Movie blow up - WWYD?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 13 and my husband treats her like this. If she's not quite getting a piece of a movie we're watching at home, she'll want to pause to make sure she's understanding and my husband will be all, "Larla!!!! Come on!." Yet when he wants to make a comment, we're supposed to be all attentive.

I also need captioning. I suddenly lost hearing in one ear last ear and I cannot hear the television properly. He hates it and keeps turning it off, but then expects me to watch tv with him. Nope. Captioning on or no television. Otherwise I'm literally just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. That might be fun for him but it sure isn't for me.

I fully believe for a host of reasons he's on the spectrum and has never been diagnosed. But we walk on eggshells around him, placating him left and right when my teen daughter just wants to watch a movie with us. It's heartbreaking really. So my daughter and I tend to watch by ourselves and let him go watch Yellowstone and Ozark.

Sounds like neither of you wants to compromise on captioning. Your way or the highway. But you've decided he's wrong and you're right.

Because she is right. If you don’t need the captions, don’t read them. Simple.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 13 and my husband treats her like this. If she's not quite getting a piece of a movie we're watching at home, she'll want to pause to make sure she's understanding and my husband will be all, "Larla!!!! Come on!." Yet when he wants to make a comment, we're supposed to be all attentive.

I also need captioning. I suddenly lost hearing in one ear last ear and I cannot hear the television properly. He hates it and keeps turning it off, but then expects me to watch tv with him. Nope. Captioning on or no television. Otherwise I'm literally just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. That might be fun for him but it sure isn't for me.

I fully believe for a host of reasons he's on the spectrum and has never been diagnosed. But we walk on eggshells around him, placating him left and right when my teen daughter just wants to watch a movie with us. It's heartbreaking really. So my daughter and I tend to watch by ourselves and let him go watch Yellowstone and Ozark.

Sounds like neither of you wants to compromise on captioning. Your way or the highway. But you've decided he's wrong and you're right.

This is ridiculous. If someone needs captioning because they need it, then so be it. Count your blessings that you don't need it.

Well you could be blind too, so count your blessings!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 13 and my husband treats her like this. If she's not quite getting a piece of a movie we're watching at home, she'll want to pause to make sure she's understanding and my husband will be all, "Larla!!!! Come on!." Yet when he wants to make a comment, we're supposed to be all attentive.

I also need captioning. I suddenly lost hearing in one ear last ear and I cannot hear the television properly. He hates it and keeps turning it off, but then expects me to watch tv with him. Nope. Captioning on or no television. Otherwise I'm literally just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. That might be fun for him but it sure isn't for me.

I fully believe for a host of reasons he's on the spectrum and has never been diagnosed. But we walk on eggshells around him, placating him left and right when my teen daughter just wants to watch a movie with us. It's heartbreaking really. So my daughter and I tend to watch by ourselves and let him go watch Yellowstone and Ozark.

Sounds like neither of you wants to compromise on captioning. Your way or the highway. But you've decided he's wrong and you're right.

This is ridiculous. If someone needs captioning because they need it, then so be it. Count your blessings that you don't need it.

Well you could be blind too, so count your blessings!

This is so incredibly rude. The ableism shown here is sick. Captions are there so people who can’t hear or have processing disorders can enjoy a movie. What the OP’s husband was asking them to do. What is the matter with you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 13 and my husband treats her like this. If she's not quite getting a piece of a movie we're watching at home, she'll want to pause to make sure she's understanding and my husband will be all, "Larla!!!! Come on!." Yet when he wants to make a comment, we're supposed to be all attentive.

I also need captioning. I suddenly lost hearing in one ear last ear and I cannot hear the television properly. He hates it and keeps turning it off, but then expects me to watch tv with him. Nope. Captioning on or no television. Otherwise I'm literally just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. That might be fun for him but it sure isn't for me.

I fully believe for a host of reasons he's on the spectrum and has never been diagnosed. But we walk on eggshells around him, placating him left and right when my teen daughter just wants to watch a movie with us. It's heartbreaking really. So my daughter and I tend to watch by ourselves and let him go watch Yellowstone and Ozark.

Sounds like neither of you wants to compromise on captioning. Your way or the highway. But you've decided he's wrong and you're right.

This is ridiculous. If someone needs captioning because they need it, then so be it. Count your blessings that you don't need it.

Well you could be blind too, so count your blessings!

And I’m sure you would criticize a blind person for wanting to watch a movie with audio description.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

So what if he already saw it. The adult children hadn’t and were talking over it and asking questions instead of watching the movie to get there answer. Also the daughter doesn’t need captions so not sure what the mom is throwing a fit about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 13 and my husband treats her like this. If she's not quite getting a piece of a movie we're watching at home, she'll want to pause to make sure she's understanding and my husband will be all, "Larla!!!! Come on!." Yet when he wants to make a comment, we're supposed to be all attentive.

I also need captioning. I suddenly lost hearing in one ear last ear and I cannot hear the television properly. He hates it and keeps turning it off, but then expects me to watch tv with him. Nope. Captioning on or no television. Otherwise I'm literally just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. That might be fun for him but it sure isn't for me.

I fully believe for a host of reasons he's on the spectrum and has never been diagnosed. But we walk on eggshells around him, placating him left and right when my teen daughter just wants to watch a movie with us. It's heartbreaking really. So my daughter and I tend to watch by ourselves and let him go watch Yellowstone and Ozark.

Sounds like neither of you wants to compromise on captioning. Your way or the highway. But you've decided he's wrong and you're right.

This is ridiculous. If someone needs captioning because they need it, then so be it. Count your blessings that you don't need it.

Well you could be blind too, so count your blessings!

This is so incredibly rude. The ableism shown here is sick. Captions are there so people who can’t hear or have processing disorders can enjoy a movie. What the OP’s husband was asking them to do. What is the matter with you?

But OP's husband doesn't enjoy the movie with captions. It's distracting. His enjoyment matters too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

Sometimes on a rewatch you can catch things you missed the first time. But not if others around you can't shut their traps.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 13 and my husband treats her like this. If she's not quite getting a piece of a movie we're watching at home, she'll want to pause to make sure she's understanding and my husband will be all, "Larla!!!! Come on!." Yet when he wants to make a comment, we're supposed to be all attentive.

I also need captioning. I suddenly lost hearing in one ear last ear and I cannot hear the television properly. He hates it and keeps turning it off, but then expects me to watch tv with him. Nope. Captioning on or no television. Otherwise I'm literally just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. That might be fun for him but it sure isn't for me.

I fully believe for a host of reasons he's on the spectrum and has never been diagnosed. But we walk on eggshells around him, placating him left and right when my teen daughter just wants to watch a movie with us. It's heartbreaking really. So my daughter and I tend to watch by ourselves and let him go watch Yellowstone and Ozark.

Sounds like neither of you wants to compromise on captioning. Your way or the highway. But you've decided he's wrong and you're right.

This is ridiculous. If someone needs captioning because they need it, then so be it. Count your blessings that you don't need it.

Well you could be blind too, so count your blessings!

This is so incredibly rude. The ableism shown here is sick. Captions are there so people who can’t hear or have processing disorders can enjoy a movie. What the OP’s husband was asking them to do. What is the matter with you?

But OP's husband doesn't enjoy the movie with captions. It's distracting. His enjoyment matters too.

He’s the one who wanted to “share it” with them. He’s seen it, wants to show it to someone who needs captioning, but only without the captioning because HE likes it better that way, screw their enjoyment? But I demand you watch this with me? And when you’re confused because there’s no captioning I’m now going to yell at you about it? That makes sense to you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

Sometimes on a rewatch you can catch things you missed the first time. But not if others around you can't shut their traps.

Guess how else you catch things on rewatch? Captions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

Sometimes on a rewatch you can catch things you missed the first time. But not if others around you can't shut their traps.

Guess how else you catch things on rewatch? Captions.

Not all things, some people actually watch background, scenery, facial emotions, etc. But you wouldn't know that if you're just reading along the whole time or talking out loud. You miss a lot. Why bother at all?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

Sometimes on a rewatch you can catch things you missed the first time. But not if others around you can't shut their traps.

Guess how else you catch things on rewatch? Captions.

Not all things, some people actually watch background, scenery, facial emotions, etc. But you wouldn't know that if you're just reading along the whole time or talking out loud. You miss a lot. Why bother at all?

Well, in this case they bothered to accommodate their shithead of a father. I doubt they'll make that mistake again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

Sometimes on a rewatch you can catch things you missed the first time. But not if others around you can't shut their traps.

Guess how else you catch things on rewatch? Captions.

Not all things, some people actually watch background, scenery, facial emotions, etc. But you wouldn't know that if you're just reading along the whole time or talking out loud. You miss a lot. Why bother at all?

What’s stopping him from noticing scenery or facial emotions while people are talking or reading captions?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You and the kids are super high maintenance. Just watch the movie - like you are in a theatre.. No barking stupid questions. Just watch the movie.

No. Her husband needs to grow up. His temper tantrum about a stupid movie isn’t appropriate behavior for anyone over seven years old.

Nor are the "adults" who have no idea how to sit and watch a movie. I would never watch a movie with any of them again. Maybe the DH because he seems the most normal in this dysfunctional bunch. The rest can't figure out how to appropriately watch a movie at their advanced ages. Do the adult kids in question have a social life or friends? Because this is pretty alienating behavior. The DH is probably disappointed that something so simple is impossible in this household.

I’m very sorry that you’ve somehow reached adulthood without understanding this, but there are no rules about “how to sit and watch a movie” in your own home.

I'm pretty sure talking nonstop over the dialogues is universally rude behavior when people are actually trying to listen. Sounds like OP encourages it though.

I might agree with you if OP’s husband hadn’t already seen the movie and knew exactly what was going to happen.

Sometimes on a rewatch you can catch things you missed the first time. But not if others around you can't shut their traps.

Guess how else you catch things on rewatch? Captions.

Not all things, some people actually watch background, scenery, facial emotions, etc. But you wouldn't know that if you're just reading along the whole time or talking out loud. You miss a lot. Why bother at all?

What’s stopping him from noticing scenery or facial emotions while people are talking or reading captions?

Because on a rewatch you may catch what you missed the first time. Does it really need to be spelled out? Why can't the adults just shut up and listen so they wouldn't need to read it? If he can do all that, then they can listen better and close their mouths. But apparently that's too much to ask of some adults. It's pretty clear they were just trying to be jerks and make it as miserable as possible as a "favor" to their dad. No wonder he left the room.