Took 1.5 years to find this hire and she quits after a week

[Anonymous]

I'm really sorry, OP! All that work and excitment down the drain!

But please don't hold it against her. She's sacrificing her career for an in-law. That's really tough. Or she's lying, in which case she's not the person for you.

Take a break, then keep looking.

[Anonymous]

I would never move for an in-law with fronto-temporal dementia. But that's just me and my cold heart.

Carry on, OP. These things happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am FURIOUS. It took me 1.5 years to find the right person. She comes and does great. I get her to meet with every department head, send out a company-wide email that she’s joined the team, she set up meetings with others for this week to discuss the plans she had to make changes to their teams, we had started to discuss future plans she wanted to make to the department, etc., so she got very involved her first week.

I asked her Friday what her plans were and she said that she had to fly to GA because her father in law had a rare form of dementia, he’s not doing well, it’s just her husband taking care of him, and they needed to meet his doctors and her husband was already down there meeting with some of them. Last night she sent me a resignation letter saying that he was doing worse than they had thought and it would be financially better to relocate there instead of hiring 24/7 home care. She was resigning immediate to stay there to take care of him.

I am incredibly furious and embarrassed that she would do this. Just needed to vent.

You need to reflect on what a bad person you are. Her FIL/ husband need her and all you can think of is you and your needs.

I'm glad she is leaving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

Jesus. There's work ethic and there's disassociation. Get your head checked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s probably lying, but that’s ok. It’s life.

You suck too pp. Not everyone is a liar like you.

[Anonymous]

What type of specialty in HR? I agree with another poster that said that HR specialists are everywhere! From, recruiting, benefits, compensation, HRIS, etc. just do a quick search on LinkedIn. It should not take a year and a half to fill an HR specialist role for any of the HR disciplines unless there's something wrong with either the job description, or your company. I think you need to take a step back and reevaluate before you repost the job.

[Anonymous]

My guess is that they brought this in-house, thinking they would save money from whatever they were paying an outside agency to handle this HR function. Hence why it took so long to recruit someone - the pay had to be miserly.

You get what you pay for, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What type of specialty in HR? I agree with another poster that said that HR specialists are everywhere! From, recruiting, benefits, compensation, HRIS, etc. just do a quick search on LinkedIn. It should not take a year and a half to fill an HR specialist role for any of the HR disciplines unless there's something wrong with either the job description, or your company. I think you need to take a step back and reevaluate before you repost the job.

We’re in the architecture and engineering space. I needed someone who had that background and who specializes in recruiting. Then I had to find the right personality fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry, OP! All that work and excitment down the drain!

But please don't hold it against her. She's sacrificing her career for an in-law. That's really tough. Or she's lying, in which case she's not the person for you.

Take a break, then keep looking.

+1

My friend’s father was diagnosed with dementia and went down really fast. He needed 24/7 care and was very difficult situation so I don’t doubt that this is a real scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is lying. I had a new hire do this to me.

Same scenario I calmed explained I went through this mom and you can order hospital bed and stuff from Medicaid ot Medicaid shop it to your house. Move the person your house. Insurance covers 20 hours a week for help and pay out of pocket rest.

It became apparent the parent was an excuse to quit.

I am flabbergasted that you did this and have declared the employee a liar because they didn't follow your "advice." Not everyone is equipped to move a parent with dementia to their home and pay out of pocket for much of the costs. But if it was an excuse to quit, I don't blame the employee. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HR person here - managers like the OP drive me crazy.

+1 from an HR manager. There are always those managers who have a hard time recruiting and keeping team members.

Agree that family issues aside, OP might be a complete nightmare to work for or the position is too demanding for a single resource. Either way, OP needs to rework the role description and accommodations.

yes plus she keeps coming back and not getting it. this person would be a terror to work for. the employee who quit dodged a bullet.
op REALLLY you need to examine yourself.

[Anonymous]

NP. As a supervisor, I've seen it all. I give it 75% that she is lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why’d you give so much work the first week? Probably why she quit.

Since she's in HR she got to take a look under the hood of the organization.....and ran for the hills.

This should tell you something, OP. But I doubt you will learn the lesson.

She was making connections with people and I constantly saw her laughing with people outside of her department, so it wasn’t because of the organization

OMG - do you not have an ounce of self reflection? It's YOU, OP - it's you. Or the dept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What type of specialty in HR? I agree with another poster that said that HR specialists are everywhere! From, recruiting, benefits, compensation, HRIS, etc. just do a quick search on LinkedIn. It should not take a year and a half to fill an HR specialist role for any of the HR disciplines unless there's something wrong with either the job description, or your company. I think you need to take a step back and reevaluate before you repost the job.

We’re in the architecture and engineering space. I needed someone who had that background and who specializes in recruiting. Then I had to find the right personality fit.

Well you obviously weren't good at evaluating personality so maybe you have misjudged other aspects of the hiring process and job description too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

thisis sick and wrong and in many ways what is wrong with America