is so exclusive and unwelcoming? That is a choice.

This proves to me that humans are still very tribalistic.

Jews are God’s chosen people while everyone else isn’t. If you had the chance to be chosen, or be relegated to the discarded, aren’t you going to try to get into the chosen group?

If someone truly wanted to be Jewish AKA “chosen”, don’t you think they already would have started the process of converting...?

Exactly. I can’t believe there are people out there that flatter themselves as much as that previous poster. It’s bizarre and, frankly, pathological.

That PP was stirring the antisemitic pot and you took the bait. Good job.

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Anonymous wrote:As a Jew with a very non-Jewish name - don’t do it. My whole life, everyone has assumed I’m not Jewish or a convert. Which isn’t the end of the world but it gets tedious. When I got married the rabbi grilled me about whether I was sure I wasn’t a convert, because of my name.

If you must call her Mary, then name her Miriam and use Mary as a nickname.

Also your other kids have very religious sounding Jewish names and if you add Mary, people will think she’s adopted and not converted. With Miriam, even nicknamed Mary, they won’t think that.

THIS. I've had to jump through hoops to prove that I'm Jewish because of my non-Jewish name (especially when getting married). I swear they practically did a full-blown background check on me. They wanted the names of my parents, my grandparents, etc. They wanted to know which cemeteries my older ancestors are buried in. They wanted to know where my family emigrated from. Thankfully, my parents were able to give me their ketubah that I was able to eventually provide as proof to easily put the doubt to rest.

If your daughter is even slightly interested in her Jewish identity and wants to be actively involved in her Jewish community, being named Mary will be a nightmare for her logistically speaking.

Why does anyone even choose to be part of a community that is so exclusive and unwelcoming? That is a choice.

This proves to me that humans are still very tribalistic.

Jews are God’s chosen people while everyone else isn’t. If you had the chance to be chosen, or be relegated to the discarded, aren’t you going to try to get into the chosen group?

If someone truly wanted to be Jewish AKA “chosen”, don’t you think they already would have started the process of converting...?

Exactly. I can’t believe there are people out there that flatter themselves as much as that previous poster. It’s bizarre and, frankly, pathological.

That PP was stirring the antisemitic pot and you took the bait. Good job.

I doubt it. Look at their posts in their totality.

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Anonymous wrote:As a Jew with a very non-Jewish name - don’t do it. My whole life, everyone has assumed I’m not Jewish or a convert. Which isn’t the end of the world but it gets tedious. When I got married the rabbi grilled me about whether I was sure I wasn’t a convert, because of my name.

If you must call her Mary, then name her Miriam and use Mary as a nickname.

Also your other kids have very religious sounding Jewish names and if you add Mary, people will think she’s adopted and not converted. With Miriam, even nicknamed Mary, they won’t think that.

THIS. I've had to jump through hoops to prove that I'm Jewish because of my non-Jewish name (especially when getting married). I swear they practically did a full-blown background check on me. They wanted the names of my parents, my grandparents, etc. They wanted to know which cemeteries my older ancestors are buried in. They wanted to know where my family emigrated from. Thankfully, my parents were able to give me their ketubah that I was able to eventually provide as proof to easily put the doubt to rest.

If your daughter is even slightly interested in her Jewish identity and wants to be actively involved in her Jewish community, being named Mary will be a nightmare for her logistically speaking.

Why does anyone even choose to be part of a community that is so exclusive and unwelcoming? That is a choice.

This proves to me that humans are still very tribalistic.

Jews are God’s chosen people while everyone else isn’t. If you had the chance to be chosen, or be relegated to the discarded, aren’t you going to try to get into the chosen group?

If someone truly wanted to be Jewish AKA “chosen”, don’t you think they already would have started the process of converting...?

Exactly. I can’t believe there are people out there that flatter themselves as much as that previous poster. It’s bizarre and, frankly, pathological.

That PP was stirring the antisemitic pot and you took the bait. Good job.

I doubt it. Look at their posts in their totality.

You can’t tell which posts are theirs. That was clearly bait and it’s sad you cannot see.

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Anonymous wrote:As a Jew with a very non-Jewish name - don’t do it. My whole life, everyone has assumed I’m not Jewish or a convert. Which isn’t the end of the world but it gets tedious. When I got married the rabbi grilled me about whether I was sure I wasn’t a convert, because of my name.

If you must call her Mary, then name her Miriam and use Mary as a nickname.

Also your other kids have very religious sounding Jewish names and if you add Mary, people will think she’s adopted and not converted. With Miriam, even nicknamed Mary, they won’t think that.

THIS. I've had to jump through hoops to prove that I'm Jewish because of my non-Jewish name (especially when getting married). I swear they practically did a full-blown background check on me. They wanted the names of my parents, my grandparents, etc. They wanted to know which cemeteries my older ancestors are buried in. They wanted to know where my family emigrated from. Thankfully, my parents were able to give me their ketubah that I was able to eventually provide as proof to easily put the doubt to rest.

If your daughter is even slightly interested in her Jewish identity and wants to be actively involved in her Jewish community, being named Mary will be a nightmare for her logistically speaking.

Why does anyone even choose to be part of a community that is so exclusive and unwelcoming? That is a choice.

This proves to me that humans are still very tribalistic.

Jews are God’s chosen people while everyone else isn’t. If you had the chance to be chosen, or be relegated to the discarded, aren’t you going to try to get into the chosen group?

If someone truly wanted to be Jewish AKA “chosen”, don’t you think they already would have started the process of converting...?

Exactly. I can’t believe there are people out there that flatter themselves as much as that previous poster. It’s bizarre and, frankly, pathological.

That PP was stirring the antisemitic pot and you took the bait. Good job.

I doubt it. Look at their posts in their totality.

You can’t tell which posts are theirs. That was clearly bait and it’s sad you cannot see.

Take a look at the post about religious texts being God’s own words and the post about organ matching. You can think what you’d like, but I think they were being serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would have been fine in the 90s when "eThNiCiTy is a construct" ruled the liberal paradigm.

It ain't the 90s.

You have to be joking. I hear more people say race and ethnicity are social constructs in present day than in the 90s. That belief is WAY more widespread in 2026. These concepts weren’t even focused on as much as they are now in the 90s.

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Anonymous wrote:Mary is Miriam in Hebrew. Mary is not Christian, it’s English. I wouldn’t be surprised at a Jewish Mary, because Mary was Jewish.

Again. mary is the Christian version of Miriam.

No. Mary is the English language version of Miriam.