Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
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Anonymous
Schools offer condoms free all over the place. They are very easy to get in college without buying them. |
Anonymous
Have you ever considered what negative outcomes could occur from providing alcohol to your underage kids and their friends? Or did you stop doing research after figuring out which car seat was the best? Here you go: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6521692/ " ... Varvil-Weld and colleagues (2012), using longitudinal methods, observed that students whose parents were pro-alcohol (permissive) were four times more likely to experience problematic consequences compared to students whose parents were anti-alcohol. Rulison and colleagues (2016) examined whether parental permissiveness of drinking was directly related with alcohol use and consequences or mediated through perceived peer approval of risky drinking. The study found perceived friend approval of drinking mediated some outcomes such as alcohol use and health-based consequences; however, perceived parental permissiveness of drinking was directly related with other consequences including academic problems and driving after drinking. Finally, Calhoun et al. (2018) utilized a four-year within- and between-person longitudinal design and found that college students’ perceptions of their parents’ permissibility toward drinking increased across college. Interestingly, perceived permissibility remained associated with risky drinking behavior even as students approached the legal drinking age. See also https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2716564/ "Results indicate that parental permissibility of alcohol use is a consistent predictor of teen drinking behaviors, which was strongly associated with experienced negative consequences. ... Overall, results indicated that a parents’ permissive attitude toward alcohol use in late high school was a significant risk factor for teen alcohol misuse and associated consequences in college. Specifically, it appears that the limits parents set for their teens with regard to alcohol consumption are particularly important. Parents in this study who permitted relatively high levels of teen drinking in high school were more likely to have children who engaged in much riskier drinking behaviors than children whose parents permitted relatively low levels of teen drinking. This result appears to be fairly robust, as it was found even after accounting for the effects of gender and all other measured parenting characteristics. It is important to note that limit setting was shown to be important for both male and female college students. Further, the results of additional analyses on limit setting unequivocally showed that complete disapproval was more protective than approving of alcohol consumption at any level, as students with more permissive parents drank significantly more and experienced significantly more negative consequences associated with alcohol consumption. In reference to recent pieces in the NY Times and Time Magazine (Asimov, 2008; Cloud, 2008), supporting parental endorsement of alcohol use in the home, findings from the current study do not support the notion that parental permissibility of alcohol use (even in small supervised amounts) is likely to reduce later (college) misuse. Proponents of the media created “European Drinking Model” believe that, by allowing their adolescents to drink in controlled environments, their teens will experience fewer negative consequences as the result of use during college. This approach is believed to remove the mystique of the forbidden fruit (alcohol use), thereby erasing the likelihood of misuse once exposed and away from parents. The current study found that parent permissibility was associated with higher drinking rates and experienced consequences for college teens than a strict policy of no underage use." |
Anonymous
But I doubt you would care if she threw a bottle of wine in the shopping cart at the grocery store. |
Anonymous
| We will let our kids order a drink when we are traveling and drinking age is 18 and have let them have a drink with us at home from time to time. But no, we would not stock them up with alcohol at drop off. They can find their own trouble. |
Anonymous
| Nope. Just weed and shrooms. “Fat drunk and stupid is no way to go through life.” |
Anonymous
You’re entirely missing the point of mixing your own drink at home and taking it out with you. |
Anonymous
| We let our kids have wine with dinner when they were under age, but we did not buy them alcohol in college. My DS just came from an internship in Germany (where drinking age is 16) and he said the foreign students (i.e., Americans) frequently got smashed. I think you can offer healthy ways to handle alcohol, but it really is up to the kid to follow your lead. We did not want alcohol to be a mystery for our kids, but we also wanted to teach them about its limits (and how to set your own). I think in some ways, buying them alcohol pushes beyond that limit. |
Anonymous
| How many condoms did everyone pick for DD or DS? |
Anonymous
the ol "I'd rather have my kids drink with their friends at my house than out where they have to drive home" argument, conveniently forgetting every other kid has to drive home. |
Anonymous
Many kids are uncomfortable asking for that especially if they are new to having sex. Also they might now be accessible when the need arises unexpectedly. Every responsible parent should be packing condoms. |
Anonymous
And undoubtedly not getting permission from the other kids’ parents. |
Anonymous
Do you consider hook up oral sex an unhealthy habit? |
Anonymous
| That would be a hell no from me. |
Anonymous
The need? It’s not a need, it’s a desire. I asked my kid about this on our Target run yesterday. He said, omg, mom, I’ll buy my own, who has their mommy buy them condoms? Also, I’m not the one packing. |
Anonymous
Condoms are a need when your kid is hooking up and Target isn’t open at midnight. If you don’t buy them there is a 50/50 chance your kid is having unprotected sex. |