My seven year old DD is bright and precocious. And she loves to be the smartest person in the room. It gets awkward sometimes.
She tries to get praise for how smart she is. Example: "I always finish my work the first in the class. I don't know why it takes everyone else so long!" Or point out her accomplishments. "Did you know I got the second highest score in math?" "I am reading Macbeth" (I am sure she isn't understanding anything. She is advanced, but not that advanced.) She also corrects adults around her enthusiastically. "You spelled that incorrectly." I worry that she's missing social skills. |
I’d be worried that she’s a PITA. |
Op here. She's cute. But even I find it obnoxious sometimes. How can she learn to turn this off? |
She’s annoying. Tell her to turn it down.
She’ll have friends from being a good friend, not from being the first to finish her work. Talk to her about empathy, understanding otjers, being kind etc. |
I had a niece like this (she's fine now). Do adults a favor and shoo her away from adult conversations. My niece would always interject and my sister let it happen. |
I’m pretty direct so would tell her “Larla- it isn’t polite to brag. It is rude and can hurt people’s feelings. Eventually, it will make people dislike you. You are 7 now and really need to work on this” . You could also add some relatable examples- surely there is something she is not good at (struggled to learn to swim or ride a bike maybe). Ask her how she would feel if a friend bragged obnoxiously about that while she was struggling- and also remind that everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
And then remind every time. “Larla- remember? It isn’t polite to brag” If that seems harsh….well, best to fix it now before it starts hurting her socially. I’d argue it is best for her- and the kind thing to do- to nip this in the bud now. People like this are so incredibly obnoxious and difficult to be around. |
THIS. It’s not cute. It’s not charming. It’s annoying as hell. |
She’s cute to you, not so much to people unrelated to her. How did it begin? And they don’t list grades on the board, it’s not law school. How would she know she got the second highest grade. Also, why would she even have a copy of Macbeth? I think she’s trying to impress you and probably starting to lie to impress you. Think about how you might have encouraged it. |
It’s not cute. You can always wait for natural consequences to kick in. Your next post will be about my DD that has no friends. |
[quote=Anonymous"I always finish my work the first in the class. I don't know why it takes everyone else so long!"
Some things come faster to some people, while others come slower. Like you're still learning to be polite. Don't worry, you'll get there! |
Seven year olds girls are like that don’t stress |
Yes she is missing social skills and is self unaware. |
Yep. Not good. |
Have her read the first Harry Potter Book.
(Sicne she’s so smart, she can keep going to book 2!) Discuss Hermione and other characters’ reactions to her. |
I am a fan of being direct in an age appropriate and kind way.
When you say "I always finish my work first in the class" that's bragging. Do you know what bragging is? And then talk to her about how that makes other people feel and how people are going to react to her. "I am reading Macbeth". Why are you reading Macbeth? And then explain to her why that's a bit of a silly thing for a 7 year old to say. When she corrects adults tell her to stop and that it's rude. |