Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these people are nutters. My husband and I shared a room with my brother and his wife once on a trip to Disney (all of us in our 20s) and it was perfectly fine, with no funny business. I vote all the kids in one room, boys in one bed and the sisters in another.

The kind of nutter thag goes to Disney in their 20s probably doesn’t get up to much funny business at the bedt of times, I suspect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.

Do you always let your kids run your life? Ridiculous. If they can't afford a third room, parents definitely get their own and all kids share. If the BF isn't comfortable with this he shouldn't go.

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

[Anonymous]

Ask them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If you can’t afford enough hotel rooms to make people feel comfortable on the vacation, you can’t afford the “vacation.” Three rooms or don’t go. Just no. YOU are the crazy ILs everyone complains about, and you’re not even ILs yet!!!

You sound like a lunatic. We went to Europe last summer with two kids and our son's GF. Our hotel was $1100/night. We got two rooms with our two DS and one GF in one room. Our kids were appreciative, not complaining. We have plenty of money but getting a third room would have been wasting it.

Well, you could've saved more by staying home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these people are nutters. My husband and I shared a room with my brother and his wife once on a trip to Disney (all of us in our 20s) and it was perfectly fine, with no funny business. I vote all the kids in one room, boys in one bed and the sisters in another.

Weird.

[Anonymous]

For OP, if money is that tight and you can't instead go somewhere more affordable then just divide by gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.

Do you always let your kids run your life? Ridiculous. If they can't afford a third room, parents definitely get their own and all kids share. If the BF isn't comfortable with this he shouldn't go.

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

Can they do

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad, Other bed: brother

Room 2: One bed: Sister + Sister, Other bed: boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All these people are nutters. My husband and I shared a room with my brother and his wife once on a trip to Disney (all of us in our 20s) and it was perfectly fine, with no funny business. I vote all the kids in one room, boys in one bed and the sisters in another.

Weird.

I agree - very strange! You want dd's boyfriend to sleep in the same bed as her highschool brother? My dd has travelled with friends and they have shared beds like that, 4 to a room, but this is different. Didn't op already say her ds will be uncomfortable with these options?

We vacation with our adult son and daughter with their significant others, also one toddler. We have 3 rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.

Do you always let your kids run your life? Ridiculous. If they can't afford a third room, parents definitely get their own and all kids share. If the BF isn't comfortable with this he shouldn't go.

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

Can they do

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad, Other bed: brother

Room 2: One bed: Sister + Sister, Other bed: boyfriend

Why not put BF with parents to supervise and put three siblings in one room.

[Anonymous]

After reading all suggestions, Airbnb/hotel suit with living room (where BF can at least have sofa bed to himself) sounds like an only practical solution.

[Anonymous]

Optimal solution would be having three bedrooms, each with two beds so all six people have their own beds and three bathrooms to make travel more pleasant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.

Do you always let your kids run your life? Ridiculous. If they can't afford a third room, parents definitely get their own and all kids share. If the BF isn't comfortable with this he shouldn't go.

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

Can they do

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad, Other bed: brother

Room 2: One bed: Sister + Sister, Other bed: boyfriend

Why not put BF with parents to supervise and put three siblings in one room.

I'm sure that would be a fun vacation for boyfriend and parents!

[Anonymous]

In a few years the family will be wondering why dd and her boyfriend don't vacation with them anymore...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Why can’t all the kids share a room and you and DH get your own room. Your DD and her boyfriend will just have to abstain from having sex in the hotel room.

This is what we did. I can't even imagine telling my DH we were going to share a room with our other kids so that DD and boyfriend could have their own room. LOL.

+100 My DH ain’t about to forego vacation sex so our son or daughter could have it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask them

+1