Handling fancy destination wedding with small kids

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Anonymous wrote:Also, the kids will be 2 and 4 at the wedding. Not one and three. Pretty big difference.


Sure, the 4 YO will be easier, but it’s not like the leap from 1-2 is all that much. I say that with a very well behaved kid, even the best behaved 2 YO is going to be a wiggly, show stealing toddler.


It’s easier for a grandparent to deal with a 2 year old than a 1 year old. Ask me how I know.


DP - the OP said that the kids "will be" one and three at the time of the wedding.

Also, plenty of one year olds (true one year olds, not a 19 month old) are easier to manage than a two year old. They're usually less mobile, less tantrumy, etc. My kids were far easier at one year than they were at two years.


Again, I am talking about this from a grandparent perspective, and you are not one.


How do you know that? Are you in PP's living room? Checking out her family tree on ancestry.com?


Snort. I'm the PP in question. I'm not a grandparent, but I also don't see how that matters. The grandparent on this thread doesn't speak for all grandparents; also, not all two year olds are more difficult than all one year olds (again, for all grandparents). That's utter nonsense.


No, THIS is utter nonsense:

“I’m trying to figure out how to deal with childcare. We have a nanny, but it would be super expensive to fly her out and pay all the overtime that would be required. But I think it’s our only real option. I’m not comfortable with hiring someone we don’t know at the location. I don’t think we can have just DH attend the events and have me watch the kids.

Anyone been in a similar situation? Am I missing a potential solution?”

And she never mentions that her parents have been invited and have even offered to babysit!


Why are you even bothering to post on this thread, if you think it's so ridiculous? The OP acknowledged she forgot that her parents offered to help; people sometimes forget things, especially parents of very young kids. Why are you so worked up?


She forgot her parents offered to help. Yeah, sure. OP was just bored and either made up this entire topic or slowly dripped out the details to keep this non problem going.
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Anonymous wrote:Could you fly out one of your parents for this role?


They are also invited to the wedding.


I think PP meant in laws.


Yes, my parents (DH’s in laws) are also invited to the wedding and all associated events.


If they can help during the actual wedding (willing to take 1 yr old out if necessary, hang back with ring bearer before he walks) then I don’t think you need additional child care, you just won’t stay late to anything. For my BIL’s wedding I took 1 yr old home at 8 or 9 and DH stayed later at both rehearsal dinner and wedding.
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Anonymous wrote:Also, the kids will be 2 and 4 at the wedding. Not one and three. Pretty big difference.


Sure, the 4 YO will be easier, but it’s not like the leap from 1-2 is all that much. I say that with a very well behaved kid, even the best behaved 2 YO is going to be a wiggly, show stealing toddler.


It’s easier for a grandparent to deal with a 2 year old than a 1 year old. Ask me how I know.


DP - the OP said that the kids "will be" one and three at the time of the wedding.

Also, plenty of one year olds (true one year olds, not a 19 month old) are easier to manage than a two year old. They're usually less mobile, less tantrumy, etc. My kids were far easier at one year than they were at two years.


Again, I am talking about this from a grandparent perspective, and you are not one.


How do you know that? Are you in PP's living room? Checking out her family tree on ancestry.com?


Snort. I'm the PP in question. I'm not a grandparent, but I also don't see how that matters. The grandparent on this thread doesn't speak for all grandparents; also, not all two year olds are more difficult than all one year olds (again, for all grandparents). That's utter nonsense.


No, THIS is utter nonsense:

“I’m trying to figure out how to deal with childcare. We have a nanny, but it would be super expensive to fly her out and pay all the overtime that would be required. But I think it’s our only real option. I’m not comfortable with hiring someone we don’t know at the location. I don’t think we can have just DH attend the events and have me watch the kids.

Anyone been in a similar situation? Am I missing a potential solution?”

And she never mentions that her parents have been invited and have even offered to babysit!


Why are you even bothering to post on this thread, if you think it's so ridiculous? The OP acknowledged she forgot that her parents offered to help; people sometimes forget things, especially parents of very young kids. Why are you so worked up?


I think this thread is weirdly hostile, even by DCUM standards.
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