What am I doing wrong? How is everyone juggling multiple sports for multiple kids at multiple locations?

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

lol you first, weirdo. And be sure to list all of your kids and their ages not just your 8 yr old.

So, never?

Yup. These are the people who are afraid of quiet and their own thoughts. They feel like they have to justify their existence and inflate their self worth by being “so busy”.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

How is that a good thing? You comment about those things and yet, here you are on social media and screens. You can do that while driving your kid and waiting for them.

Mine have no interest in pretend play or worlds. I want them learning, exploring and engaging with the world in a positive way.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

lol you first, weirdo. And be sure to list all of your kids and their ages not just your 8 yr old.

So, never?

Yup. These are the people who are afraid of quiet and their own thoughts. They feel like they have to justify their existence and inflate their self worth by being “so busy”.

So why aren't you engaged in your thoughts and being quiet? You are here on social media vs. spending time with your kids or doing something productive or day dreaming.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

How is that a good thing? You comment about those things and yet, here you are on social media and screens. You can do that while driving your kid and waiting for them.

Mine have no interest in pretend play or worlds. I want them learning, exploring and engaging with the world in a positive way.

Tragic.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

How is that a good thing? You comment about those things and yet, here you are on social media and screens. You can do that while driving your kid and waiting for them.

Mine have no interest in pretend play or worlds. I want them learning, exploring and engaging with the world in a positive way.

Tragic.

Aren't you supposed to be engaging your kids? It's a holiday weekend. Tragic that you aren't making memories instead of trolling here.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

That 0.4 kid probably needs a lot of extra attention

I was a pretty unscheduled kid and my family had dinner together most nights. But the truth is my mom was lazy and wanted to smoke cigarettes, drink beer with the neighbors, watch tv and do anything but drive us to activities. So great! But she did get dinner on the table by the time my dad came home. Real quality family time!

A willingness to schlep your kid to endless activities so you can surf your phone or do work while they are there is not the flex you think it is. It’s embarrassing how many of my students get to upper elementary school having no clue how to play basic board games or cards during indoor recess.

My daughter had a friend like that. She never went to normal social gatherings and her mother definitely didn’t do fun kids things with her or play board games. Her mother had her scheduled for two activities every day, none sports related, and the activities were several miles away in bad traffic. Some parent don’t realize when they’ve crossed the line .

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

That 0.4 kid probably needs a lot of extra attention

I was a pretty unscheduled kid and my family had dinner together most nights. But the truth is my mom was lazy and wanted to smoke cigarettes, drink beer with the neighbors, watch tv and do anything but drive us to activities. So great! But she did get dinner on the table by the time my dad came home. Real quality family time!

A willingness to schlep your kid to endless activities so you can surf your phone or do work while they are there is not the flex you think it is. It’s embarrassing how many of my students get to upper elementary school having no clue how to play basic board games or cards during indoor recess.

My kids know how, they just have no interest. Dad loves board games. We have a huge closet full. I'm not forcing my kids to do something they aren't interested in. Why are board games better than sports or an instrument?

There should be a balance. It’s not one or the other. I’ve never met a preschooler who doesn’t love playing board games with their families.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

That 0.4 kid probably needs a lot of extra attention

I was a pretty unscheduled kid and my family had dinner together most nights. But the truth is my mom was lazy and wanted to smoke cigarettes, drink beer with the neighbors, watch tv and do anything but drive us to activities. So great! But she did get dinner on the table by the time my dad came home. Real quality family time!

A willingness to schlep your kid to endless activities so you can surf your phone or do work while they are there is not the flex you think it is. It’s embarrassing how many of my students get to upper elementary school having no clue how to play basic board games or cards during indoor recess.

My kids know how, they just have no interest. Dad loves board games. We have a huge closet full. I'm not forcing my kids to do something they aren't interested in. Why are board games better than sports or an instrument?

There should be a balance. It’s not one or the other. I’ve never met a preschooler who doesn’t love playing board games with their families.

As long as they are winning. And forget about it if their slibling wins and they don’t. Board games aren’t that fun at our house.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

That 0.4 kid probably needs a lot of extra attention

I was a pretty unscheduled kid and my family had dinner together most nights. But the truth is my mom was lazy and wanted to smoke cigarettes, drink beer with the neighbors, watch tv and do anything but drive us to activities. So great! But she did get dinner on the table by the time my dad came home. Real quality family time!

A willingness to schlep your kid to endless activities so you can surf your phone or do work while they are there is not the flex you think it is. It’s embarrassing how many of my students get to upper elementary school having no clue how to play basic board games or cards during indoor recess.

My kids know how, they just have no interest. Dad loves board games. We have a huge closet full. I'm not forcing my kids to do something they aren't interested in. Why are board games better than sports or an instrument?

There should be a balance. It’s not one or the other. I’ve never met a preschooler who doesn’t love playing board games with their families.

As long as they are winning. And forget about it if their slibling wins and they don’t. Board games aren’t that fun at our house.

You should probably teach your kids not to be a sore loser sooner than later. They can't always win in life.

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I keep my kids busy as hell to distract us all from the fact that I have no idea what the point of any of it is except climbing one more ladder rung than the next person. Hopefully they get into a good enough college to perpetuate the cycle and/or go to therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:I keep my kids busy as hell to distract us all from the fact that I have no idea what the point of any of it is except climbing one more ladder rung than the next person. Hopefully they get into a good enough college to perpetuate the cycle and/or go to therapy.

I think (hope) this is sarcasm.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

That 0.4 kid probably needs a lot of extra attention

I was a pretty unscheduled kid and my family had dinner together most nights. But the truth is my mom was lazy and wanted to smoke cigarettes, drink beer with the neighbors, watch tv and do anything but drive us to activities. So great! But she did get dinner on the table by the time my dad came home. Real quality family time!

A willingness to schlep your kid to endless activities so you can surf your phone or do work while they are there is not the flex you think it is. It’s embarrassing how many of my students get to upper elementary school having no clue how to play basic board games or cards during indoor recess.

My kids know how, they just have no interest. Dad loves board games. We have a huge closet full. I'm not forcing my kids to do something they aren't interested in. Why are board games better than sports or an instrument?

There should be a balance. It’s not one or the other. I’ve never met a preschooler who doesn’t love playing board games with their families.

As long as they are winning. And forget about it if their slibling wins and they don’t. Board games aren’t that fun at our house.

You should probably teach your kids not to be a sore loser sooner than later. They can't always win in life.

They can learn that lesson outside of the house. They are so much more likely to act the fool at home so we just don’t play board games much. No big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

lol you first, weirdo. And be sure to list all of your kids and their ages not just your 8 yr old.

So, never?

Yup. These are the people who are afraid of quiet and their own thoughts. They feel like they have to justify their existence and inflate their self worth by being “so busy”.

So why aren't you engaged in your thoughts and being quiet? You are here on social media vs. spending time with your kids or doing something productive or day dreaming.

I’m not the one missing the Labor Day picnic because I’m posting from a Hampton Inn in Nashville so my 11 year old can play baseball while my husband is at a Hampton Inn in Cleveland with the two others, one of whom just sits on her phone while her brother plays lacrosse.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

lol you first, weirdo. And be sure to list all of your kids and their ages not just your 8 yr old.

So, never?

Yup. These are the people who are afraid of quiet and their own thoughts. They feel like they have to justify their existence and inflate their self worth by being “so busy”.

So why aren't you engaged in your thoughts and being quiet? You are here on social media vs. spending time with your kids or doing something productive or day dreaming.

I’m not the one missing the Labor Day picnic because I’m posting from a Hampton Inn in Nashville so my 11 year old can play baseball while my husband is at a Hampton Inn in Cleveland with the two others, one of whom just sits on her phone while her brother plays lacrosse.

Labor Day Picnic? That's the best option you have? Yawn.