DD's teacher has a "cry board" in her classroom

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

I’m not going to believe something without seeing it myself. OP might be exaggerating. OP may be misinterpreting.

I have children of my own and I have been teaching many years. I learned long ago not to believe the first thing I hear. There’s the truth, and then there’s independent interpretations of the truth.

That’s why a meeting with admin is so important. If everybody sees the video and it IS what OP claims it is, then take action against that teacher.

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Anonymous wrote:DD's 9th grade photography teacher has a board hanging up in her classroom called "closet tears". Yesterday, DD was told by this teacher that she was going to fail her for "not trying hard enough". DD started to cry, as she HAS been trying as best she could to catch up, but the teacher refused to reduce any of the workload despite legitimate absences. DD has been very sick the second half of this year, including being in the hospital and finally getting diagnosed with an autoimmune disease a few weeks ago. The teacher told DD to walk over and put a hash mark on the "closet tears" board.

I was already livid and now I'm just in an absolute rage. She has an IEP for dyslexia, dysgraphia and slow processing speed. I contacted the school on May 24th after we got her diagnosis and asked for an IEP meeting to address her medical conditions. After several email reminders, they finally scheduled it for August 14th.

Do we have any recourse to fight the failing grade? And the teacher bullying her students by boasting about making them cry? WTF?

Oh, DD has video of the closet tears board. She took it before leaving class yesterday (last day of school).

March into the principal 's office and reach out to the media.

Oh, please. “The media” does not care.

Oh yes they do.

Oh, no, they don’t. Please, “reach out to the media” (no, that is not the same thing as posting on FB, as another poster ridiculously tried to assert). When the news runs a story or the newspaper runs an article about the teacher, your kid and the cry board, OP, be sure to share the link here.

I have in the past. I've dealt with reporters more than once re issues like this. You're such a know it all and not helpful. Most posters are saying to contact the school admin/teacher and you are ignoring that and repeating the same thing to one poster who is concerned about "evidence". Stop fighting with that poster and see that most of us expect op to take this to the admin and teacher first.

I’m “fighting with” no one. We are not adolescents.

Talk to admin. Yes. Go for it.

“Reach out to The Media!” “Go blitzkrieg (massive headsnapping eyeroll) on social media?” Asinine.

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Anonymous wrote:DD's 9th grade photography teacher has a board hanging up in her classroom called "closet tears". Yesterday, DD was told by this teacher that she was going to fail her for "not trying hard enough". DD started to cry, as she HAS been trying as best she could to catch up, but the teacher refused to reduce any of the workload despite legitimate absences. DD has been very sick the second half of this year, including being in the hospital and finally getting diagnosed with an autoimmune disease a few weeks ago. The teacher told DD to walk over and put a hash mark on the "closet tears" board.

I was already livid and now I'm just in an absolute rage. She has an IEP for dyslexia, dysgraphia and slow processing speed. I contacted the school on May 24th after we got her diagnosis and asked for an IEP meeting to address her medical conditions. After several email reminders, they finally scheduled it for August 14th.

Do we have any recourse to fight the failing grade? And the teacher bullying her students by boasting about making them cry? WTF?

Oh, DD has video of the closet tears board. She took it before leaving class yesterday (last day of school).

March into the principal 's office and reach out to the media.

Oh, please. “The media” does not care.

Not the TV news but absolutely go blitzkrieg on social media.

Wow. Your absurd level of melodrama may be feeding your ego, but it definitely isn’t helping your kids.

Your need to insult the parents and protect what sounds like an abusive teacher tells us everything about you.

How ignorant and predictable of you. That tells us everything we need to know about you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

I’m not going to believe something without seeing it myself. OP might be exaggerating. OP may be misinterpreting.

I have children of my own and I have been teaching many years. I learned long ago not to believe the first thing I hear. There’s the truth, and then there’s independent interpretations of the truth.

That’s why a meeting with admin is so important. If everybody sees the video and it IS what OP claims it is, then take action against that teacher.

It’s fine to not believe her. But to make up a story of your own is not OK.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

I’m not going to believe something without seeing it myself. OP might be exaggerating. OP may be misinterpreting.

I have children of my own and I have been teaching many years. I learned long ago not to believe the first thing I hear. There’s the truth, and then there’s independent interpretations of the truth.

That’s why a meeting with admin is so important. If everybody sees the video and it IS what OP claims it is, then take action against that teacher.

It’s fine to not believe her. But to make up a story of your own is not OK.

Where has ANYBODY on this thread made up their own story? Seriously… point me to one post.

Saying “contact admin” is not making up a story. Asking for more info is not making up a story. Not believing everything I’ve been told on DCUM isn’t the same as making up a story.

So I ask again: what story?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

I’m not going to believe something without seeing it myself. OP might be exaggerating. OP may be misinterpreting.

I have children of my own and I have been teaching many years. I learned long ago not to believe the first thing I hear. There’s the truth, and then there’s independent interpretations of the truth.

That’s why a meeting with admin is so important. If everybody sees the video and it IS what OP claims it is, then take action against that teacher.

It’s fine to not believe her. But to make up a story of your own is not OK.

Where has ANYBODY on this thread made up their own story? Seriously… point me to one post.

Saying “contact admin” is not making up a story. Asking for more info is not making up a story. Not believing everything I’ve been told on DCUM isn’t the same as making up a story.

So I ask again: what story?

Oh my god lady, we get it. You've done your caping for this teacher, you're right, everyone else is wrong. We hear you. Happy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Nah, something could have been hashed out between admin and the parents. Lazy parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:This teacher sounds like a sociopath. Help get them removed from the school, op.

The Op sounds unstable. Too ready to pounce on a teacher because DC is failing.

+1

Stop making so many excuses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

I’m not going to believe something without seeing it myself. OP might be exaggerating. OP may be misinterpreting.

I have children of my own and I have been teaching many years. I learned long ago not to believe the first thing I hear. There’s the truth, and then there’s independent interpretations of the truth.

That’s why a meeting with admin is so important. If everybody sees the video and it IS what OP claims it is, then take action against that teacher.

It’s fine to not believe her. But to make up a story of your own is not OK.

Where has ANYBODY on this thread made up their own story? Seriously… point me to one post.

Saying “contact admin” is not making up a story. Asking for more info is not making up a story. Not believing everything I’ve been told on DCUM isn’t the same as making up a story.

So I ask again: what story?

The posts claiming the teacher just has a room where students can go to privately cry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

I’m not going to believe something without seeing it myself. OP might be exaggerating. OP may be misinterpreting.

I have children of my own and I have been teaching many years. I learned long ago not to believe the first thing I hear. There’s the truth, and then there’s independent interpretations of the truth.

That’s why a meeting with admin is so important. If everybody sees the video and it IS what OP claims it is, then take action against that teacher.

It’s fine to not believe her. But to make up a story of your own is not OK.

Where has ANYBODY on this thread made up their own story? Seriously… point me to one post.

Saying “contact admin” is not making up a story. Asking for more info is not making up a story. Not believing everything I’ve been told on DCUM isn’t the same as making up a story.

So I ask again: what story?

The posts claiming the teacher just has a room where students can go to privately cry.

Not a PP that you are addressing. But it is a thing to have an area for kids to have the space to get themselves together when they become disregulated. I can see similarities to the space this teacher has set up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD's 9th grade photography teacher has a board hanging up in her classroom called "closet tears". Yesterday, DD was told by this teacher that she was going to fail her for "not trying hard enough". DD started to cry, as she HAS been trying as best she could to catch up, but the teacher refused to reduce any of the workload despite legitimate absences. DD has been very sick the second half of this year, including being in the hospital and finally getting diagnosed with an autoimmune disease a few weeks ago. The teacher told DD to walk over and put a hash mark on the "closet tears" board.

I was already livid and now I'm just in an absolute rage. She has an IEP for dyslexia, dysgraphia and slow processing speed. I contacted the school on May 24th after we got her diagnosis and asked for an IEP meeting to address her medical conditions. After several email reminders, they finally scheduled it for August 14th.

Do we have any recourse to fight the failing grade? And the teacher bullying her students by boasting about making them cry? WTF?

Oh, DD has video of the closet tears board. She took it before leaving class yesterday (last day of school).

March into the principal 's office and reach out to the media.

Oh, please. “The media” does not care.

Oh yes they do.

Oh, no, they don’t. Please, “reach out to the media” (no, that is not the same thing as posting on FB, as another poster ridiculously tried to assert). When the news runs a story or the newspaper runs an article about the teacher, your kid and the cry board, OP, be sure to share the link here.

I have in the past. I've dealt with reporters more than once re issues like this. You're such a know it all and not helpful. Most posters are saying to contact the school admin/teacher and you are ignoring that and repeating the same thing to one poster who is concerned about "evidence". Stop fighting with that poster and see that most of us expect op to take this to the admin and teacher first.

I’m “fighting with” no one. We are not adolescents.

Talk to admin. Yes. Go for it.

“Reach out to The Media!” “Go blitzkrieg (massive headsnapping eyeroll) on social media?” Asinine.

Typical teacher's union asshattery.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Nah, something could have been hashed out between admin and the parents. Lazy parenting.

You are vile. This is typical character assasination and diversion from the issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the deal with your kid waiting this long to recover from the missed work?

She was hospitalized and is now adjusting to a chronic autoimmune condition. She’s been a bit busy.

Maybe but the. Why wasn’t there proactive efforts to get incompletes and extensions instead of waivers of responsibility.

But I think the real issue is what people are pointing out about gathering information before reacting. A quick google search shows that calming spaces are a real thing and considered valuable. Regulating emotions is something that is a real issue and I know my kid’s IEP addressed. My kid was in a non mainstream program and had these type of services.

And the second real issue is getting things back on track without harm - and as some have pointed out, public shaming is risky for OP’s daughter.

Does a quick google search show that a public bulletin board with names and check marks documenting when kids cry in class is also considered valuable?

But is that what the video actually shows?
Take the video to admin. Show it to them. There’s a possibility that isn’t what the board actually shows.

Several posters now have suggested this as a reasonable course of action.

That’s how the OP described it. You can choose not to believe her, but I don't know why you're making something else up.

I’m not going to believe something without seeing it myself. OP might be exaggerating. OP may be misinterpreting.

I have children of my own and I have been teaching many years. I learned long ago not to believe the first thing I hear. There’s the truth, and then there’s independent interpretations of the truth.

That’s why a meeting with admin is so important. If everybody sees the video and it IS what OP claims it is, then take action against that teacher.

It’s fine to not believe her. But to make up a story of your own is not OK.

Where has ANYBODY on this thread made up their own story? Seriously… point me to one post.

Saying “contact admin” is not making up a story. Asking for more info is not making up a story. Not believing everything I’ve been told on DCUM isn’t the same as making up a story.

So I ask again: what story?

The posts claiming the teacher just has a room where students can go to privately cry.

I’m not that PP, but how is that a story? Isn’t that merely a suggestion, a way that OP may be misinterpreting? It may be no more correct than this cry board.

Talking with admin about the video would clear this up. Has that happened yet?

[Anonymous]

I feel for this kid. She’s dealing with chronic LDs and a now a chronic immuno condition and one of the (trusted ?) adults in her life treated her with so little compassion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel for this kid. She’s dealing with chronic LDs and a now a chronic immuno condition and one of the (trusted ?) adults in her life treated her with so little compassion.

Don’t coddle DC. There was a whole quarter to talk about accommodations, if it is warranted. Do not wait until the final day of school to complain that DC earned an F.