What am I doing wrong? How is everyone juggling multiple sports for multiple kids at multiple locations?

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Anonymous wrote:We only have two kids so it's easier to divide and conquer. When you get to three kids you either need to find some carpools or miss some things.

+1. You need to start organizing carpools.

+1 or hire a PT driving nanny or teen.

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Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom only let us pick one activity. We couldn’t both pick something like a winter sport so I played winter basketball and my brother played spring lacrosse.

Yeah, it's this. Children can't pick any sport they want. They have to do the same sport with the same league, or have an off season so the other child/ren can do their sport. OP has serious lack of boundaries and is not putting the relative unimportance of kid sports in proper perspective. These activities do not matter for college admissions as much as she thinks they do. Grades and academic rigor are still going to be the main factor.

You really know how to put the fun in sports.

If centering your life around your childrens' whims and running yourself ragged to fulfill all their desires is your idea of fun, I wish you well. As for me, I'm signing them all up for cheap weekend rec soccer and calling it a day.

Do you even have kids?

Of course she does. A lot of parents are self centered though and don’t do things for their children if it inconveniences themselves.

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Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

Tell me what my kids do again? I'll wait. Be specific. Also add all the relevant diagnoses since that's how you roll. And

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

You can spend 20 minutes eating dinner and ignoring each other for the of the night. That's what my family did. We each went and stayed in our rooms all night. Dad got the family room, and we couldn't use it when he was there or we'd have to watch his boring stuff. Even when home there was little family time.

I spend hours in the car with my kids. We talk, we sometimes stop to eat, etc.

The fact that you all think being a family means eating together tells me that you have no clue. The fact is that when you spend the bulk of your free time in separate places you are not being a family. You’re only a unit when you sleep. You have great talks in the car because that’s the only time you’re with your kids.

What are you talking about? We have a small 1000 square foot house. There is no escaping anyone. Kids do their homework/stay mostly in the living room, rather than in their rooms, where we are. We eat dinner/snacks/meals together, and if we go out and they are home, they are always invited. Or, I will always take them out to eat to spend time with them. Kids doing activities is not being in a separate place. It's allowing them to follow their interests. You can be together while driving, waiting for activiites to start, etc. Kids talk the most when they think you are not paying attention fully.

I grew up in a no activitiy or sports home. We all were in our separate rooms when home, at dinner for 20 minutes together (but as a teen I'd eat earlier as it was no fun) and basically never see each other. Parents had their own lives and catered to each other. They'd never think of taking us out or spending time with us.

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Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom only let us pick one activity. We couldn’t both pick something like a winter sport so I played winter basketball and my brother played spring lacrosse.

Yeah, it's this. Children can't pick any sport they want. They have to do the same sport with the same league, or have an off season so the other child/ren can do their sport. OP has serious lack of boundaries and is not putting the relative unimportance of kid sports in proper perspective. These activities do not matter for college admissions as much as she thinks they do. Grades and academic rigor are still going to be the main factor.

You really know how to put the fun in sports.

If centering your life around your childrens' whims and running yourself ragged to fulfill all their desires is your idea of fun, I wish you well. As for me, I'm signing them all up for cheap weekend rec soccer and calling it a day.

Do you even have kids?

Of course she does. A lot of parents are self centered though and don’t do things for their children if it inconveniences themselves.

My mom was like this and smug as all get out like the pompous PP above who "works in a school" and thinks slighting kids with ADHD is cute and funny and makes her sound like a wonderful parent. Gross that someone like this may be in contact with children on a daily basis.

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Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

lol you first, weirdo. And be sure to list all of your kids and their ages not just your 8 yr old.

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Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

This is the real problem. We have robbed them of any chance to make decisions and solve anything by themselves or with other children. Kids now are entirely reactive and don’t know what to do with themselves without external stimuli.

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Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

lol you first, weirdo. And be sure to list all of your kids and their ages not just your 8 yr old.

So, never?

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Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.

And your kids won't see you some day when they realize how low effort and stifling you were.

No one was stifled. They did varsity sports and school plays and honors choirs and are attending or on track to attend competitive colleges. And they didn't have to spend their elementary years constantly on the go.

I work in a school and I can tell you exactly which kids spend their time the ways yours do, and which ones don't.

My parents are low effort parents and even lower effort grandparents. My kids figured it out young and I have to bribe them as teens to see their grandparents. They bring up they are in no way a prioirty. What's wrong with being on the go and being in activities? School sports and activities are not the same.

Because these kids don't know how to exist in an environment that is unstructured or without constant entertainment. And apparently neither do you.

Do you talk out of your ass as a hobby? What are you even talking about?

How frequently does your family have unstructured time together at home? And for what length of time each occurrence? How often do they have unstructured play with the neighborhood kids? How long does your child sit and read without being forced? How often does your child make up pretend games or pretend worlds and get "lost" doing this? How often does your family wakeup on a Saturday morning with no predetermined plans for the day, other than being together?

lol you first, weirdo. And be sure to list all of your kids and their ages not just your 8 yr old.

So, never?

Yep just like you don't have any real children.