Youth sports and over scheduling

[Anonymous]

Why does everyone here on DCUM have some a negative view of teens? It's so crazy to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to I think be guided by the kid. They don't lead at young ages but what do they want to do/what are they good at? It could be sports. If it is soccer it is just fun rec soccer. If they don't like it; don't do it. Then comes travel which can be fun not crazy. If they like it and are good and want to take it to the next level then go ahead. Most kids will not want to and will not have the ability to. But if they do, support them.

Sports can be a huge financial and time commitment. It's really isn't as simple as just supporting them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to I think be guided by the kid. They don't lead at young ages but what do they want to do/what are they good at? It could be sports. If it is soccer it is just fun rec soccer. If they don't like it; don't do it. Then comes travel which can be fun not crazy. If they like it and are good and want to take it to the next level then go ahead. Most kids will not want to and will not have the ability to. But if they do, support them.

Sports can be a huge financial and time commitment. It's really isn't as simple as just supporting them.

That is also covered in the article. If you can't, you can't... don't get mad at the parent who can.

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Anonymous wrote:We know a girl who is in travel basketball, soccer and flag football and who also swims, runs and does "rec" lacrosse. It's none of my business and maybe she is desperate to do all of these things. But I feel like-- when does she just get to be a kid?!

Is she playing all those sports with adults?

Organized, supervised play isn't the same.

Nobody said it’s the same but it’s still being a kid. It actually builds bonds that normal play doesn’t build.

Lol no its not the same. You are delusional if you think that standing around listening to a coach and following directions is the same as deciding what to play, making your own rules, resolving conflicts on your own, playing with younger and older kids, getting along with annoying kids etc is the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone here on DCUM have some a negative view of teens? It's so crazy to me.

I wouldn't say we have a negative view, but those of us who have teenagers have a realistic view of what can go wrong when they're unsupervised.

Also, this generation of teens is navigating through unique challenges that we, as parents, had no experience in our childhood. The prevalence of social media and the potential risks of internet predators are a few of these challenges.

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Anonymous wrote:We know a girl who is in travel basketball, soccer and flag football and who also swims, runs and does "rec" lacrosse. It's none of my business and maybe she is desperate to do all of these things. But I feel like-- when does she just get to be a kid?!

Is she playing all those sports with adults?

Organized, supervised play isn't the same.

Nobody said it’s the same but it’s still being a kid. It actually builds bonds that normal play doesn’t build.

Lol no its not the same. You are delusional if you think that standing around listening to a coach and following directions is the same as deciding what to play, making your own rules, resolving conflicts on your own, playing with younger and older kids, getting along with annoying kids etc is the same.

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Anonymous wrote:We know a girl who is in travel basketball, soccer and flag football and who also swims, runs and does "rec" lacrosse. It's none of my business and maybe she is desperate to do all of these things. But I feel like-- when does she just get to be a kid?!

Is she playing all those sports with adults?

Organized, supervised play isn't the same.

Nobody said it’s the same but it’s still being a kid. It actually builds bonds that normal play doesn’t build.

Lol no its not the same. You are delusional if you think that standing around listening to a coach and following directions is the same as deciding what to play, making your own rules, resolving conflicts on your own, playing with younger and older kids, getting along with annoying kids etc is the same.

It’s bizarre you think these kids only go to practice and play games together.

Also you are just mad your kids need our kids to play. Our kids are doing all of that with their friends on the sports teams and when they get home

Wild! You think kids are playing their sports 14 hours a day?

Like I said they get home and creek, build forts, play capture the flag, play tag, back yard football, etc. they make up games too.

Y’all just mad we RSVP no to birthdays and athletes and musicians get into great colleges.

[Anonymous]

People know other people, we all know kids who are overscheduled whether you want to admit it or not. Also, there is only so much time in a day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We know a girl who is in travel basketball, soccer and flag football and who also swims, runs and does "rec" lacrosse. It's none of my business and maybe she is desperate to do all of these things. But I feel like-- when does she just get to be a kid?!

Is she playing all those sports with adults?

Organized, supervised play isn't the same.

Nobody said it’s the same but it’s still being a kid. It actually builds bonds that normal play doesn’t build.

Lol no its not the same. You are delusional if you think that standing around listening to a coach and following directions is the same as deciding what to play, making your own rules, resolving conflicts on your own, playing with younger and older kids, getting along with annoying kids etc is the same.

It’s bizarre you think these kids only go to practice and play games together.

Also you are just mad your kids need our kids to play. Our kids are doing all of that with their friends on the sports teams and when they get home

Wild! You think kids are playing their sports 14 hours a day?

Like I said they get home and creek, build forts, play capture the flag, play tag, back yard football, etc. they make up games too.

Y’all just mad we RSVP no to birthdays and athletes and musicians get into great colleges.

Whatever floats your boat. We don’t need people like y’all to come to our kids birthday parties to begin with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We know a girl who is in travel basketball, soccer and flag football and who also swims, runs and does "rec" lacrosse. It's none of my business and maybe she is desperate to do all of these things. But I feel like-- when does she just get to be a kid?!

Is she playing all those sports with adults?

Organized, supervised play isn't the same.

Nobody said it’s the same but it’s still being a kid. It actually builds bonds that normal play doesn’t build.

Lol no its not the same. You are delusional if you think that standing around listening to a coach and following directions is the same as deciding what to play, making your own rules, resolving conflicts on your own, playing with younger and older kids, getting along with annoying kids etc is the same.

It’s bizarre you think these kids only go to practice and play games together.

Also you are just mad your kids need our kids to play. Our kids are doing all of that with their friends on the sports teams and when they get home

Wild! You think kids are playing their sports 14 hours a day?

Like I said they get home and creek, build forts, play capture the flag, play tag, back yard football, etc. they make up games too.

Y’all just mad we RSVP no to birthdays and athletes and musicians get into great colleges.

Whatever floats your boat. We don’t need people like y’all to come to our kids birthday parties to begin with.

Then stop inviting them then getting mad they have a game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People know other people, we all know kids who are overscheduled whether you want to admit it or not. Also, there is only so much time in a day.

I think you think about how other people spend their time too much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People know other people, we all know kids who are overscheduled whether you want to admit it or not. Also, there is only so much time in a day.

I think you think about how other people spend their time too much.

I don't at all. I'm participating in a thread about overscheduling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People know other people, we all know kids who are overscheduled whether you want to admit it or not. Also, there is only so much time in a day.

I think you think about how other people spend their time too much.

I don't at all. I'm participating in a thread about overscheduling.

So you didn’t read the article

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Anonymous wrote:People know other people, we all know kids who are overscheduled whether you want to admit it or not. Also, there is only so much time in a day.

I think you think about how other people spend their time too much.

I don't at all. I'm participating in a thread about overscheduling.

So you didn’t read the article

Of course I did

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People know other people, we all know kids who are overscheduled whether you want to admit it or not. Also, there is only so much time in a day.

I think you think about how other people spend their time too much.

I don't at all. I'm participating in a thread about overscheduling.

So you didn’t read the article

Of course I did

It’s about learning to under schedule and leave over schedulers alone. They aren’t the problem, your feeling you need to keep up is the problem.