Took 1.5 years to find this hire and she quits after a week

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

thisis sick and wrong and in many ways what is wrong with America

I think that person is a troll. There are a couple of poorly written posts from around the same time that are probably from the same person, possibly from outside the U.S.

It reads like the J1 J2 guy.

J1 J2 is a fascinating case study. Seems to be obsessed with workplace shirking, self and others.

I don't get why Jeff doesn't just block his IP address.

You do realize posters like him bring in the profits.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are you furious about? I doubt she took this decision lightly and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. Give the lady some grace.

I am furious because 1) I don’t believe she’s being honest 2) didn’t give a notice

If she started a week ago, what, exactly was she going to do for two weeks of notice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So did you call her and tell her she can work remotely for as long as she needs and you will fly her up for team meetings every X weeks since is the person you need but family comes first?

+1

If she’s young she might not know about Fmla and you should have told her

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry. She wasn’t the right person. After 1.5 years you still have not found the right person. I would change the job. If it isn’t fillable, you need to rethink it.

This. You are clearly being too picky about this position.

That and remote work isn't an option.

I should specify, it can go 2 days hybrid on set days after 3 months.

😒 with Fmla she can wfh every day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So did you call her and tell her she can work remotely for as long as she needs and you will fly her up for team meetings every X weeks since is the person you need but family comes first?

+1

If she’s young she might not know about Fmla and you should have told her

FMLA wouldn't apply here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s probably lying, but that’s ok. It’s life.

I had the same thought.

She ^%$#ing hated it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So did you call her and tell her she can work remotely for as long as she needs and you will fly her up for team meetings every X weeks since is the person you need but family comes first?

+1

If she’s young she might not know about Fmla and you should have told her

FMLA wouldn't apply here.

Yeah, not sure why people are rambling about FMLA when she was there a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am FURIOUS. It took me 1.5 years to find the right person. She comes and does great. I get her to meet with every department head, send out a company-wide email that she’s joined the team, she set up meetings with others for this week to discuss the plans she had to make changes to their teams, we had started to discuss future plans she wanted to make to the department, etc., so she got very involved her first week.

I asked her Friday what her plans were and she said that she had to fly to GA because her father in law had a rare form of dementia, he’s not doing well, it’s just her husband taking care of him, and they needed to meet his doctors and her husband was already down there meeting with some of them. Last night she sent me a resignation letter saying that he was doing worse than they had thought and it would be financially better to relocate there instead of hiring 24/7 home care. She was resigning immediate to stay there to take care of him.

I am incredibly furious and embarrassed that she would do this. Just needed to vent.

You sound absolutely insufferable, I bet you scared off the applicant. Why are you spending 1.5 years to fill a position? You obviously don't really need it.

If you worked at my company, I'd fire you first.

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't you offer her telework or a few months to figure it out? with that amount of sickness he will probably not survive and then you will have an amazingly loyal employee that loved that you took care of her in her time of need!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you offer her telework or a few months to figure it out? with that amount of sickness he will probably not survive and then you will have an amazingly loyal employee that loved that you took care of her in her time of need!

Employers who take a year+ to fill a position definitely wouldn't do something as common sense as this.

[Anonymous]

She owes you nothing.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your company sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. She wasn’t the right person. After 1.5 years you still have not found the right person. I would change the job. If it isn’t fillable, you need to rethink it.

This. You are clearly being too picky about this position.

That and remote work isn't an option.

I should specify, it can go 2 days hybrid on set days after 3 months.

😒 with Fmla she can wfh every day

FMLA applies after a year of employment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

thisis sick and wrong and in many ways what is wrong with America

I think that person is a troll. There are a couple of poorly written posts from around the same time that are probably from the same person, possibly from outside the U.S.

It reads like the J1 J2 guy.

J1 J2 is a fascinating case study. Seems to be obsessed with workplace shirking, self and others.

I don't get why Jeff doesn't just block his IP address.

You do realize posters like him bring in the profits.

This plus no IP address if on data only

Or use an IP scrambler and link through random IPs every minute

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So did you call her and tell her she can work remotely for as long as she needs and you will fly her up for team meetings every X weeks since is the person you need but family comes first?

We don’t do remote work

Apparently you also don’t do empathy.