DD's teacher has a "cry board" in her classroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how quickly people are to condemn the teacher. My son has anxiety and his perceptions aren’t always accurate because of his anxiety.

OP wrote in the subject line “cry board” when in actuality as she writes in the post it is closet tears space. If you google cry board nothing comes up so it could be a closet cry. it is a safe space some schools are creating during finals because kids are so stressed out. It is a safe place to go cry for 10 minutes. It could be the teacher is keeping track how many kids are using it to see if she keeps using this next year. Or it could be something else the teacher is doing that is trying to be helpful. If it was so egregious why didn’t OP include that in the email. If there is video why isn’t OP describing what is on it.

So maybe the teacher is just an awful human being or maybe there is another explanation. OP needs to find out more before going and accusing the teacher.

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OP is very unclear and refuses to clarify exactly what she means by "cry board." She or her child could be confusing terminology here, but who knows? Does OP even know? I can't offer any judgement or advice until I know exactly what is going on here, and vague talk about a "cry board" (whatever that means) in the context of an upset child with a failing grade really tells me nothing. Is the teacher abusive? Maybe, but I can't say until I know what OP means by "cry board." At this point, it is just as likely that the teacher has a designated quiet area for emotional kids who need some space to calm down. OP refuses to say.

Come on, OP. Please just tell us exactly what "cry board" is.

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Anonymous wrote:Students also lie, embellish, and twist stories, too. There needs to be an investigation on both sides. This student could just be a pot-stirrer, too. The cry room may be for a student to collect themselves. The student must have been a very poor student to be failing a photography class. The admin should investigate how many days the student truly missed and what is going on in the other classes. Students are turning into bullies now with cameras. They try to create false narratives about teachers to suit their agenda. One must be careful to place total blame on the teacher. How many attempts were offered to the student and work is still not turned in? Different rules can’t be created for one student. Either the student deserves an incomplete or an F. Which is it? I find it hard to believe that this is some stellar student.

Schools absolutely make various accommodations for individual students. Do you know what an IEP is?

And yes, there’s a need to investigate. But you don't give suspects an opportunity to destroy evidence during investigations. The pp claiming to be a teacher that has been suggesting that the OP needs to talk to the teacher is being incredibly naive. Either that or she believes the OP and wants a cover-up.

This thread had jumped the shark.

I’m one of 2 (at least) posters who are saying to involve the teacher in the conversation.

This is getting silly. It’s presumably already on video. What is there to cover up, and why would I WANT a cover up?

I just don’t approve of taking people down without an investigation. I’ve seen that happen to a teacher who was 100% innocent of the allegations against her.

Just talk to admin and the teacher. Why does this need to be a big deal?

Who is saying there shouldn’t be an investigation?

The posters saying to post this directly on social media.

Sometimes that’s what it takes to get an investigation.

So you’re suggesting starting there? Not contacting the teacher or the school at all? Not even trying?

This is how reputations are ruined. What if the teacher isn’t guilty of this, and the video doesn’t show what the student claims it does? Then the teacher’s reputation is unnecessarily damaged and the OP’s reputation is destroyed.

No, I wouldn’t start there. But I’d go there if the principal didn’t respond in a timely manner.

And going to the teacher first is a horrible idea for something like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Students also lie, embellish, and twist stories, too. There needs to be an investigation on both sides. This student could just be a pot-stirrer, too. The cry room may be for a student to collect themselves. The student must have been a very poor student to be failing a photography class. The admin should investigate how many days the student truly missed and what is going on in the other classes. Students are turning into bullies now with cameras. They try to create false narratives about teachers to suit their agenda. One must be careful to place total blame on the teacher. How many attempts were offered to the student and work is still not turned in? Different rules can’t be created for one student. Either the student deserves an incomplete or an F. Which is it? I find it hard to believe that this is some stellar student.

Schools absolutely make various accommodations for individual students. Do you know what an IEP is?

And yes, there’s a need to investigate. But you don't give suspects an opportunity to destroy evidence during investigations. The pp claiming to be a teacher that has been suggesting that the OP needs to talk to the teacher is being incredibly naive. Either that or she believes the OP and wants a cover-up.

This thread had jumped the shark.

I’m one of 2 (at least) posters who are saying to involve the teacher in the conversation.

This is getting silly. It’s presumably already on video. What is there to cover up, and why would I WANT a cover up?

I just don’t approve of taking people down without an investigation. I’ve seen that happen to a teacher who was 100% innocent of the allegations against her.

Just talk to admin and the teacher. Why does this need to be a big deal?

Who is saying there shouldn’t be an investigation?

The posters saying to post this directly on social media.

Sometimes that’s what it takes to get an investigation.

So you’re suggesting starting there? Not contacting the teacher or the school at all? Not even trying?

This is how reputations are ruined. What if the teacher isn’t guilty of this, and the video doesn’t show what the student claims it does? Then the teacher’s reputation is unnecessarily damaged and the OP’s reputation is destroyed.

No, I wouldn’t start there. But I’d go there if the principal didn’t respond in a timely manner.

And going to the teacher first is a horrible idea for something like this.

We don't know what "something like this" is because OP refuses to tell us what a "cry board" is. If the teacher just has a designated quiet area for emotional kids who need some space to decompress--maybe the OP's child got confused about what this is called--then OP is going to look like a fool if she escalates this without clarifying what is going on first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how quickly people are to condemn the teacher. My son has anxiety and his perceptions aren’t always accurate because of his anxiety.

OP wrote in the subject line “cry board” when in actuality as she writes in the post it is closet tears space. If you google cry board nothing comes up so it could be a closet cry. it is a safe space some schools are creating during finals because kids are so stressed out. It is a safe place to go cry for 10 minutes. It could be the teacher is keeping track how many kids are using it to see if she keeps using this next year. Or it could be something else the teacher is doing that is trying to be helpful. If it was so egregious why didn’t OP include that in the email. If there is video why isn’t OP describing what is on it.

So maybe the teacher is just an awful human being or maybe there is another explanation. OP needs to find out more before going and accusing the teacher.

+1000

OP is very unclear and refuses to clarify exactly what she means by "cry board." She or her child could be confusing terminology here, but who knows? Does OP even know? I can't offer any judgement or advice until I know exactly what is going on here, and vague talk about a "cry board" (whatever that means) in the context of an upset child with a failing grade really tells me nothing. Is the teacher abusive? Maybe, but I can't say until I know what OP means by "cry board." At this point, it is just as likely that the teacher has a designated quiet area for emotional kids who need some space to calm down. OP refuses to say.

Come on, OP. Please just tell us exactly what "cry board" is.

Very unclear? I think you need to work on your reading comprehension. Either you didn’t bother to read the OP’s posts, or you’re simply choosing to ignore what she wrote.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Students also lie, embellish, and twist stories, too. There needs to be an investigation on both sides. This student could just be a pot-stirrer, too. The cry room may be for a student to collect themselves. The student must have been a very poor student to be failing a photography class. The admin should investigate how many days the student truly missed and what is going on in the other classes. Students are turning into bullies now with cameras. They try to create false narratives about teachers to suit their agenda. One must be careful to place total blame on the teacher. How many attempts were offered to the student and work is still not turned in? Different rules can’t be created for one student. Either the student deserves an incomplete or an F. Which is it? I find it hard to believe that this is some stellar student.

Schools absolutely make various accommodations for individual students. Do you know what an IEP is?

And yes, there’s a need to investigate. But you don't give suspects an opportunity to destroy evidence during investigations. The pp claiming to be a teacher that has been suggesting that the OP needs to talk to the teacher is being incredibly naive. Either that or she believes the OP and wants a cover-up.

This thread had jumped the shark.

I’m one of 2 (at least) posters who are saying to involve the teacher in the conversation.

This is getting silly. It’s presumably already on video. What is there to cover up, and why would I WANT a cover up?

I just don’t approve of taking people down without an investigation. I’ve seen that happen to a teacher who was 100% innocent of the allegations against her.

Just talk to admin and the teacher. Why does this need to be a big deal?

What the teacher is doing IS a big deal. Your need to minimize everything about this is suspect. I agree that op should contact the admin and the teacher and decide what to do based on their response. Do you think the teacher is even going to respond given she is probably no longer under contract. If what op's child said is true, do you think this person should be teaching minors?

It’s a big deal if the teacher is ACTUALLY doing what the OP claims is happening.

If it’s true, then the teacher shouldn’t be around students.

But is it true? We don’t know. Perhaps this video shows something far more innocent than what the OP alleges.

I’m not one for McCarthyism-style hunts. Investigate first. Deal with later.

Too many posters are ready to tear the teacher apart, and on what proof?

Social media is bad idea. Ask to meet with the teacher with admin and another person present. If the teacher won’t meet, meet with admin with another person present. Present the evidence of the video. Document everything.

Do you think OP has checked the video to see if it shows what her DD says it does? Wouldn’t that be the first thing you would do? If it does, that teacher should have an opportunity to explain herself. On the record, with witnesses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Students also lie, embellish, and twist stories, too. There needs to be an investigation on both sides. This student could just be a pot-stirrer, too. The cry room may be for a student to collect themselves. The student must have been a very poor student to be failing a photography class. The admin should investigate how many days the student truly missed and what is going on in the other classes. Students are turning into bullies now with cameras. They try to create false narratives about teachers to suit their agenda. One must be careful to place total blame on the teacher. How many attempts were offered to the student and work is still not turned in? Different rules can’t be created for one student. Either the student deserves an incomplete or an F. Which is it? I find it hard to believe that this is some stellar student.

Schools absolutely make various accommodations for individual students. Do you know what an IEP is?

And yes, there’s a need to investigate. But you don't give suspects an opportunity to destroy evidence during investigations. The pp claiming to be a teacher that has been suggesting that the OP needs to talk to the teacher is being incredibly naive. Either that or she believes the OP and wants a cover-up.

This thread had jumped the shark.

I’m one of 2 (at least) posters who are saying to involve the teacher in the conversation.

This is getting silly. It’s presumably already on video. What is there to cover up, and why would I WANT a cover up?

I just don’t approve of taking people down without an investigation. I’ve seen that happen to a teacher who was 100% innocent of the allegations against her.

Just talk to admin and the teacher. Why does this need to be a big deal?

Who is saying there shouldn’t be an investigation?

The posters saying to post this directly on social media.

Sometimes that’s what it takes to get an investigation.

So you’re suggesting starting there? Not contacting the teacher or the school at all? Not even trying?

This is how reputations are ruined. What if the teacher isn’t guilty of this, and the video doesn’t show what the student claims it does? Then the teacher’s reputation is unnecessarily damaged and the OP’s reputation is destroyed.

No, I wouldn’t start there. But I’d go there if the principal didn’t respond in a timely manner.

And going to the teacher first is a horrible idea for something like this.

We don't know what "something like this" is because OP refuses to tell us what a "cry board" is. If the teacher just has a designated quiet area for emotional kids who need some space to decompress--maybe the OP's child got confused about what this is called--then OP is going to look like a fool if she escalates this without clarifying what is going on first.

Make a mark on the closet tears board.

Doesn’t sound like a safe space to me. Sounds like the teacher keeps track of how many times she can make kids cry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP who keeps saying to talk to the teacher- is that the same advice you would give of the student told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by a teacher? Go in and see if the teacher can talk it away, maybe it was a misunderstanding? I sure hope not.

This is not to that extreme but I have a child who has been repeatedly lied about by a teacher in the past. Kids need to feel believed especially when someone is being a sh*t to them and they have video evidence. This is not one of those times I’d be pushing my child to see the teachers side of things. I’d be going directly to the principal on her behalf.

My kid had an accommodation that a teacher refused to provide. We complained to the admin. Teacher was adamant she was providing accommodation. We were lucky that the AP cared and checked out the class several times in a week and verified the teacher lied. She never provided the accommodation which was simple. The woman would give the class assignments orally - ie not write them down or provide documentation of assignments. Accommodation provided assignments were written even if on the board so kid could take a photo. She never did and got caught. What kind of sicko is this nasty to not provide something that is a good teaching practice. We encountered this kind of insanity constantly.

PP keep arguing for the teacher but those of us who've lived this are fed up by high school.

Also in my county teachers are not available within a week or so of school ending. Their contracts end and we found they wouldn't respond. Op will be dealing with the administration anyway. I would talk to them first but I absolutely would take this to social media so anyone else who wants to hire this psycho knows.

Right because some teachers are bad, they all are so we should assume bad motives for all. Criminals are treated better.

[Anonymous]

This teacher sounds like a sociopath. Help get them removed from the school, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This teacher sounds like a sociopath. Help get them removed from the school, op.

SMH

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Anonymous wrote:This teacher sounds like a sociopath. Help get them removed from the school, op.

The Op sounds unstable. Too ready to pounce on a teacher because DC is failing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP who keeps saying to talk to the teacher- is that the same advice you would give of the student told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by a teacher? Go in and see if the teacher can talk it away, maybe it was a misunderstanding? I sure hope not.

This is not to that extreme but I have a child who has been repeatedly lied about by a teacher in the past. Kids need to feel believed especially when someone is being a sh*t to them and they have video evidence. This is not one of those times I’d be pushing my child to see the teachers side of things. I’d be going directly to the principal on her behalf.

My kid had an accommodation that a teacher refused to provide. We complained to the admin. Teacher was adamant she was providing accommodation. We were lucky that the AP cared and checked out the class several times in a week and verified the teacher lied. She never provided the accommodation which was simple. The woman would give the class assignments orally - ie not write them down or provide documentation of assignments. Accommodation provided assignments were written even if on the board so kid could take a photo. She never did and got caught. What kind of sicko is this nasty to not provide something that is a good teaching practice. We encountered this kind of insanity constantly.

PP keep arguing for the teacher but those of us who've lived this are fed up by high school.

Also in my county teachers are not available within a week or so of school ending. Their contracts end and we found they wouldn't respond. Op will be dealing with the administration anyway. I would talk to them first but I absolutely would take this to social media so anyone else who wants to hire this psycho knows.

Please don’t go to social media. This is very bad advice. This will only make you, Op, look completely aggressive and unhinged. Social media is not the way to handle Human resource problems. The baggage of social media resides with the poster. Op, you can handle this without creating more derogatory attention to yourself and your daughter. Social media just shows the posters to be loons.

+1 Then your daughter’s college can read about it and know that you are trouble makers. People who try to public shame others on social media are really exposing themselves as haters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how quickly people are to condemn the teacher. My son has anxiety and his perceptions aren’t always accurate because of his anxiety.

OP wrote in the subject line “cry board” when in actuality as she writes in the post it is closet tears space. If you google cry board nothing comes up so it could be a closet cry. it is a safe space some schools are creating during finals because kids are so stressed out. It is a safe place to go cry for 10 minutes. It could be the teacher is keeping track how many kids are using it to see if she keeps using this next year. Or it could be something else the teacher is doing that is trying to be helpful. If it was so egregious why didn’t OP include that in the email. If there is video why isn’t OP describing what is on it.

So maybe the teacher is just an awful human being or maybe there is another explanation. OP needs to find out more before going and accusing the teacher.

+1000

OP is very unclear and refuses to clarify exactly what she means by "cry board." She or her child could be confusing terminology here, but who knows? Does OP even know? I can't offer any judgement or advice until I know exactly what is going on here, and vague talk about a "cry board" (whatever that means) in the context of an upset child with a failing grade really tells me nothing. Is the teacher abusive? Maybe, but I can't say until I know what OP means by "cry board." At this point, it is just as likely that the teacher has a designated quiet area for emotional kids who need some space to calm down. OP refuses to say.

Come on, OP. Please just tell us exactly what "cry board" is.

You are intentionally misconstruing what op wrote. Great job union rep. You have so much in common with the followers of drumpf.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how quickly people are to condemn the teacher. My son has anxiety and his perceptions aren’t always accurate because of his anxiety.

OP wrote in the subject line “cry board” when in actuality as she writes in the post it is closet tears space. If you google cry board nothing comes up so it could be a closet cry. it is a safe space some schools are creating during finals because kids are so stressed out. It is a safe place to go cry for 10 minutes. It could be the teacher is keeping track how many kids are using it to see if she keeps using this next year. Or it could be something else the teacher is doing that is trying to be helpful. If it was so egregious why didn’t OP include that in the email. If there is video why isn’t OP describing what is on it.

So maybe the teacher is just an awful human being or maybe there is another explanation. OP needs to find out more before going and accusing the teacher.

+1000

OP is very unclear and refuses to clarify exactly what she means by "cry board." She or her child could be confusing terminology here, but who knows? Does OP even know? I can't offer any judgement or advice until I know exactly what is going on here, and vague talk about a "cry board" (whatever that means) in the context of an upset child with a failing grade really tells me nothing. Is the teacher abusive? Maybe, but I can't say until I know what OP means by "cry board." At this point, it is just as likely that the teacher has a designated quiet area for emotional kids who need some space to calm down. OP refuses to say.

Come on, OP. Please just tell us exactly what "cry board" is.

Very unclear? I think you need to work on your reading comprehension. Either you didn’t bother to read the OP’s posts, or you’re simply choosing to ignore what she wrote.

They don't care about the content of op's post. They just want to shut down op and would prefer she not speak up at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Students also lie, embellish, and twist stories, too. There needs to be an investigation on both sides. This student could just be a pot-stirrer, too. The cry room may be for a student to collect themselves. The student must have been a very poor student to be failing a photography class. The admin should investigate how many days the student truly missed and what is going on in the other classes. Students are turning into bullies now with cameras. They try to create false narratives about teachers to suit their agenda. One must be careful to place total blame on the teacher. How many attempts were offered to the student and work is still not turned in? Different rules can’t be created for one student. Either the student deserves an incomplete or an F. Which is it? I find it hard to believe that this is some stellar student.

Schools absolutely make various accommodations for individual students. Do you know what an IEP is?

And yes, there’s a need to investigate. But you don't give suspects an opportunity to destroy evidence during investigations. The pp claiming to be a teacher that has been suggesting that the OP needs to talk to the teacher is being incredibly naive. Either that or she believes the OP and wants a cover-up.

This thread had jumped the shark.

I’m one of 2 (at least) posters who are saying to involve the teacher in the conversation.

This is getting silly. It’s presumably already on video. What is there to cover up, and why would I WANT a cover up?

I just don’t approve of taking people down without an investigation. I’ve seen that happen to a teacher who was 100% innocent of the allegations against her.

Just talk to admin and the teacher. Why does this need to be a big deal?

What the teacher is doing IS a big deal. Your need to minimize everything about this is suspect. I agree that op should contact the admin and the teacher and decide what to do based on their response. Do you think the teacher is even going to respond given she is probably no longer under contract. If what op's child said is true, do you think this person should be teaching minors?

It’s a big deal if the teacher is ACTUALLY doing what the OP claims is happening.

If it’s true, then the teacher shouldn’t be around students.

But is it true? We don’t know. Perhaps this video shows something far more innocent than what the OP alleges.

I’m not one for McCarthyism-style hunts. Investigate first. Deal with later.

Too many posters are ready to tear the teacher apart, and on what proof?

Social media is bad idea. Ask to meet with the teacher with admin and another person present. If the teacher won’t meet, meet with admin with another person present. Present the evidence of the video. Document everything.

Do you think OP has checked the video to see if it shows what her DD says it does? Wouldn’t that be the first thing you would do? If it does, that teacher should have an opportunity to explain herself. On the record, with witnesses.

Are the teachers still under contract? Is the teacher likely to respond? I would attempt to contact the teacher and record the conversation then go to the admin even if the teacher apologizes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This teacher sounds like a sociopath. Help get them removed from the school, op.

The Op sounds unstable. Too ready to pounce on a teacher because DC is failing.

Typical victim blaming and smearing. If op's post doesn't make you concerned about the actions of this teacher there is something wrong with you.