DD's teacher has a "cry board" in her classroom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP who keeps saying to talk to the teacher- is that the same advice you would give of the student told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by a teacher? Go in and see if the teacher can talk it away, maybe it was a misunderstanding? I sure hope not.

This is not to that extreme but I have a child who has been repeatedly lied about by a teacher in the past. Kids need to feel believed especially when someone is being a sh*t to them and they have video evidence. This is not one of those times I’d be pushing my child to see the teachers side of things. I’d be going directly to the principal on her behalf.

My kid had an accommodation that a teacher refused to provide. We complained to the admin. Teacher was adamant she was providing accommodation. We were lucky that the AP cared and checked out the class several times in a week and verified the teacher lied. She never provided the accommodation which was simple. The woman would give the class assignments orally - ie not write them down or provide documentation of assignments. Accommodation provided assignments were written even if on the board so kid could take a photo. She never did and got caught. What kind of sicko is this nasty to not provide something that is a good teaching practice. We encountered this kind of insanity constantly.

PP keep arguing for the teacher but those of us who've lived this are fed up by high school.

Also in my county teachers are not available within a week or so of school ending. Their contracts end and we found they wouldn't respond. Op will be dealing with the administration anyway. I would talk to them first but I absolutely would take this to social media so anyone else who wants to hire this psycho knows.

Please don’t go to social media. This is very bad advice. This will only make you, Op, look completely aggressive and unhinged. Social media is not the way to handle Human resource problems. The baggage of social media resides with the poster. Op, you can handle this without creating more derogatory attention to yourself and your daughter. Social media just shows the posters to be loons.

+1 Then your daughter’s college can read about it and know that you are trouble makers. People who try to public shame others on social media are really exposing themselves as haters.

You just showed yourself. People who abuse others love to throw the troublemaker label around. We've learned not to be intimidated by this. You sound like the people who supported Jerry Sandusky and that doctor in Michigan who abused all the girls. The same language was thrown at the people who spoke up. People like you allow abuse to continue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who keeps saying to talk to the teacher- is that the same advice you would give of the student told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by a teacher? Go in and see if the teacher can talk it away, maybe it was a misunderstanding? I sure hope not.

This is not to that extreme but I have a child who has been repeatedly lied about by a teacher in the past. Kids need to feel believed especially when someone is being a sh*t to them and they have video evidence. This is not one of those times I’d be pushing my child to see the teachers side of things. I’d be going directly to the principal on her behalf.

My kid had an accommodation that a teacher refused to provide. We complained to the admin. Teacher was adamant she was providing accommodation. We were lucky that the AP cared and checked out the class several times in a week and verified the teacher lied. She never provided the accommodation which was simple. The woman would give the class assignments orally - ie not write them down or provide documentation of assignments. Accommodation provided assignments were written even if on the board so kid could take a photo. She never did and got caught. What kind of sicko is this nasty to not provide something that is a good teaching practice. We encountered this kind of insanity constantly.

PP keep arguing for the teacher but those of us who've lived this are fed up by high school.

Also in my county teachers are not available within a week or so of school ending. Their contracts end and we found they wouldn't respond. Op will be dealing with the administration anyway. I would talk to them first but I absolutely would take this to social media so anyone else who wants to hire this psycho knows.

Please don’t go to social media. This is very bad advice. This will only make you, Op, look completely aggressive and unhinged. Social media is not the way to handle Human resource problems. The baggage of social media resides with the poster. Op, you can handle this without creating more derogatory attention to yourself and your daughter. Social media just shows the posters to be loons.

+1 Then your daughter’s college can read about it and know that you are trouble makers. People who try to public shame others on social media are really exposing themselves as haters.

You just showed yourself. People who abuse others love to throw the troublemaker label around. We've learned not to be intimidated by this. You sound like the people who supported Jerry Sandusky and that doctor in Michigan who abused all the girls. The same language was thrown at the people who spoke up. People like you allow abuse to continue.

You are assuming that the teacher is guilty. It’s not okay to make assumptions and publicly shame people online. You aren’t fighting abuse when you post unsubstantiated information. You are causing more harm. What happens when you publicly blame and shame only to find out you were wrong?

People aren’t asking for a cover-up. Nobody is supporting abuse. People are just asking for this to be treated appropriately, which does not start with online smear campaigns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who keeps saying to talk to the teacher- is that the same advice you would give of the student told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by a teacher? Go in and see if the teacher can talk it away, maybe it was a misunderstanding? I sure hope not.

This is not to that extreme but I have a child who has been repeatedly lied about by a teacher in the past. Kids need to feel believed especially when someone is being a sh*t to them and they have video evidence. This is not one of those times I’d be pushing my child to see the teachers side of things. I’d be going directly to the principal on her behalf.

My kid had an accommodation that a teacher refused to provide. We complained to the admin. Teacher was adamant she was providing accommodation. We were lucky that the AP cared and checked out the class several times in a week and verified the teacher lied. She never provided the accommodation which was simple. The woman would give the class assignments orally - ie not write them down or provide documentation of assignments. Accommodation provided assignments were written even if on the board so kid could take a photo. She never did and got caught. What kind of sicko is this nasty to not provide something that is a good teaching practice. We encountered this kind of insanity constantly.

PP keep arguing for the teacher but those of us who've lived this are fed up by high school.

Also in my county teachers are not available within a week or so of school ending. Their contracts end and we found they wouldn't respond. Op will be dealing with the administration anyway. I would talk to them first but I absolutely would take this to social media so anyone else who wants to hire this psycho knows.

Please don’t go to social media. This is very bad advice. This will only make you, Op, look completely aggressive and unhinged. Social media is not the way to handle Human resource problems. The baggage of social media resides with the poster. Op, you can handle this without creating more derogatory attention to yourself and your daughter. Social media just shows the posters to be loons.

+1 Then your daughter’s college can read about it and know that you are trouble makers. People who try to public shame others on social media are really exposing themselves as haters.

You just showed yourself. People who abuse others love to throw the troublemaker label around. We've learned not to be intimidated by this. You sound like the people who supported Jerry Sandusky and that doctor in Michigan who abused all the girls. The same language was thrown at the people who spoke up. People like you allow abuse to continue.

You are assuming that the teacher is guilty. It’s not okay to make assumptions and publicly shame people online. You aren’t fighting abuse when you post unsubstantiated information. You are causing more harm. What happens when you publicly blame and shame only to find out you were wrong?

People aren’t asking for a cover-up. Nobody is supporting abuse. People are just asking for this to be treated appropriately, which does not start with online smear campaigns.

Again and again, people are saying talk to the admin, talk to the teacher but you ignore that because you have an agenda. You really want the op to NOT speak up.

If the admin did not handle the situation, I would absolutely spread the word however I could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who keeps saying to talk to the teacher- is that the same advice you would give of the student told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by a teacher? Go in and see if the teacher can talk it away, maybe it was a misunderstanding? I sure hope not.

This is not to that extreme but I have a child who has been repeatedly lied about by a teacher in the past. Kids need to feel believed especially when someone is being a sh*t to them and they have video evidence. This is not one of those times I’d be pushing my child to see the teachers side of things. I’d be going directly to the principal on her behalf.

My kid had an accommodation that a teacher refused to provide. We complained to the admin. Teacher was adamant she was providing accommodation. We were lucky that the AP cared and checked out the class several times in a week and verified the teacher lied. She never provided the accommodation which was simple. The woman would give the class assignments orally - ie not write them down or provide documentation of assignments. Accommodation provided assignments were written even if on the board so kid could take a photo. She never did and got caught. What kind of sicko is this nasty to not provide something that is a good teaching practice. We encountered this kind of insanity constantly.

PP keep arguing for the teacher but those of us who've lived this are fed up by high school.

Also in my county teachers are not available within a week or so of school ending. Their contracts end and we found they wouldn't respond. Op will be dealing with the administration anyway. I would talk to them first but I absolutely would take this to social media so anyone else who wants to hire this psycho knows.

Please don’t go to social media. This is very bad advice. This will only make you, Op, look completely aggressive and unhinged. Social media is not the way to handle Human resource problems. The baggage of social media resides with the poster. Op, you can handle this without creating more derogatory attention to yourself and your daughter. Social media just shows the posters to be loons.

+1 Then your daughter’s college can read about it and know that you are trouble makers. People who try to public shame others on social media are really exposing themselves as haters.

You just showed yourself. People who abuse others love to throw the troublemaker label around. We've learned not to be intimidated by this. You sound like the people who supported Jerry Sandusky and that doctor in Michigan who abused all the girls. The same language was thrown at the people who spoke up. People like you allow abuse to continue.

You are assuming that the teacher is guilty. It’s not okay to make assumptions and publicly shame people online. You aren’t fighting abuse when you post unsubstantiated information. You are causing more harm. What happens when you publicly blame and shame only to find out you were wrong?

People aren’t asking for a cover-up. Nobody is supporting abuse. People are just asking for this to be treated appropriately, which does not start with online smear campaigns.

Again and again, people are saying talk to the admin, talk to the teacher but you ignore that because you have an agenda. You really want the op to NOT speak up.

If the admin did not handle the situation, I would absolutely spread the word however I could.

My only agenda is to see that people are treated fairly. That means not making assumptions and giving people a fair trial. That may look like a conversation with admin.

If fairness and respect are agendas, then you are correct. I have an agenda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who keeps saying to talk to the teacher- is that the same advice you would give of the student told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by a teacher? Go in and see if the teacher can talk it away, maybe it was a misunderstanding? I sure hope not.

This is not to that extreme but I have a child who has been repeatedly lied about by a teacher in the past. Kids need to feel believed especially when someone is being a sh*t to them and they have video evidence. This is not one of those times I’d be pushing my child to see the teachers side of things. I’d be going directly to the principal on her behalf.

My kid had an accommodation that a teacher refused to provide. We complained to the admin. Teacher was adamant she was providing accommodation. We were lucky that the AP cared and checked out the class several times in a week and verified the teacher lied. She never provided the accommodation which was simple. The woman would give the class assignments orally - ie not write them down or provide documentation of assignments. Accommodation provided assignments were written even if on the board so kid could take a photo. She never did and got caught. What kind of sicko is this nasty to not provide something that is a good teaching practice. We encountered this kind of insanity constantly.

PP keep arguing for the teacher but those of us who've lived this are fed up by high school.

Also in my county teachers are not available within a week or so of school ending. Their contracts end and we found they wouldn't respond. Op will be dealing with the administration anyway. I would talk to them first but I absolutely would take this to social media so anyone else who wants to hire this psycho knows.

Please don’t go to social media. This is very bad advice. This will only make you, Op, look completely aggressive and unhinged. Social media is not the way to handle Human resource problems. The baggage of social media resides with the poster. Op, you can handle this without creating more derogatory attention to yourself and your daughter. Social media just shows the posters to be loons.

+1 Then your daughter’s college can read about it and know that you are trouble makers. People who try to public shame others on social media are really exposing themselves as haters.

You just showed yourself. People who abuse others love to throw the troublemaker label around. We've learned not to be intimidated by this. You sound like the people who supported Jerry Sandusky and that doctor in Michigan who abused all the girls. The same language was thrown at the people who spoke up. People like you allow abuse to continue.

You are assuming that the teacher is guilty. It’s not okay to make assumptions and publicly shame people online. You aren’t fighting abuse when you post unsubstantiated information. You are causing more harm. What happens when you publicly blame and shame only to find out you were wrong?

People aren’t asking for a cover-up. Nobody is supporting abuse. People are just asking for this to be treated appropriately, which does not start with online smear campaigns.

You’re not asking for a cover-up, but you continue to push for steps that would make it much easier for the teacher or admin to enact a cover-up.

[Anonymous]

What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

This is inexcusable. She is out the hospital and has been cleared. She doesn’t do the work because she is busy then she gets a O.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

[Anonymous]

Very often, students have to withdraw from classes or have a teacher come to the home when they've been too sick to keep up with work.

[Anonymous]

I have a somewhat different reaction than many of the early posters.

The grade sounds fair unless your daughter pursued or pursues in a timely manner whatever policies the school has for cases like these. What normally happens when a kid doesn’t do the course work because they’re ill? She genuinely didn’t do the work. A passing grade seems inappropriate. Perhaps an incomplete with additional time to complete assignments would be the best course of action, but this is presumably something the school or even district has a policy about versus this single teacher.

The cry board is awful and if being correctly described by your daughter, it should 100% be reported to the school. However, it is entirely unrelated to your kid’s grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This teacher sounds like a sociopath. Help get them removed from the school, op.

SMH

+1. The baseless witch hunts on this site are so ridiculous.