What am I doing wrong? How is everyone juggling multiple sports for multiple kids at multiple locations?

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

You can spend 20 minutes eating dinner and ignoring each other for the of the night. That's what my family did. We each went and stayed in our rooms all night. Dad got the family room, and we couldn't use it when he was there or we'd have to watch his boring stuff. Even when home there was little family time.

I spend hours in the car with my kids. We talk, we sometimes stop to eat, etc.

The fact that you all think being a family means eating together tells me that you have no clue. The fact is that when you spend the bulk of your free time in separate places you are not being a family. You’re only a unit when you sleep. You have great talks in the car because that’s the only time you’re with your kids.

What a bizarre take. Do you cease to be a family when your kids are in school for the day? Does your cubemate become your family when you share office space? Your family is always your family, near or far, whether you’re in the same room or not at all times.

Aren’t you literal. The point is that if every ounce of spare time, weekends and evenings results in a split family driving different kids to different places, when exactly are you a family unit?

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

You can spend 20 minutes eating dinner and ignoring each other for the of the night. That's what my family did. We each went and stayed in our rooms all night. Dad got the family room, and we couldn't use it when he was there or we'd have to watch his boring stuff. Even when home there was little family time.

I spend hours in the car with my kids. We talk, we sometimes stop to eat, etc.

The fact that you all think being a family means eating together tells me that you have no clue. The fact is that when you spend the bulk of your free time in separate places you are not being a family. You’re only a unit when you sleep. You have great talks in the car because that’s the only time you’re with your kids.

What a bizarre take. Do you cease to be a family when your kids are in school for the day? Does your cubemate become your family when you share office space? Your family is always your family, near or far, whether you’re in the same room or not at all times.

Aren’t you literal. The point is that if every ounce of spare time, weekends and evenings results in a split family driving different kids to different places, when exactly are you a family unit?

Every ounce of every of spare time? Aren’t you dramatic and prone to exaggeration.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

You can spend 20 minutes eating dinner and ignoring each other for the of the night. That's what my family did. We each went and stayed in our rooms all night. Dad got the family room, and we couldn't use it when he was there or we'd have to watch his boring stuff. Even when home there was little family time.

I spend hours in the car with my kids. We talk, we sometimes stop to eat, etc.

The fact that you all think being a family means eating together tells me that you have no clue. The fact is that when you spend the bulk of your free time in separate places you are not being a family. You’re only a unit when you sleep. You have great talks in the car because that’s the only time you’re with your kids.

What a bizarre take. Do you cease to be a family when your kids are in school for the day? Does your cubemate become your family when you share office space? Your family is always your family, near or far, whether you’re in the same room or not at all times.

Aren’t you literal. The point is that if every ounce of spare time, weekends and evenings results in a split family driving different kids to different places, when exactly are you a family unit?

Every ounce of every of spare time? Aren’t you dramatic and prone to exaggeration.

No not really.

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Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

[Anonymous]

We do it with carpools and both parents doing a lot of driving. Also, our kids share the same primary sport, which helps.

It consumes a lot of our free time. DH is going to spend at least 30 nights in hotels for sports next year. Our kids love it, and so do we.

[Anonymous]

I have four kids and they each play multiple sports every season. They would be pissed if we kept them from playing the sports they love with their friends so that we could all sit together and play scrabble every single night. We love watching them play and cheer each other on and talk about the games together at the end of the day.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

You can spend 20 minutes eating dinner and ignoring each other for the of the night. That's what my family did. We each went and stayed in our rooms all night. Dad got the family room, and we couldn't use it when he was there or we'd have to watch his boring stuff. Even when home there was little family time.

I spend hours in the car with my kids. We talk, we sometimes stop to eat, etc.

The fact that you all think being a family means eating together tells me that you have no clue. The fact is that when you spend the bulk of your free time in separate places you are not being a family. You’re only a unit when you sleep. You have great talks in the car because that’s the only time you’re with your kids.

What a bizarre take. Do you cease to be a family when your kids are in school for the day? Does your cubemate become your family when you share office space? Your family is always your family, near or far, whether you’re in the same room or not at all times.

Aren’t you literal. The point is that if every ounce of spare time, weekends and evenings results in a split family driving different kids to different places, when exactly are you a family unit?

Every ounce of every of spare time? Aren’t you dramatic and prone to exaggeration.

No not really.

Sorry your kids have no lives.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re not being a family. That’s what they’re doing.

This. They don’t know how to (or just don’t want to) just hand out at home and be together.

Cue all the people saying that have plenty of time for activities 7 days a week and still plenty of family time, on top of school/jobs. The math doesn’t work.

How cute that you think having two parents who get home by 5 every night in order to have a sit down dinner with their 2.4 kids is the only way to be a family or spend family time.

You can spend 20 minutes eating dinner and ignoring each other for the of the night. That's what my family did. We each went and stayed in our rooms all night. Dad got the family room, and we couldn't use it when he was there or we'd have to watch his boring stuff. Even when home there was little family time.

I spend hours in the car with my kids. We talk, we sometimes stop to eat, etc.

The fact that you all think being a family means eating together tells me that you have no clue. The fact is that when you spend the bulk of your free time in separate places you are not being a family. You’re only a unit when you sleep. You have great talks in the car because that’s the only time you’re with your kids.

What a bizarre take. Do you cease to be a family when your kids are in school for the day? Does your cubemate become your family when you share office space? Your family is always your family, near or far, whether you’re in the same room or not at all times.

Aren’t you literal. The point is that if every ounce of spare time, weekends and evenings results in a split family driving different kids to different places, when exactly are you a family unit?

Every ounce of every of spare time? Aren’t you dramatic and prone to exaggeration.

No not really.

Sorry your kids have no lives.

Why would you assume that?

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Anonymous wrote:We only have two kids so it's easier to divide and conquer. When you get to three kids you either need to find some carpools or miss some things.

+1. It’s the 3 kids. My neighbors have 6 kids and their rule is that kids can only sign up for activities that they can bike to or take public transport to. Having more kids means making some trade offs unless you can hire a nanny or two.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents want to pick their kids up from school/aftercare, drive them to a supervised activity, shove some food in the kid’s face at some point, bring them home bathe them and put them to bed.

Some parents…don’t want that.

Sounds like you have little kids. Get back to us once you have more experience parenting.

Nope. I have HS and college kids. But they didn’t have activities 5-7 days a week in elementary school or even middle school. And they certainly weren’t in multiple activities at the same time then. If they decided to try a new sport, they had to wait until their gymnastics sessions was over. And so on.

Nice but the question is how to make it work. Your answer is you didn’t even try. Your kids were dabblers.

Her kids were bums

Or the mom was. My mom was like this, patted herself on the back that she only let her kids do 1 activity at a time. But that’s because she was lazy and wanted to sit around and watch tv and not take us anywhere. She hated to drive. Wouldn’t let us sign up for much, told us we wouldn’t like it anyway, and had no interest in letting us pursue our interests. It was all about her and what she wanted. And when I did do things and needed a ride home she made me beg other parents to give me a ride because she didn’t want to.

Keep making yourself feel better for doing anything to avoid having free time with your adhd annoying kid. We see you.