DW's Inheritance- Beach House

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t co-own it, your wife is the owner. Her inheritance, not yours. So her decision.

Bingo! You don't own half OP.

He does if wife added him to the deed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife's father died four years ago, her mother died 6 months later. The estate was large and included a big house in upper NW, a simple beach house in NC and a 2 bed Co-Op in Grammercy Park.

She has a brother (childless) living in Seattle. We are here in DC and have 3 kids. Neither my wife nor her brother wanted the NY apartment or the DC house. We wanted the NC beach house. He didn't, despite spending many summers there as a boy.

He was fine to have the proceeds of the sale of the other two properties distributed accordingly so we could have the beach house. Basically, we took ~$400,000 less than he did during the sales and called the beach house ours. Everyone was happy.

Now, he is dating a woman that is, ironically, from eastern NC; although, she lives in Seattle. She has a 20 yo son from a previous marriage living in NC. Long story short- my BIL has offered this kid and his frat brothers our beach house for the summer. We have never even met him. I told him no before I even spoke with my wife. Later, when I told my wife, she elevated it to a "hell no".

Now he's fuming and accusing us of 'taking' his 'childhood beach house'

How do you even begin to address an asshat like this?

Dweeb bachelor brother in law inherits millions (?) of dollars and suddenly a conniving power tripping divorced woman appears. She clearly has him by the balls and is certainly acting like a gold digger, which teases out she probably targeted him from the get-go after his financial windfall. You BIL is going to be taken to the cleaners by this pro and will be whining to y’all soon that everything is gone.

You have very active imagination.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the girlfriend is from there why doesn't she offer one of her relative's houses to a group of frat boys she's never met for the summer.

This! +♾️

she sounds like a user and abuser. And like she’s only going to be with him temporarily until she finds a bigger fool

BIL’s girlfriend is a single mom in her 40s or 50s currently dating the fool BIL who inherited millions of dollars and has no heirs. That’s a whale to someone her age.

She must be smoking hot.

Unlikely. The brother in law is just hard up and desperate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's father died four years ago, her mother died 6 months later. The estate was large and included a big house in upper NW, a simple beach house in NC and a 2 bed Co-Op in Grammercy Park.

She has a brother (childless) living in Seattle. We are here in DC and have 3 kids. Neither my wife nor her brother wanted the NY apartment or the DC house. We wanted the NC beach house. He didn't, despite spending many summers there as a boy.

He was fine to have the proceeds of the sale of the other two properties distributed accordingly so we could have the beach house. Basically, we took ~$400,000 less than he did during the sales and called the beach house ours. Everyone was happy.

Now, he is dating a woman that is, ironically, from eastern NC; although, she lives in Seattle. She has a 20 yo son from a previous marriage living in NC. Long story short- my BIL has offered this kid and his frat brothers our beach house for the summer. We have never even met him. I told him no before I even spoke with my wife. Later, when I told my wife, she elevated it to a "hell no".

Now he's fuming and accusing us of 'taking' his 'childhood beach house'

How do you even begin to address an asshat like this?

Dweeb bachelor brother in law inherits millions (?) of dollars and suddenly a conniving power tripping divorced woman appears. She clearly has him by the balls and is certainly acting like a gold digger, which teases out she probably targeted him from the get-go after his financial windfall. You BIL is going to be taken to the cleaners by this pro and will be whining to y’all soon that everything is gone.

You have very active imagination.

OP provided enough details. Childless and unmarried to… millionaire trust finder… to whipped by a divorced single mom and trying to give her college aged son a rental worth $50K-60K. Who does that? Someone who has lost their damn mind and is being played like a fiddle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Inheritance is not considered community property in Virginia or most other states.

BS

Pp is correct. If not commingled, inheritance is considered seperate and is not community property. If op’s wife put op’s name on the deed, then it is commingled and shared. But if not, then it is seperate and not marital property.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the girlfriend is from there why doesn't she offer one of her relative's houses to a group of frat boys she's never met for the summer.

This! +♾️

she sounds like a user and abuser. And like she’s only going to be with him temporarily until she finds a bigger fool

BIL’s girlfriend is a single mom in her 40s or 50s currently dating the fool BIL who inherited millions of dollars and has no heirs. That’s a whale to someone her age.

I think it would be reasonable for BIL to ask if he could stay at the beach house for a week or two and bring his girlfriend and her son. It is not reasonable to ask for a 20yo who is not his son to use the beach house for the entire summer.

I personally would let my child or nephew stay with friends. I would not let the son of my BIL’s girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the girlfriend is from there why doesn't she offer one of her relative's houses to a group of frat boys she's never met for the summer.

This! +♾️

she sounds like a user and abuser. And like she’s only going to be with him temporarily until she finds a bigger fool

BIL’s girlfriend is a single mom in her 40s or 50s currently dating the fool BIL who inherited millions of dollars and has no heirs. That’s a whale to someone her age.

I think it would be reasonable for BIL to ask if he could stay at the beach house for a week or two and bring his girlfriend and her son. It is not reasonable to ask for a 20yo who is not his son to use the beach house for the entire summer.

I personally would let my child or nephew stay with friends. I would not let the son of my BIL’s girlfriend.

No it’s not. Unless it’s a rental, who in their right mind lets someone they don’t know and their frat brothers stay even for a night in their house.

I’m a beach house owner - albeit one that costs far less to maintain and far less in insurance (probably far less of a flood risk). In most instances I don’t even let my adult kids stay there with friends unless we’re there. I worked extremely hard to afford it and it is someplace that brings me great joy. I have nice things that we take good care of. And I am not risking ruining that by letting people that I don’t know enough to trust stay there without us being present.

OP, there is nothing for you to do except hold your ground. If you haven’t changed locks or installed cameras you should. If they show up anyway, I’d give BIL ten minutes to get them out before you call the police.

[Anonymous]

"Sorry, we don't rent our beach house."

The end.

[Anonymous]

This is exactly why I’m trying to talk DH out of buying out his cousins on their grandfather’s house. Even if they get the cash, they will feel like DH “took grandpa’s house”.

[Anonymous]

A multi-millionaire childless bachelor trust funder and the best he can do is some menopausal single mom trying to scam him. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who owns the beach house?

OP here. My wife and I own the house and have for 4 years. We pay the taxes, the insane insurance, and I alone handle all of the repairs of which there is plenty. The upkeep runs about 10 grand a year minimum and I easily spend a week's labor dealing with the petty stuff like plumbing leaks, rotted deck board, replacing shingles, grading the drive, dock repairs, etc. As anyone who owns a beach house will tell you- the upkeep is constant. Salt water and wind destroy most things.

Then you have your answer. Brother didn't want it - took the money and now is living in regret.

[Anonymous]

I hope you changed the BH locks. And I would send the paperwork you all signed at asset distribution to remind Brother of the decisions he made.

[Anonymous]

As a beach house owner and one who previously rented said house...there is no way on God's green earth I would let a 20 yrs, with or without friends, stay at my beach house for even a weekend.

[Anonymous]

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OP said pages ago that he AND his wife have owned the beach house for 4 years. The BIL is not the legal owner. OP is, and his wife, jointly.

Learn to read.

We have asked him several times who owns the property on paper, and he has not answered that question. He has just alluded to an unequal distribution of profits from the sale of two other properties and the fact that he and his wife pay for and provide all of the upkeep.

Actually OP did respond and answered.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t co-own it, your wife is the owner. Her inheritance, not yours. So her decision.

Bingo! You don't own half OP.

You're a doofus - read back a few pages where OP said they had the house put in both their names - JOINTLY