DW's Inheritance- Beach House

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Anonymous wrote:My wife's father died four years ago, her mother died 6 months later. The estate was large and included a big house in upper NW, a simple beach house in NC and a 2 bed Co-Op in Grammercy Park.

She has a brother (childless) living in Seattle. We are here in DC and have 3 kids. Neither my wife nor her brother wanted the NY apartment or the DC house. We wanted the NC beach house. He didn't, despite spending many summers there as a boy.

He was fine to have the proceeds of the sale of the other two properties distributed accordingly so we could have the beach house. Basically, we took ~$400,000 less than he did during the sales and called the beach house ours. Everyone was happy.

Now, he is dating a woman that is, ironically, from eastern NC; although, she lives in Seattle. She has a 20 yo son from a previous marriage living in NC. Long story short- my BIL has offered this kid and his frat brothers our beach house for the summer. We have never even met him. I told him no before I even spoke with my wife. Later, when I told my wife, she elevated it to a "hell no".

Now he's fuming and accusing us of 'taking' his 'childhood beach house'

How do you even begin to address an asshat like this?

Dweeb bachelor brother in law inherits millions (?) of dollars and suddenly a conniving power tripping divorced woman appears. She clearly has him by the balls and is certainly acting like a gold digger, which teases out she probably targeted him from the get-go after his financial windfall. You BIL is going to be taken to the cleaners by this pro and will be whining to y’all soon that everything is gone.

You have very active imagination.

You very clearly have not been dating in your late 40s. Let me be extremely blunt here- women first and foremost are concerned about a man's net worth and, secondly, about his height. Pretty much everything else is negotiable, but if you are broke or short you chances are slim to none.

They won't come straight out and ask your salary or 401K balance, but they know the questions to ask to get a ball park idea if you have $2 or $2,000,000.00 to your name.

Why it didn’t occur to you that we are asking these questions because we have $5,000,000 to our own name at this point and simply don’t want to support a man ? Particular when nobody is benefiting from SAH and no kids are planned

So, you think a woman who is asking her brand new BF to support her grown child for the summer has 5 million to her name? LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Inheritance is not considered community property in Virginia or most other states.

BS

Pp is correct. If not commingled, inheritance is considered seperate and is not community property. If op’s wife put op’s name on the deed, then it is commingled and shared. But if not, then it is seperate and not marital property.

PP is not correct. And you are wrong too. The entire thread exists because OP owns the house. If he didn't, this thread would make no sense.

NP. There are plenty of people who dont understand inheritance law and would assume the property is theirs just because theyre married. Please check yourself.

OP has stated, clearly, several times, that the house is owned jointly. Are you ignoring that on purpose? You just like to argue?

There are two different points being made here. One is a clarification of how inheritance works (it’s not marital property if it’s not commingled) and the other is op’s specific situation, where it seems it was commingled by adding op to the title.

[Anonymous]

Shame on OP for not having the beach house retitled when they gave BIL $400k more in cash for his half. Lesson learned.

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Anonymous wrote:Inheritance is not considered community property in Virginia or most other states.

BS

Pp is correct. If not commingled, inheritance is considered seperate and is not community property. If op’s wife put op’s name on the deed, then it is commingled and shared. But if not, then it is seperate and not marital property.

PP is not correct. And you are wrong too. The entire thread exists because OP owns the house. If he didn't, this thread would make no sense.

NP. There are plenty of people who dont understand inheritance law and would assume the property is theirs just because theyre married. Please check yourself.

Check your reading comprehension. That is NOT was OP said in many retorts. He said they legally moved the house into BOTH of their names. Man you are dumb. It WAS an inherited property reclassified legally as a joint marital asset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shame on OP for not having the beach house retitled when they gave BIL $400k more in cash for his half. Lesson learned.

Read above - it was retitled

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Anonymous wrote:Shame on OP for not having the beach house retitled when they gave BIL $400k more in cash for his half. Lesson learned.

Read above - it was retitled

Correct. PP is a troll