What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of nasty people so many of you are.

What is the lesser of two evils- being delusional or being nasty?

I'm neither, you however are nasty.

Well, you might not be delusional or nasty, but you are triggered. Amirite?

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Anonymous wrote:Look at this board. Full of women saying they look 15 years younger.

Not me. I’m 55. I look like a woman in her 50s. I’m slim and very fit. I try to dress well. I look put together. I think (hope) that I am still attractive. But I’m not delusional. I’m 55 and loving it! No desire to look young.

See this is good self esteem. Chasing one’s youth and being delusional about it isn’t good self esteem. You, PP, have a good sense of self and I hope I’m like you in ten years.

I think that pp is pretty delusional as well

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look at this board. Full of women saying they look 15 years younger.

Not me. I’m 55. I look like a woman in her 50s. I’m slim and very fit. I try to dress well. I look put together. I think (hope) that I am still attractive. But I’m not delusional. I’m 55 and loving it! No desire to look young.

See this is good self esteem. Chasing one’s youth and being delusional about it isn’t good self esteem. You, PP, have a good sense of self and I hope I’m like you in ten years.

I think that pp is pretty delusional as well

Do you even know what delusional means ? Now you are just on here typing goofy shit for the sake of hearing your keyboard go clickity-clack.

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It’s denial, and perhaps fear of aging. No one wants to age much less admit that it’s happening to you. It’s a hard pill to swallow so they insist that it’s not happening to them.

I’ve never met a woman 40+ who didn’t look 40+. Skin doesn’t lie. You might look good for your age but I promise you, GenX and Boomers, no one thinks your Gen Z or Millennial. No one. And I say this as a GenXer.

I’m 43, and own it. Ain’t no going back, ladies

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Anonymous wrote:Is it hurting you? No? Then who cares.

People are criminally offended when women actually like and value themselves. You never see equivalent threads about why women have such low self-esteem.

I see a problem with with the idea that looking younger, men hitting on them, etc. means these women like and value themselves. It equates a woman's worth with male attention and looking young. I get it, I'm 39 and have an extensive anti-aging skincare routine, but the whole thing is messed up.

This. Succinct, astute, honest.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s denial, and perhaps fear of aging. No one wants to age much less admit that it’s happening to you. It’s a hard pill to swallow so they insist that it’s not happening to them.

I’ve never met a woman 40+ who didn’t look 40+. Skin doesn’t lie. You might look good for your age but I promise you, GenX and Boomers, no one thinks your Gen Z or Millennial. No one. And I say this as a GenXer.

I’m 43, and own it. Ain’t no going back, ladies

Interesting that the 40-somethings on the thread are more accepting of the ageing reality than the 50-somethings being discussed. In fairness, I wonder if early 40s' acceptance of it is "easier" because the harsh reality hasn't set in yet? 43 is still pretty different from 53.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it hurting you? No? Then who cares.

People are criminally offended when women actually like and value themselves. You never see equivalent threads about why women have such low self-esteem.

+1

[Anonymous]

53 here and not pretending to be anything but 53.
My colleagues are mostly younger than I am. There is nothing more pathetic than an older person pretending to be young. My kids definitely would be mortified.

I am guessing OPs friends don't have kids nor work with kids fresh out of college.

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Anonymous wrote:Some have really hood self esteem. Is that a crime? Im 46 and look maybe 10 years younger, except when my grays show.

No, you don’t.

[Anonymous]

If their experience is that people mistake them for being younger, and they are getting hit on, who are you to tell them they are wrong?

- I look my age

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does it even mean to look a particular age? What does 36 look like, or 44, or 58? Is there some standard look for a specific age that we can compare to?

And when people say someone looks great for their age, what do they mean? When I personally say it, I usually mean that someone looks younger than the age I know them to be. Do other people have a different meaning for that phrase?

Very interesting that no one seems to have a comment on this post. The reality is that no one can answer these questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on ladies, let us be! I found my best self at 50 and have never had a healthier (if delusional, so be it) self esteem. I love my life and have never felt better about myself. I’ happy to my core! The difference between 25 and 50 is . . . I truly don’t give a flying eff what other people think and I surround myself with friends who make each other feel terrific about themselves. Ah youth, it’s truly wasted on the young.

Me too! Loving my 50s - and here's the thing - I'm happy with how I look and feel - I don't care if I look "young", I'm just proud that I'm fit, active, wear cute clothes and don't feel or look tired and old. You are as old as you feel and think OP.....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does it even mean to look a particular age? What does 36 look like, or 44, or 58? Is there some standard look for a specific age that we can compare to?

And when people say someone looks great for their age, what do they mean? When I personally say it, I usually mean that someone looks younger than the age I know them to be. Do other people have a different meaning for that phrase?

Very interesting that no one seems to have a comment on this post. The reality is that no one can answer these questions.

I have no problem answering the question.

To me the phrase means you are very well put together at the age you are. You dress nicely, your hair looks great, you take care of your skin. You’re trying. It doesn’t mean you don’t look your own age.

[Anonymous]

I'm 56 and have no idea if I look my age. I think my friends look younger than their age. No one talks about it.

[Anonymous]

Oh it's another tear women down thread. At least these women who think they look good exude some positive energy in the presence of so much negativity.