Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?

[Anonymous]

um no

[Anonymous]

What? No wag. What a rookie move.

[Anonymous]

My kid drinks but I've never facilitated it. they have figured it out so far, I have no doubt they'll continue to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

No!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No all the freshman have fake ID's why would they need me to buy alcohol?

I was going to say the same thing.

What's interesting is that people are outraged simply because the US has a 21 drinking age.

You may decline, but I don't think anyone would be reacting as much if the question was "did you buy your student alcohol when you dropped them off at Oxford?" At the least, the reactions may be more along the lines that they can use their own money for that.

[Anonymous]

I did not, but her roommate's parents did, which pissed me off but I chose not to cause trouble. And (according to her) "all" of her friends' parents did, at pretty good private and public schools. Don't ask me how they justify it. And they go to parents weekends and get drunk at frat parties, open tabs at bars knowing their 18 year olds are using fakes, etc. I look like a prude not participating but sorry, I'm an actual adult and her parent, not her friend.

[Anonymous]

Do you live in Liability City or Bad Choiceville?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In some states it makes sense to do this, especially if they are attending a private college.

From WebMd https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/alcohol-laws

t’s not always illegal for people under 21 to drink. In 45 states, laws allow underage drinking in certain situations.

In 29 states, someone under 21 may drink with their parents’ permission if it’s in a private residence or on private property.
Five states allow someone under 21 to drink on private property without their parents’ consent.
Eight states allow underage people to drink with a parent’s consent in public restaurants or bars.
In 26 states, people under 21 may drink alcohol as part of religious services, such as a ceremony in your church.
In 16 states, underage people can drink alcohol if prescribed by a doctor for medical reasons.
In 11 states, you can drink under 21 if it’s for educational reasons, like you’re in cooking school.
In 10 states, there are specific laws prohibiting the hosting of underage drinking parties
Five states allow underage people to drink as part of government work, such as undercover police investigations.

So their parents intent would be that the child take their illegal alcohol to private property (a dorm is not) and consume it alone? They can’t share it, you’re not their friends parents so can’t consent on their behalf.

Presumably OPs child is not an undercover police agent.
Presumably the Op didn’t mean for religious acts such as Shabbat (OP if you did pls correct me)
Presumably oPs kid is not in cooling school, or if they are, their dorm room is not equipped with a kitchen, necessitating wine for educational purposes in the dorm.

Cmon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:huh? wtf. Hell no!

+1 why on earth would I do that?!
I don’t commit crimes and I don’t encourage my kid to do do either.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And there were a ton of parents at the Trader Joe’s doing the same thing

[Anonymous]

Of course not. For lots of obvious reasons. But another to be mindful of is that it's the beginning of freshman year. No one knows anyone. For an 18 year old kid to show up at a dorm with parents bring cases of alcohol is going to lead to a rep that sticks with this kid for all four years. This is the party kid with the party family. Do you really want to burden your kid with that?

Plus the moment a RA senses some freshman is bring in booze on move-in day - which they will - it's straight to disciplinary action, which is a terrible way to start college. Cases of beer will be noticed. And if you're sneaking in vodka or whiskey, get ready for the hospital and subsequent investigations. No nervous 18 year old has experience with hard liquor and they will over-indulgence and go through all the consequences. All their parents are going to be pissed and some might go to litigation.

I genuinely can't think of a worse way to start college than the poor kid with parents supplying booze to a bunch of freshmen just out of high school.

[Anonymous]

yeah -- we let our DD drink at home, with small groups of friends, she asked for tequila and we slipped it under her pillow before we left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. For lots of obvious reasons. But another to be mindful of is that it's the beginning of freshman year. No one knows anyone. For an 18 year old kid to show up at a dorm with parents bring cases of alcohol is going to lead to a rep that sticks with this kid for all four years. This is the party kid with the party family. Do you really want to burden your kid with that?

Plus the moment a RA senses some freshman is bring in booze on move-in day - which they will - it's straight to disciplinary action, which is a terrible way to start college. Cases of beer will be noticed. And if you're sneaking in vodka or whiskey, get ready for the hospital and subsequent investigations. No nervous 18 year old has experience with hard liquor and they will over-indulgence and go through all the consequences. All their parents are going to be pissed and some might go to litigation.

I genuinely can't think of a worse way to start college than the poor kid with parents supplying booze to a bunch of freshmen just out of high school.

you make a good argument for not giving an 18 year old who has never had a drink a bottle of hard liquor, but if your kid has experience, why not? They're going to try and acquire booze anyway, I'd rather give them something than have them pursue an older frat boy for a bottle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In some states it makes sense to do this, especially if they are attending a private college.

From WebMd https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/alcohol-laws

t’s not always illegal for people under 21 to drink. In 45 states, laws allow underage drinking in certain situations.

In 29 states, someone under 21 may drink with their parents’ permission if it’s in a private residence or on private property.
Five states allow someone under 21 to drink on private property without their parents’ consent.
Eight states allow underage people to drink with a parent’s consent in public restaurants or bars.
In 26 states, people under 21 may drink alcohol as part of religious services, such as a ceremony in your church.
In 16 states, underage people can drink alcohol if prescribed by a doctor for medical reasons.
In 11 states, you can drink under 21 if it’s for educational reasons, like you’re in cooking school.
In 10 states, there are specific laws prohibiting the hosting of underage drinking parties
Five states allow underage people to drink as part of government work, such as undercover police investigations.

That’s all well and good, but every college I’ve ever heard of does not allow students under 21 to drink. So buying your on-campus underage kid alcohol is going to get them in trouble. Parental permission does not override school rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In some states it makes sense to do this, especially if they are attending a private college.

From WebMd https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/alcohol-laws

t’s not always illegal for people under 21 to drink. In 45 states, laws allow underage drinking in certain situations.

In 29 states, someone under 21 may drink with their parents’ permission if it’s in a private residence or on private property.
Five states allow someone under 21 to drink on private property without their parents’ consent.
Eight states allow underage people to drink with a parent’s consent in public restaurants or bars.
In 26 states, people under 21 may drink alcohol as part of religious services, such as a ceremony in your church.
In 16 states, underage people can drink alcohol if prescribed by a doctor for medical reasons.
In 11 states, you can drink under 21 if it’s for educational reasons, like you’re in cooking school.
In 10 states, there are specific laws prohibiting the hosting of underage drinking parties
Five states allow underage people to drink as part of government work, such as undercover police investigations.

That’s all well and good, but every college I’ve ever heard of does not allow students under 21 to drink. So buying your on-campus underage kid alcohol is going to get them in trouble. Parental permission does not override school rules.

did you go to college?

Did you pay a lot of attention to the rules about drinking? Also, it's not the colleges that ban drinking under 21, it' the law.

But it doesn't matter. Whether or not you buy a bottle for your kid, they're probably going to try to booze.