Parent letting child use our pool toys

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: for people who didn’t read the whole thing, I did the polite thing and told the girl, oh these are our personal toys, but look there are community toys you can grab right there (which serve the same diving function as ours).

The crux of the issue is that this child understood (!) I wasn’t giving her our personal items, so she went to Grandpa to ask him to obligate me. He did the shrugging, oh-wouldn’t-it-be-alright-this-once ask of if me, and I was obviously going to hand a toy to her because it was so rude I couldn’t otherwise!

My kids understand if an adult says “no, we are not sharing” it literally matters not if they are protecting their inmunocompromised baby or are a total selfish jerk, they would never come to me and insist I “change the other person’s mind”. But obviously this child is accustomed to adults not saying no to her or at the very least, getting her adults to obligate others in her favor, which is what I have grown to resent in modes of parenting popular today.

Yes, if I tell a kid "we aren't sharing" that would be different, but you didn't. I don't know why you think that "these are my toys" is the same as "I don't want to share". Young kids talk about who toys belong to all the time, it doesn't mean they aren't willing to play with them with other children.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are a horrible parent. But enjoy your $1 toys.

[Anonymous]

So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

This post is so sad. I can't believe how petty some people are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Coworker: *takes your water bottle*
You: oh hey that’s my personal bottle, but there are lots of water bottles in the community kitchen
Coworker: *goes to boss* hey can I have her water bottle?
Boss: *to you* oh just this once could she have your water? It would be so nice of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Well…that’s what we all do, isn’t it? We try and handle situations with grace even when we feel put out or when someone might be overstepping. I don’t see OP being annoyed about it as the grievous error that others here seem to. She behaved politely towards the family, and I just don’t think it’s a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Coworker: *takes your water bottle*
You: oh hey that’s my personal bottle, but there are lots of water bottles in the community kitchen
Coworker: *goes to boss* hey can I have her water bottle?
Boss: *to you* oh just this once could she have your water? It would be so nice of you.

LOL at this attempt at an analogy. Back to the drawing board, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Well…that’s what we all do, isn’t it? We try and handle situations with grace even when we feel put out or when someone might be overstepping. I don’t see OP being annoyed about it as the grievous error that others here seem to. She behaved politely towards the family, and I just don’t think it’s a big deal.

The idea that you can read any of her posts and yet the words "grace" or "behaved politely" still trip off your tongue tells me you're either the OP sockpuppeting or there are a scary number of misanthropes out there. Kicking a kid out of a game mid-play because they're better at it than your kid isn't polite, for starters. But go ahead and insist that the only thing wrong with OP's behavior is some unexpressed inward annoyance; there's no point in going back and forth about it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Coworker: *takes your water bottle*
You: oh hey that’s my personal bottle, but there are lots of water bottles in the community kitchen
Coworker: *goes to boss* hey can I have her water bottle?
Boss: *to you* oh just this once could she have your water? It would be so nice of you.

That's not at all what it's like. In so many ways.

It's more like you have 5 mugs stored in the community kitchen. You're drinking from one. Coworker comes in, makes tea in another, puts it to her lips.

You (after watching her make the tea and take the first sip): Hi, by the way, that's mine, the ones in the kitchen upstairs are for everyone

Coworker: I'm sorry (puts mug down, leaves the room.

Coworker (to boss): I'm so embarassed, I accidentally drank out of one of Larla's mugs. She seemed upset.

Boss: She probably just wanted to be asked. She has a lot of mugs.

Coworker: Would you mind if I finished this tea?

You: No problem, can you wash it when you're done.

Coworker: Of course

You (later to the internet): I can't believe this terrible person!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Coworker: *takes your water bottle*
You: oh hey that’s my personal bottle, but there are lots of water bottles in the community kitchen
Coworker: *goes to boss* hey can I have her water bottle?
Boss: *to you* oh just this once could she have your water? It would be so nice of you.

This is... not anywhere close to a working analogy!

Pool rings are intended to be shared, and can be used by multiple people at the same time. It's not weird or unhygienic or bothersome to share. Also you had more than one in your possession. And youbwere dealing with kids at a pool not grown ups in an office. Not the same story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Well…that’s what we all do, isn’t it? We try and handle situations with grace even when we feel put out or when someone might be overstepping. I don’t see OP being annoyed about it as the grievous error that others here seem to. She behaved politely towards the family, and I just don’t think it’s a big deal.

The idea that you can read any of her posts and yet the words "grace" or "behaved politely" still trip off your tongue tells me you're either the OP sockpuppeting or there are a scary number of misanthropes out there. Kicking a kid out of a game mid-play because they're better at it than your kid isn't polite, for starters. But go ahead and insist that the only thing wrong with OP's behavior is some unexpressed inward annoyance; there's no point in going back and forth about it again.

I mean…you’re the one resorting to insults because I dared to say that it’s not a huge deal that OP behaved politely in the moment but was internally annoyed about it, so I’m not sure you’re the best arbiter of appropriate behavior. I also disagree with your characterization of her annoyance coming from the girl being “better” at the game…they weren’t playing together, the girl was going and getting the diving toys that OP had thrown for her son to dive for.

But as you say, there’s no point in going back and forth about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP was polite and did in fact share with the little girl, but was internally annoyed? Truly, she is history’s greatest monster.

We are living in strange times indeed when 10 pages of calling a little girl names on social media is considered "internal." No wonder people are using Chat-GPT as a therapist. They think the internet is the inside of their own head, evidently.

Were the thoughts expressed to the girl and her grandfather? No, she’s just venting anonymously online after the fact. People are allowed to be irritated about things and be imperfect. I don’t see what the big deal is.

The big deal is that her reaction to the interaction she described is miserly, outsized, and not at all the norm for how to behave in a community setting, and that she's not saying she's imperfect for being irritated, she's doubling and tripling down on the idea that everyone but her has terrible manners and is raising bad children. According to her the girl is obnoxious and demanding and a brat, all based on trying to play with another kid at a community pool and then asking to borrow a toy when she got kicked out mid-game by an adult.

Let's leave aside treating not expressing her thoughts to the girl or her grandfather as a virtue, in a post where she rants against people refusing to "stand up" to their kids. She's unlikeable enough without bringing in the hypocrisy.

Well…that’s what we all do, isn’t it? We try and handle situations with grace even when we feel put out or when someone might be overstepping. I don’t see OP being annoyed about it as the grievous error that others here seem to. She behaved politely towards the family, and I just don’t think it’s a big deal.

The idea that you can read any of her posts and yet the words "grace" or "behaved politely" still trip off your tongue tells me you're either the OP sockpuppeting or there are a scary number of misanthropes out there. Kicking a kid out of a game mid-play because they're better at it than your kid isn't polite, for starters. But go ahead and insist that the only thing wrong with OP's behavior is some unexpressed inward annoyance; there's no point in going back and forth about it again.

I mean…you’re the one resorting to insults because I dared to say that it’s not a huge deal that OP behaved politely in the moment but was internally annoyed about it, so I’m not sure you’re the best arbiter of appropriate behavior. I also disagree with your characterization of her annoyance coming from the girl being “better” at the game…they weren’t playing together, the girl was going and getting the diving toys that OP had thrown for her son to dive for.

But as you say, there’s no point in going back and forth about it.

Agree there are a whole lot of people on this thread claiming OP was impolite while they're being impolite to her.