Intellectually Pretentious DD

[Anonymous]

I know they’re trolling but I can’t believe how vitriolic some of the responses have been to a post from someone striving to be a thoughtful parent to a smart 7 year old girl. OP is a goos mother and I have no doubt she’ll help her daughter relate better to her peers. I guess now we know why Hillary lost, though. Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This child is 7. Kids this age brag all the time, about everything. My child is in 1st grade and when I interact with her classmates, they brag incessantly. They brag about how they have the best cartwheel or are the only one who can get all the way across the monkey bars without stopping. They brag that they have a Nintendo Switch. They brag that they've been to Disneyworld twice when some kids in class haven't even been once. They brag that their older sister just got her nails done. They brag that their shoes are red. Bragging is developmentally normal at this age.

If this were a 14 year old doing this, I'd have questions. This child is 7 years old. Y'all need to CHILL.

Not all children. It’s not bragging when your discussion is your sister gets her nails done or I got a Nintendo. Those are just facts.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry but I missed where you said what you were doing about this?

DS was like this when he was younger (3-5). He was precocious as well and an only child at the time so he received constant praise from us and other adults.

It was cute, until he started school and was known to correct teachers and get frustrated when classmates “took too long” to respond. We had to have a talk (or many) discussing how it wasn’t his place to lead the classroom, how it wasn’t the “Larlo show”, and that other children, and people in general, process information in different ways and different rates and that doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else.

We also had to inform him that he wouldn’t always necessarily be the brightest kid in class and as with most things in life being ahead of the pack requires consistency and work. He’s chilled out considerably since then but those were some obnoxious years and yes, nobody likes a know-it-all.

Another one who most certainly wasn’t cute. What could he have possibly corrected the teacher about in preschool? Plus you have no idea who is the brightest in the class.

Another anonymous blowhard

? Seriously is there a notice somewhere in kindergarten stating who the brightest kid is in the class? Because a lot of parents seem to have this information. And I’m looking for an example of correcting a teacher. Is it when the teacher misspeaks the kid has to comment? I can’t figure that one out.

I know, right? Nobody answers the logical questions.

Op here.

She's seven years old, not kindergarten.

And if you've never heard of a kid correcting a teacher, obnoxiously or otherwise, you must have been home schooled

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know they’re trolling but I can’t believe how vitriolic some of the responses have been to a post from someone striving to be a thoughtful parent to a smart 7 year old girl. OP is a goos mother and I have no doubt she’ll help her daughter relate better to her peers. I guess now we know why Hillary lost, though. Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug.

That is one heck of a leap!

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Anonymous wrote:What a peculiar VBA

A VBA about a VBC

Thanks, VBP

Mommy to an AH, not particularly blessed, you made your bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know they’re trolling but I can’t believe how vitriolic some of the responses have been to a post from someone striving to be a thoughtful parent to a smart 7 year old girl. OP is a goos mother and I have no doubt she’ll help her daughter relate better to her peers. I guess now we know why Hillary lost, though. Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug.

Op. Thanks.

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Future theater/debate kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I know they’re trolling but I can’t believe how vitriolic some of the responses have been to a post from someone striving to be a thoughtful parent to a smart 7 year old girl. OP is a goos mother and I have no doubt she’ll help her daughter relate better to her peers. I guess now we know why Hillary lost, though. Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug.

DCUM hates when someone’s child sounds smarter than theirs. Regardless of what the post is asking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know they’re trolling but I can’t believe how vitriolic some of the responses have been to a post from someone striving to be a thoughtful parent to a smart 7 year old girl. OP is a goos mother and I have no doubt she’ll help her daughter relate better to her peers. I guess now we know why Hillary lost, though. Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug.

Yes. Not sure that misogyny has anything to do with this, but I see lots of extremely rude people with horrible social skills, ironically berating a parent of a 7yo because the kid does not have better manners.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I appreciate the advice, but I don't appreciate the personal attacks. Obviously I am trying to improve the situation, and insulting me or insinuating that my 7 year old daughter is the most obnoxious kid in the world isn't helpful.

You are being far too reactive. We are offering sound advice because YOU asked for it. Can you objectively read your original post and NOT see how obnoxious that is? She is still young and this can be corrected. Sometimes hearing what you re asking for can be difficult but we are speaking based upon what you laid out.

I don't think anyone said she is the most obnoxious kid in the world, unless I missed that. Did not read over the entire thread.

Please consider that I posted this thread because I DO realize it is obnoxious. Read the thread, plenty of posters predicting her doom and discussing how awful she must be.

I'm not presenting her as perfect, and she's seven, and she has a long way to grow in social and emotional maturity. A little grace would be nice.

OP, seriously, ignore the posters being rude. Your daughter sounds normal. This isn’t a big deal, this is gentle correction to teach her not to brag. It would be the same if she were bragging about how many goals she scored or that she went to Italy over winter vacation. She definitely doesn’t sound more obnoxious than 7 year olds generally.

Don’t ever downplay her intelligence or her abilities, though. She SHOULD be proud of doing well in school—she just doesn’t need to put others down or compare them to herself. Again, that’s a natural thing for kids (humans!) to do, and it’s a minor thing to try to correct.

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OP, this is DCUM. As always, you have to weed through the hate to get to the kernels that might be worthwhile. Just ignore hate.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you should have titled this “7 year old daughter brags too much, what to do”. This is not about whether she is smart, not smart, not as smart as she thinks, not as smart as you think, etc. This is all about kids who boast too much. If she was particularly skilled at an I instrument, or singing, or stunningly beautiful, I think we can agree that she shouldn’t boast about it.

Kids in elementary do not like kids who boast too much. Neither do adults. Whether or not it’s justified. For her social well being, it’s best to correct this behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you should have titled this “7 year old daughter brags too much, what to do”. This is not about whether she is smart, not smart, not as smart as she thinks, not as smart as you think, etc. This is all about kids who boast too much. If she was particularly skilled at an I instrument, or singing, or stunningly beautiful, I think we can agree that she shouldn’t boast about it.

Kids in elementary do not like kids who boast too much. Neither do adults. Whether or not it’s justified. For her social well being, it’s best to correct this behavior.

Op.
That's a good point, but I don't find her bragging about other things, it's really just the smartness.

I have tried to talk to her about this issue several times, but I don't want to "knock her down", I want to redirect her. Thanks to all the pps who gave really helpful suggestions.
Grateful for the insight and ideas from this thread. It was very helpful overall.

[Anonymous]

First I’ll admit that I didn’t read any responses. Second, this is a textbook case of your DD communicating that she is not being appropriately challenged in her current academic environment. When she says she wonders why it takes everyone else so long, that’s exactly what she means. To her, her processing speed and retention are normal. She is too young to understand that we all have different brains. I recommend you look for ways to accelerate her academically as well as incorporate social emotional learning to help her navigate the social aspect.

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Anonymous wrote:I dont think its too uncommon and think most of the posters on here claiming their kids never do that are clueless or in denial. Or maybe their kids are chill and clueless and they mistake that for good parenting.

My 8 year does this frequently and also has impulsive control issues, so can be super annoying. He doesn't really have friends tbh. We are direct with him and talk a lot about how his actions effect others and what it looks like to be kind or empathetic. He actually is often the smartest person in the room, which makes it hard to teach him how to react to that appropriately. I think it is partly a phase, partly personality, and partly compensating for feeling left out or inadequate in other areas.

Be very very clear with this kid that truly smart people know that they're NOT the smartest about everything. If he prides himself on his intelligence, he'll get it.