Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking about this with my therapist. I get very very irritated by ppl showing off on social - especially if the showing off is not subtle or ‘well disguised’. It’s partly that I work in marketing (so it annoys me professionally) but like - next level. Case in point - when people tag business class lounges in social media posts. I travel often and usually biz class but I would never ever ever do this. Curious if anyone else finds this type of thing vvvv annoying?
If you do not find it annoying - no need to comment. Really just interested to hear from anyone who does. I would love figure out why I am so triggered and thus move past this

Only wanting to hear from ppl who feel the same way (triggered by social media) speaks volumes.

You aren’t open to hearing from others who don’t have that issue/don’t struggle with navigating such things…and it’s precisely those folks who have a better approach or coping mechanisms.

How do you expect to change your reaction…which is literally what you need to do…and the only thing you have control over…when you don’t/won’t engage with folks with a different viewpoint or skill set?

^^^
That’s the real issue you need to work on: recognizing that your opinion and your feelings aren’t really the be all end all. Others matter, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not your job to judge others. Doing so reveals more about you than the person you judging. If you can’t scroll past a post without judging someone, regardless of what their intention was then perhaps it’s time to take a break from social media until you can work through your own insecurities with your therapist. Confident, mentally stable adults are not triggered by these sorts of things.

Confident mentally stable adults read the post before judging themselves.
Op’s whole point was they are already working with therapist

I am not confident by any means but never care about the showing off. Good for them, I guess. I think for me it's a bit of a subculture that I am not interested in. The only thing semi-annoying is being somewhere lovely and seeing people spend the whole time setting up a shot but I figure we enjoy things differently.

[Anonymous]

People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

[Anonymous]

The showiness bothers me because I was raised to not be showy. So something about it really bothers. My kids are now teens and the braggy parents bother me. You will not be surprised to learn that one of my children has not had such an easy time of it. So it is about me and my reaction. I’ve unfollowed so much in the last year. I see lots of cute puppies and recipes. But occasionally something comes through that stings and I take a couple weeks off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I initially thought of it just as bragging but over time, and when an acquaintance posted 20 photos of her picking up her new X5, I realized it’s kind of sad. Like this is such a special experience they though was worthy of sharing. I get that some people use it as a memory album but the Amex Ex lounge and a new car are not things to remember unless there was something funny or unusual about it. Got your first new car at age 55 after driving a beater without a window for 5 years? Funny and also a big deal - we can be happy for you! In the lounge because of a historic weather event and grateful to sleep in a chair after a pretty drink? Ok, lemons out of lemonade.

As a frequent traveler prepandemic, I loved the lounges. Sitting in a comfortable chair in mostly quiet in the moments after TSA and pre boarding? Bliss. But I agree nothing anyone else cares about or something I need to remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never post on social media because it doesn't interest me. (I also don't scroll through it for the same reason.) That said, I think you ARE jealous. Not that the person is flying in business class. But that the person doesn't mind telling the world. I think you'd actually sort of like to do it. But you're plagued with self-consciousness and self-doubt and can't bring yourself to live the same way. It grinds your gears that they don't experience the self-consciousness you do.

DP, I’m not OP, but in my life and family, this really rings true. Thanks writing that.

[Anonymous]

No lol I don’t give a shit what others have or do at all. The people who post are either happy or trying to impress others. But I don’t care either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking about this with my therapist. I get very very irritated by ppl showing off on social - especially if the showing off is not subtle or ‘well disguised’. It’s partly that I work in marketing (so it annoys me professionally) but like - next level. Case in point - when people tag business class lounges in social media posts. I travel often and usually biz class but I would never ever ever do this. Curious if anyone else finds this type of thing vvvv annoying?
If you do not find it annoying - no need to comment. Really just interested to hear from anyone who does. I would love figure out why I am so triggered and thus move past this

Only wanting to hear from ppl who feel the same way (triggered by social media) speaks volumes.

You aren’t open to hearing from others who don’t have that issue/don’t struggle with navigating such things…and it’s precisely those folks who have a better approach or coping mechanisms.

How do you expect to change your reaction…which is literally what you need to do…and the only thing you have control over…when you don’t/won’t engage with folks with a different viewpoint or skill set?

^^^
That’s the real issue you need to work on: recognizing that your opinion and your feelings aren’t really the be all end all. Others matter, too.

DP, I don't agree with the bolded above. She wasn't asking for validation, she was asking about experiences from others who feel the same way so she can figure out WHY she's so triggered. She already knows its not the desired reaction from seeing someone's social media, that's why shes working with her therapist about it.

[Anonymous]

Op sounds jealous that what people post isn’t what she has. Very insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op sounds jealous that what people post isn’t what she has. Very insecure.

Gosh, if only there were a way to monetize that phenomenon. Oh, wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I initially thought of it just as bragging but over time, and when an acquaintance posted 20 photos of her picking up her new X5, I realized it’s kind of sad. Like this is such a special experience they though was worthy of sharing. I get that some people use it as a memory album but the Amex Ex lounge and a new car are not things to remember unless there was something funny or unusual about it. Got your first new car at age 55 after driving a beater without a window for 5 years? Funny and also a big deal - we can be happy for you! In the lounge because of a historic weather event and grateful to sleep in a chair after a pretty drink? Ok, lemons out of lemonade.

As a frequent traveler prepandemic, I loved the lounges. Sitting in a comfortable chair in mostly quiet in the moments after TSA and pre boarding? Bliss. But I agree nothing anyone else cares about or something I need to remember.

The lounges are great! But posting a photo of every connection with your drink tagged in the “platinum lounge” or whatever is a bit cringe. I have one acquaintance who does this for every trip. I have another who often posts her red eye, cheap seats experiences with humor. And when that person posted about treated herself to first class, we all enjoyed it for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking about this with my therapist. I get very very irritated by ppl showing off on social - especially if the showing off is not subtle or ‘well disguised’. It’s partly that I work in marketing (so it annoys me professionally) but like - next level. Case in point - when people tag business class lounges in social media posts. I travel often and usually biz class but I would never ever ever do this. Curious if anyone else finds this type of thing vvvv annoying?
If you do not find it annoying - no need to comment. Really just interested to hear from anyone who does. I would love figure out why I am so triggered and thus move past this

No. Because I know, from the people around me, that people only post the high points of their life. Lots of the folks I know who do stuff like this are dealing with other things they would never post. Let them have their win, as I scroll on by without a thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I initially thought of it just as bragging but over time, and when an acquaintance posted 20 photos of her picking up her new X5, I realized it’s kind of sad. Like this is such a special experience they though was worthy of sharing. I get that some people use it as a memory album but the Amex Ex lounge and a new car are not things to remember unless there was something funny or unusual about it. Got your first new car at age 55 after driving a beater without a window for 5 years? Funny and also a big deal - we can be happy for you! In the lounge because of a historic weather event and grateful to sleep in a chair after a pretty drink? Ok, lemons out of lemonade.

As a frequent traveler prepandemic, I loved the lounges. Sitting in a comfortable chair in mostly quiet in the moments after TSA and pre boarding? Bliss. But I agree nothing anyone else cares about or something I need to remember.

The lounges are great! But posting a photo of every connection with your drink tagged in the “platinum lounge” or whatever is a bit cringe. I have one acquaintance who does this for every trip. I have another who often posts her red eye, cheap seats experiences with humor. And when that person posted about treated herself to first class, we all enjoyed it for her.

So some people use social media posts to judge others? You root for/cheer for certain people while judging/labeling/criticizing others?

Sounds like typical mean girl/human behavior of miserable, insecure people.