Took 1.5 years to find this hire and she quits after a week

[Anonymous]

I am FURIOUS. It took me 1.5 years to find the right person. She comes and does great. I get her to meet with every department head, send out a company-wide email that she’s joined the team, she set up meetings with others for this week to discuss the plans she had to make changes to their teams, we had started to discuss future plans she wanted to make to the department, etc., so she got very involved her first week.

I asked her Friday what her plans were and she said that she had to fly to GA because her father in law had a rare form of dementia, he’s not doing well, it’s just her husband taking care of him, and they needed to meet his doctors and her husband was already down there meeting with some of them. Last night she sent me a resignation letter saying that he was doing worse than they had thought and it would be financially better to relocate there instead of hiring 24/7 home care. She was resigning immediate to stay there to take care of him.

I am incredibly furious and embarrassed that she would do this. Just needed to vent.

[Anonymous]

You suck as a human.

Seriously, you are furious that someone is leaving to take care of a dying family member?

[Anonymous]

Sorry. She wasn’t the right person. After 1.5 years you still have not found the right person. I would change the job. If it isn’t fillable, you need to rethink it.

[Anonymous]

So did you call her and tell her she can work remotely for as long as she needs and you will fly her up for team meetings every X weeks since is the person you need but family comes first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So did you call her and tell her she can work remotely for as long as she needs and you will fly her up for team meetings every X weeks since is the person you need but family comes first?

We don’t do remote work

[Anonymous]

She’s probably lying, but that’s ok. It’s life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s probably lying, but that’s ok. It’s life.

Why do you think that. She could be telling the truth? She did tell op beforehand what was going on.

[Anonymous]

I would be super frustrated as a manager and empathetic as a human.

She seems like she would be a great employee "I am so sorry you are leaving us. You had a great first week and if you are ever looking for work back in this area, let me know. I wish you and your family the best."

[Anonymous]

That does suck but also it is never good to bring on new hire and immediately have them make changes.

[Anonymous]

Did she apologize or just explain why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. She wasn’t the right person. After 1.5 years you still have not found the right person. I would change the job. If it isn’t fillable, you need to rethink it.

This. You are clearly being too picky about this position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You suck as a human.

Seriously, you are furious that someone is leaving to take care of a dying family member?

+1 Perspective, OP, perspective.

[Anonymous]

if it took you 1.5 years to find someone for a job, you're doing it wrong. I work in a highly technical field and even with all the speciality requirements, it never takes more than 3 months to fill a position (and that includes security clearances). Maybe talk to HR why no one wants to work for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s probably lying, but that’s ok. It’s life.

Why do you think that. She could be telling the truth? She did tell op beforehand what was going on.

I think she got a better offer, or maybe she realized OP has anger issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. She wasn’t the right person. After 1.5 years you still have not found the right person. I would change the job. If it isn’t fillable, you need to rethink it.

This. You are clearly being too picky about this position.

That and remote work isn't an option.