DW's Inheritance- Beach House

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t co-own it, your wife is the owner. Her inheritance, not yours. So her decision.

Found the idiot that doesn't know about community property.

^Found the idiot who doesn't know the most basic point of inheritance laws.

What "basic point of inheritance law" invalidates community property provisions?*

* you don't need to answer because there is none, I just wanted to reiterate how dumb you are.

They did legal Paperwork to have the house put in both names jointly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who owns the beach house?

OP here. My wife and I own the house and have for 4 years. We pay the taxes, the insane insurance, and I alone handle all of the repairs of which there is plenty. The upkeep runs about 10 grand a year minimum and I easily spend a week's labor dealing with the petty stuff like plumbing leaks, rotted deck board, replacing shingles, grading the drive, dock repairs, etc. As anyone who owns a beach house will tell you- the upkeep is constant. Salt water and wind destroy most things.

Who owns this house on paper? Was there an actual transaction recorded whereby he transferred his interest in the property to you and your wife? If not, then you need to consult a lawyer and work this out before you try to deny him physical access to the house.

Can't read?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Inheritance is not considered community property in Virginia or most other states.

BS

Pp is correct. If not commingled, inheritance is considered seperate and is not community property. If op’s wife put op’s name on the deed, then it is commingled and shared. But if not, then it is seperate and not marital property.

PP is not correct. And you are wrong too. The entire thread exists because OP owns the house. If he didn't, this thread would make no sense.

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Oh my God you crazy posters….

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Going back to OP's question (because he didn't ask about who owns the beach house), yes, I agree with you and your wife that the answer should be "hell no". Like it would be one thing if he asked if he and his g/f and the 20 year old could stay there for a week in the summer for free, sure, fine, you're family, but some kid you've never even met and neither of you is even related to and his friend? HELL NO. You and your wife are in the right. Your BIL is insane.

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Brother in law is a sucker being played.

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Did you put it in writing? if so, tough sh** for him. I wouldnt even give this total unreasonable request of his the time of day

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The dude has $400,000 spare dollars. If it matters so much to him, he could rent his own beach house for his stepson for the summer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Inheritance is not considered community property in Virginia or most other states.

BS

Pp is correct. If not commingled, inheritance is considered seperate and is not community property. If op’s wife put op’s name on the deed, then it is commingled and shared. But if not, then it is seperate and not marital property.

PP is not correct. And you are wrong too. The entire thread exists because OP owns the house. If he didn't, this thread would make no sense.

NP. There are plenty of people who dont understand inheritance law and would assume the property is theirs just because theyre married. Please check yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:If the girlfriend is from there why doesn't she offer one of her relative's houses to a group of frat boys she's never met for the summer.

This! +♾️

she sounds like a user and abuser. And like she’s only going to be with him temporarily until she finds a bigger fool

BIL’s girlfriend is a single mom in her 40s or 50s currently dating the fool BIL who inherited millions of dollars and has no heirs. That’s a whale to someone her age.

I think it would be reasonable for BIL to ask if he could stay at the beach house for a week or two and bring his girlfriend and her son. It is not reasonable to ask for a 20yo who is not his son to use the beach house for the entire summer.

I personally would let my child or nephew stay with friends. I would not let the son of my BIL’s girlfriend.

No it’s not. Unless it’s a rental, who in their right mind lets someone they don’t know and their frat brothers stay even for a night in their house.

I’m a beach house owner - albeit one that costs far less to maintain and far less in insurance (probably far less of a flood risk). In most instances I don’t even let my adult kids stay there with friends unless we’re there. I worked extremely hard to afford it and it is someplace that brings me great joy. I have nice things that we take good care of. And I am not risking ruining that by letting people that I don’t know enough to trust stay there without us being present.

OP, there is nothing for you to do except hold your ground. If you haven’t changed locks or installed cameras you should. If they show up anyway, I’d give BIL ten minutes to get them out before you call the police.

I meant it is reasonable for the BIL to ask to stay, not the son of the girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have your wife say no. Change the locks. Get cameras you can monitor. What he did was wrong.

My grandmother has multiple homes including a beautiful condo in South Florida. I just saw one of my younger cousins threw a bachelorette for herself there with 9 people! I also found out she and her parents told my uncle who is the POA (my grandmother has health issues/dementia) that it was just her going down (and maybe her MOH) not 9 people. It was a huge liability for my grandmother.

I ended up getting a call from a neighbor (my uncle has no cell phone don’t ask me why) saying it was loud and unruly and wondered who was there. This is a very secure and luxury building with policies and limits on guests. But like your extended family my aunt most likely told her daughter to tell my uncle it was just her / just her and one friend. No way would he allow 9 people in a 2 bedroom condo!

It infuriates me because these people use it then break stuff. Same aunt above most likely broke a washing machine 2x and didn’t fix or buy another one. She is wealthy and can afford to buy or get someone in to fix it. They just leave the items broken for the cleaner to tell us about or the next person to figure out. It’s rude and inconsiderate and these are adults who are well-off and multiple homes of their own.

When it’s not their own home people usually treat places like junk.

There is no way I would allow it let alone frat boys. It’s also a huge liability. They know you have $ if something happens to them or someone else you’re insurance will be sued. Not worth it!

This is different. This would be direct grandchild of the owner. Very different than the son of a brother’s girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Inheritance is not considered community property in Virginia or most other states.

BS

Pp is correct. If not commingled, inheritance is considered seperate and is not community property. If op’s wife put op’s name on the deed, then it is commingled and shared. But if not, then it is seperate and not marital property.

Separate. It’s separate.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife's father died four years ago, her mother died 6 months later. The estate was large and included a big house in upper NW, a simple beach house in NC and a 2 bed Co-Op in Grammercy Park.

She has a brother (childless) living in Seattle. We are here in DC and have 3 kids. Neither my wife nor her brother wanted the NY apartment or the DC house. We wanted the NC beach house. He didn't, despite spending many summers there as a boy.

He was fine to have the proceeds of the sale of the other two properties distributed accordingly so we could have the beach house. Basically, we took ~$400,000 less than he did during the sales and called the beach house ours. Everyone was happy.

Now, he is dating a woman that is, ironically, from eastern NC; although, she lives in Seattle. She has a 20 yo son from a previous marriage living in NC. Long story short- my BIL has offered this kid and his frat brothers our beach house for the summer. We have never even met him. I told him no before I even spoke with my wife. Later, when I told my wife, she elevated it to a "hell no".

Now he's fuming and accusing us of 'taking' his 'childhood beach house'

How do you even begin to address an asshat like this?

Dweeb bachelor brother in law inherits millions (?) of dollars and suddenly a conniving power tripping divorced woman appears. She clearly has him by the balls and is certainly acting like a gold digger, which teases out she probably targeted him from the get-go after his financial windfall. You BIL is going to be taken to the cleaners by this pro and will be whining to y’all soon that everything is gone.

You have very active imagination.

You very clearly have not been dating in your late 40s. Let me be extremely blunt here- women first and foremost are concerned about a man's net worth and, secondly, about his height. Pretty much everything else is negotiable, but if you are broke or short you chances are slim to none.

They won't come straight out and ask your salary or 401K balance, but they know the questions to ask to get a ball park idea if you have $2 or $2,000,000.00 to your name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife's father died four years ago, her mother died 6 months later. The estate was large and included a big house in upper NW, a simple beach house in NC and a 2 bed Co-Op in Grammercy Park.

She has a brother (childless) living in Seattle. We are here in DC and have 3 kids. Neither my wife nor her brother wanted the NY apartment or the DC house. We wanted the NC beach house. He didn't, despite spending many summers there as a boy.

He was fine to have the proceeds of the sale of the other two properties distributed accordingly so we could have the beach house. Basically, we took ~$400,000 less than he did during the sales and called the beach house ours. Everyone was happy.

Now, he is dating a woman that is, ironically, from eastern NC; although, she lives in Seattle. She has a 20 yo son from a previous marriage living in NC. Long story short- my BIL has offered this kid and his frat brothers our beach house for the summer. We have never even met him. I told him no before I even spoke with my wife. Later, when I told my wife, she elevated it to a "hell no".

Now he's fuming and accusing us of 'taking' his 'childhood beach house'

How do you even begin to address an asshat like this?

Dweeb bachelor brother in law inherits millions (?) of dollars and suddenly a conniving power tripping divorced woman appears. She clearly has him by the balls and is certainly acting like a gold digger, which teases out she probably targeted him from the get-go after his financial windfall. You BIL is going to be taken to the cleaners by this pro and will be whining to y’all soon that everything is gone.

You have very active imagination.

You very clearly have not been dating in your late 40s. Let me be extremely blunt here- women first and foremost are concerned about a man's net worth and, secondly, about his height. Pretty much everything else is negotiable, but if you are broke or short you chances are slim to none.

They won't come straight out and ask your salary or 401K balance, but they know the questions to ask to get a ball park idea if you have $2 or $2,000,000.00 to your name.

Why it didn’t occur to you that we are asking these questions because we have $5,000,000 to our own name at this point and simply don’t want to support a man ? Particular when nobody is benefiting from SAH and no kids are planned

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Inheritance is not considered community property in Virginia or most other states.

BS

Pp is correct. If not commingled, inheritance is considered seperate and is not community property. If op’s wife put op’s name on the deed, then it is commingled and shared. But if not, then it is seperate and not marital property.

PP is not correct. And you are wrong too. The entire thread exists because OP owns the house. If he didn't, this thread would make no sense.

NP. There are plenty of people who dont understand inheritance law and would assume the property is theirs just because theyre married. Please check yourself.

OP has stated, clearly, several times, that the house is owned jointly. Are you ignoring that on purpose? You just like to argue?