Why do grown women post photos of social events?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Would you stand outside an AA meeting handing out cocktails?

Analogy fail. Your claim is that my drinking cocktails at home is harming alcoholics. Don't want to see my FB posts? Don't visit my FB page.

Again, if you’re participating in the platform, you’re part of the societal problem. No one cares if you drink cocktails at home or take pictures of your girls night out and just keep them for your own enjoyment.

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Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

I think the ones really triggered are those realizing that their posting behavior is cringe.

They are living under a rock wondering what all the fuss is about. They know, they just don't care, it's part of the charm of posting on social media.

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Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

I think the ones really triggered are those realizing that their posting behavior is cringe.

There are lonely crazies requesting posts in this thread be deleted because they struck a nerve.

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Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

I think the ones really triggered are those realizing that their posting behavior is cringe.

There are lonely crazies requesting posts in this thread be deleted because they struck a nerve.

It's pretty early in the day to be this angry. Maybe go look at your friends social media to cheer yourself up?

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Anonymous wrote:Because some of us use Facebook as our diaries and photo albums. That is all. Judge away: it’s not going to change. I love the convenience

I think it’s largely this. I’m not on much any more. I unfriended a lot of casual acquaintances for being MAGA. Mostly everyone else, I can call or text.

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Anonymous wrote:Because some of us use Facebook as our diaries and photo albums. That is all. Judge away: it’s not going to change. I love the convenience

Ok, but just so you know, when you take pictures with your phone, it automatically stores them. You can create all sorts of albums, too!

I love to scroll through all the photos on my phone. Feels great, looking back on all those memories.

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Anonymous wrote:Like, a group of friends going out for drinks or at a party?
I admit I see these and get FOMO -- even if I'm not close with the people in the photo!
Is it to stoke envy? Assert a place in the social hierarchy? Just cluelessness or the authentic drive to share joy?

Attention seekers

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

It’s sad that you think that

Uh, what is your apparently heart warming tale of the origins of social media? I guess you've chosen to bury your head in the sand regarding the business model? A lot of people who work at these companies won't let their children use these apps, ever, because they understand how manipulative they are. They absolutely profit off misery.

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Anonymous wrote:Because some of us use Facebook as our diaries and photo albums. That is all. Judge away: it’s not going to change. I love the convenience

Ok, but just so you know, when you take pictures with your phone, it automatically stores them. You can create all sorts of albums, too!

I love to scroll through all the photos on my phone. Feels great, looking back on all those memories.

I love taking photos and videos. Sharing them with relevant people or groups (as opposed to just quickly sharing them with hundreds of mostly distant people) takes more time, but it's worth it to me. The idea of sharing things with people I never talk to makes me feel uncomfortable, and most likely the people I'd want to see what I shared won't see it because most people who are currently important to me are done with social media.

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

It’s sad that you think that

Uh, what is your apparently heart warming tale of the origins of social media? I guess you've chosen to bury your head in the sand regarding the business model? A lot of people who work at these companies won't let their children use these apps, ever, because they understand how manipulative they are. They absolutely profit off misery.

Facebook was invented by an unpopular thief who wanted to rank girls.

How do people forget this?

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

Not true.

Really? You think happy people keep logging in over and over to see how happy everyone else is, too? That’s not how it works. And not how tech billionaires are made.

Social media is designed to make people click. It’s not designed to make people miserable. That would be self-defeating. The exact OPPOSITE of its business model.

I disagree. It’s designed to be addictive. Like alcohol and tobacco. They make you think you’re happy, at least for a little while, but repeated exposure makes you more and more miserable over time.

Not everybody’s addicted to alcohol and tobacco.

You are so you should leave it alone and stay far far away from it. But we are not so we can use it in moderation.

You're right, some people can use it in moderation. I still use it some and feel I have a healthy relationship with it.

But the people I know who do what OP is describing are addicts. OP wants to know why people post these photos that no one who wasn't there needs to see? Because they are addicts, and they get a high from it. They need the likes and comments.

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Honestly, who cares. Let people have their thing. Judging them for this is worse, imo.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, who cares. Let people have their thing. Judging them for this is worse, imo.

It's ok to judge people who seek to harm.

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

Not true.

Really? You think happy people keep logging in over and over to see how happy everyone else is, too? That’s not how it works. And not how tech billionaires are made.

Social media is designed to make people click. It’s not designed to make people miserable. That would be self-defeating. The exact OPPOSITE of its business model.

I disagree. It’s designed to be addictive. Like alcohol and tobacco. They make you think you’re happy, at least for a little while, but repeated exposure makes you more and more miserable over time.

Not everybody’s addicted to alcohol and tobacco.

You are so you should leave it alone and stay far far away from it. But we are not so we can use it in moderation.

You're right, some people can use it in moderation. I still use it some and feel I have a healthy relationship with it.

But the people I know who do what OP is describing are addicts. OP wants to know why people post these photos that no one who wasn't there needs to see? Because they are addicts, and they get a high from it. They need the likes and comments.

Anyone who posts a photo from a girls dinner is an addict? You should ask yourself why you're so invested in believing that's true.

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

It’s sad that you think that

Uh, what is your apparently heart warming tale of the origins of social media? I guess you've chosen to bury your head in the sand regarding the business model? A lot of people who work at these companies won't let their children use these apps, ever, because they understand how manipulative they are. They absolutely profit off misery.

Facebook was invented by an unpopular thief who wanted to rank girls.

How do people forget this?

The automobile was invented by an antisemite. How do people forget this?