Took 1.5 years to find this hire and she quits after a week

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am really confused why people think she's lying. I think it seems completely believable. Dementia is absolutely something that can go downhill quickly. FIL was probably forgetful a month ago and now, on their visit, they discovered he's living in total squalor and incapable of self-care. Fiancé probably said he was moving with or without her, but please come. If she wants to get married, she has to go. She was probably hoping that OP would offer some remote option/flexibility, because it's possible this will be a short-term thing (depending on the type of dementia, he very well may require hospitalization eventually).

She said it’s called ft something dementia. Whatever it is she said it’s rare.

Frontal lobe dementia? That can be a beast to manage.

When I talked to her on Friday she called it frontal temporal. I’m assuming it’s the same thing that you mentioned.

Maybe spend less time on DCUM (you've been posting all day) and more time working on the position description for this job. Or supervising staff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am really confused why people think she's lying. I think it seems completely believable. Dementia is absolutely something that can go downhill quickly. FIL was probably forgetful a month ago and now, on their visit, they discovered he's living in total squalor and incapable of self-care. Fiancé probably said he was moving with or without her, but please come. If she wants to get married, she has to go. She was probably hoping that OP would offer some remote option/flexibility, because it's possible this will be a short-term thing (depending on the type of dementia, he very well may require hospitalization eventually).

She said it’s called ft something dementia. Whatever it is she said it’s rare.

Frontal lobe dementia? That can be a beast to manage.

When I talked to her on Friday she called it frontal temporal. I’m assuming it’s the same thing that you mentioned.

frontotemporal dementia is real and terrible. She probably isn't lying to you. But there is something wrong with your company and/or you as a manager if it took 18 months to get someone into this position. This is another opportunity for you to fix it lest you spend another year+ trying to hire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is lying. I had a new hire do this to me.

Same scenario I calmed explained I went through this mom and you can order hospital bed and stuff from Medicaid ot Medicaid shop it to your house. Move the person your house. Insurance covers 20 hours a week for help and pay out of pocket rest.

It became apparent the parent was an excuse to quit.

Not everyone has a spare room in their house to move a parent and/or the ability to care for them all the other hours of the week beyond the 20 covered hours. You were so out of line to tell this employee how to manage their family’s health situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She is lying. I had a new hire do this to me.

Same scenario I calmed explained I went through this mom and you can order hospital bed and stuff from Medicaid ot Medicaid shop it to your house. Move the person your house. Insurance covers 20 hours a week for help and pay out of pocket rest.

It became apparent the parent was an excuse to quit.

Not everyone has a spare room in their house to move a parent and/or the ability to care for them all the other hours of the week beyond the 20 covered hours. You were so out of line to tell this employee how to manage their family’s health situation.

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[Anonymous]

The women is a scumbag move on. She knew damn well about FIL issue and took a job she knew she was going to quit

I also call BS as when my parents passed away I was mainly involved and wife parents mainly involved.

This is just an out of state in law. Just hire someone or put him in a home

[Anonymous]

I was with you until you said she was an HR specialist. Why the hell did it take 18 months? I could fill this position in two days.

I was expecting you to say some special science or regulatory position.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She is lying. I had a new hire do this to me.

Same scenario I calmed explained I went through this mom and you can order hospital bed and stuff from Medicaid ot Medicaid shop it to your house. Move the person your house. Insurance covers 20 hours a week for help and pay out of pocket rest.

It became apparent the parent was an excuse to quit.

Not everyone has a spare room in their house to move a parent and/or the ability to care for them all the other hours of the week beyond the 20 covered hours. You were so out of line to tell this employee how to manage their family’s health situation.

and the OP is in HR - I can't even imagine being this bad at my job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women is a scumbag move on. She knew damn well about FIL issue and took a job she knew she was going to quit

I also call BS as when my parents passed away I was mainly involved and wife parents mainly involved.

This is just an out of state in law. Just hire someone or put him in a home

Please don't be a real poster, please don't be a real poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is lying. I had a new hire do this to me.

Same scenario I calmed explained I went through this mom and you can order hospital bed and stuff from Medicaid ot Medicaid shop it to your house. Move the person your house. Insurance covers 20 hours a week for help and pay out of pocket rest.

It became apparent the parent was an excuse to quit.

Not everyone has a spare room in their house to move a parent and/or the ability to care for them all the other hours of the week beyond the 20 covered hours. You were so out of line to tell this employee how to manage their family’s health situation.

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You mean my divorced staff with a four bedroom house and no kids at home. She also had zero FMLA as new job and my job in person too. Her cobra was running low she jumped on my job to get on insurance then quit.

But my best staff member who wanted promotion she got started job hunting due to hiring her then also quit.

In end I hired better people. Not con artists.

In the end I found out person died and in her few weeks she pretended not dead. I caught her and claimed estate stuff. Luckily she quit.

Can you reread this post - it makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am FURIOUS. It took me 1.5 years to find the right person. She comes and does great. I get her to meet with every department head, send out a company-wide email that she’s joined the team, she set up meetings with others for this week to discuss the plans she had to make changes to their teams, we had started to discuss future plans she wanted to make to the department, etc., so she got very involved her first week.

I asked her Friday what her plans were and she said that she had to fly to GA because her father in law had a rare form of dementia, he’s not doing well, it’s just her husband taking care of him, and they needed to meet his doctors and her husband was already down there meeting with some of them. Last night she sent me a resignation letter saying that he was doing worse than they had thought and it would be financially better to relocate there instead of hiring 24/7 home care. She was resigning immediate to stay there to take care of him.

I am incredibly furious and embarrassed that she would do this. Just needed to vent.

This better be a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is lying. I had a new hire do this to me.

Same scenario I calmed explained I went through this mom and you can order hospital bed and stuff from Medicaid ot Medicaid shop it to your house. Move the person your house. Insurance covers 20 hours a week for help and pay out of pocket rest.

It became apparent the parent was an excuse to quit.

You have no right -NONE- to tell people how to manage medical decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am FURIOUS. It took me 1.5 years to find the right person. She comes and does great. I get her to meet with every department head, send out a company-wide email that she’s joined the team, she set up meetings with others for this week to discuss the plans she had to make changes to their teams, we had started to discuss future plans she wanted to make to the department, etc., so she got very involved her first week.

I asked her Friday what her plans were and she said that she had to fly to GA because her father in law had a rare form of dementia, he’s not doing well, it’s just her husband taking care of him, and they needed to meet his doctors and her husband was already down there meeting with some of them. Last night she sent me a resignation letter saying that he was doing worse than they had thought and it would be financially better to relocate there instead of hiring 24/7 home care. She was resigning immediate to stay there to take care of him.

I am incredibly furious and embarrassed that she would do this. Just needed to vent.

Um...what? Sounds like she dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You suck as a human.

Seriously, you are furious that someone is leaving to take care of a dying family member?

+1 Perspective, OP, perspective.

+1000

It sucks for OP, but have some compassion OP! The new hire is dealing with an actual life & death family situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am really confused why people think she's lying. I think it seems completely believable. Dementia is absolutely something that can go downhill quickly. FIL was probably forgetful a month ago and now, on their visit, they discovered he's living in total squalor and incapable of self-care. Fiancé probably said he was moving with or without her, but please come. If she wants to get married, she has to go. She was probably hoping that OP would offer some remote option/flexibility, because it's possible this will be a short-term thing (depending on the type of dementia, he very well may require hospitalization eventually).

Sorry, nope. I lived in a different part of the country from my fiance for work for a year. Normal people would stay in their job while looking in the new city for a new job. She's lying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am really confused why people think she's lying. I think it seems completely believable. Dementia is absolutely something that can go downhill quickly. FIL was probably forgetful a month ago and now, on their visit, they discovered he's living in total squalor and incapable of self-care. Fiancé probably said he was moving with or without her, but please come. If she wants to get married, she has to go. She was probably hoping that OP would offer some remote option/flexibility, because it's possible this will be a short-term thing (depending on the type of dementia, he very well may require hospitalization eventually).

Sorry, nope. I lived in a different part of the country from my fiance for work for a year. Normal people would stay in their job while looking in the new city for a new job. She's lying.

“Normal” lol.

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